Get the latest from TODAY
I started matchmaking via intuition at the age of 20, and since then, have coached thousands of singles of all ages at my Smart Dating Academy to find happy love. We are thrilled to have zero splits or divorces, keeping in mind most divorces happen within the first seven years of marriage. I'm about to celebrate 20 years with my husband in May.
There are many red flags and green flags in the beginning of relationships that we tune into when advising clients. However, there is ONE word that I hear and know my client has met "the one."
What is that magic word? EASY.
Yes, easy. Not that kind of easy, but easy as in, "low drama." I hear all sorts of iterations of this: "I never knew a relationship could be so easy. It just works."
Another version: "We just flow — there is no drama, and it is easy."
Easy means you're not worried about if or when he will call again, and you're not stressing or discussing with your friends what a text means. Easy means he doesn't ghost for days or throw you bread crumbs. Easy doesn't leave you wondering.
A good relationship or marriage requires work along the way, believe me, but the work shouldn't be hard — leaving you exhausted and spent. Easy is the word to think about, and if you can nod your head to that about your relationship, you're most likely in good shape. If you're dating, keep the word "easy" as your mantra and you won't go wrong!
Dating coach Bela Gandhi is the founder and president of Smart Dating Academy.