TODAY | September 18, 2013
>>> real housewives of new jersey, melissa gorga has been in her hot scenes on the set.
>> and knows how to keep it hot with her husband. "love italian style."
>> what made you want to put all this in writing?
>> you can't hide through the cameras and being on a reality show, i think joe and i get approached all the time about our marriage. and how we keep it fresh and playful. we have a lot of respect for one another and i think it shines through. i decided to write it down.
>> is that an everyday -- when you guys argue, which every -- every couple does, what do you argue about?
>> i think there's a bit of mixed conception with joe and i that we never argue. we do argue. we argue a lot and we argued a lot the first three to five years of marriage. i feel like everybody argues a lot the first three to five --
>> did you get it out of your system?
>> yes. you need to get through those first couple of years to make it better. you need to hold on, keep it going .
>> i think people just -- the minute things aren't going well, you get a hang nail . bye-bye.
>> exactly. it's really hard in the beginning. it's a big ego. i was a very independent girl when i met joe . italian guy. he wants you to be home.
>> you've taken that role on a little bit. how has that been for you?
>> it was difficult.
>> thank you. i love my kids.
>> and they're all joe 's?
>> they're all joe 's.
>> i have to ask.
>> we've been through our struggles and it's a fun read, too. we're talking about how women don't poop.
>> they don't what?
>> my husband thinks i don't poop.
>> shut the door. why do we have to talk about that?
>> there are a lot of fun reads that --
>> save a little mystery?
>> save a little mystery.
>> you dress up special for him some nights?
>> i do.
>> you get dressed when comes home?
>> with three kids it's difficult. i try to. i make the effort. he makes the effort. i try to do things that make him want to come home at night.
>> now he has been going through a family crisis along with his brother, theresa .
>> his sister, right.
>> theresa is his sister?
>> theresa is his sister.
>> how is the family dealing with all of that drama?
>> much better. we're in a much better place .
>> what's going on with theresa and her husband? i haven't read the latest. what's the story?
>> they're just trying to get through everything that's going on right now and just being strong, i guess.
>> court dates and all that ahead, is that right?
>> i believe so.
>> we wish you good luck with your book.
>> thank you.
>> what are you wearing tonight?
>> listen, it doesn't happen every night, but i try. i try to put things on that --
>> i think that's the key to it. your desire is to make it special, keep it fresh.
>> i want him to come home. i put the tight yoga pants on as opposed to the baggy sweat pants , things that men want to see. they're visual.
>> that's what i'm doing wrong.