Christina Milian and Nick Cannon were seen as one of Hollywood's rare wholesome couples. Then, Milian maintains, three years into their relationship she found out that the actor/rapper was being unfaithful. Milian got mad, and got even. The 24-year-old singer used music as therapy, writing her emotions in songs, many of which ended-up on her third album, “So Amazin'.” Milian sat down with Associated Press to talk about healing a broken heart, finding new love and why she is tired being compared to Beyonce.
AP: Was it therapeutic to make this album after going through the breakup?
Milian: It was extremely therapeutic for me. Really that was the point. ... I found it helped me to communicate and get it off of my mind and off of my chest and to not think about the certain issues that were going on and lurking in my brain. It helped to write about it and say I am over this guy.
AP: How difficult is it to go through a breakup in public?
Milian: When I went through the breakup, luckily I wasn't in the public (eye). That would have been the worst thing for me to have to be in front of a camera of to be faking it that I was OK... I got to handle it with my friends in private.
AP: Are you dating again?
Milian: After the heartache I have definitely moved on. I am dating right now. ... He is a really cool guy. He actually understands my career. He is more behind the scenes of the business.
AP: Would you date a celebrity again?
Milian: You know it's hard to say. I am not really attracted to the celebrity lifestyle that some of these guys like to live so I probably wouldn't date a celebrity again. But, you can't say that. You just never know what will happen.
AP: Tell me about your first single, ‘Say I.’
Milian: It's got great energy, a wonderful message. Everybody has heard me do a really sexy side with, ‘Dip it Low,’ party records like ‘AM to PM.’ This time around I think it is a combination of it all but it has a deeper message ... The message is it is about motivating yourself, empowering yourself, making it happen. I have always been very driven. I am always passing that message and that energy to other people.
AP: How important is it for you to separate yourself from other women singers such as Beyonce and Rhianna?
Milian: It has been extremely important. We all are individuals but they do like to group us into one category. So you've got to figure out what's your thing that is going to make you stand out, whether it's style of clothing, the way you dress, your vocal style. For me, I've had to set myself apart. There is always somebody they want to compare me to all the time ... which I think is ridiculous.
AP: Having been in the spotlight for 15 years, how difficult has it been to grow up with the public watching?
Milian: It hasn't been difficult for me to be the person that I am. I have never dealt with paparazzi running after me. I've always been really good about keeping a private life and then going out in front of the cameras when it is time to do that. I didn't get to do the typical things like prom and stuff like that. That was also my choice. I didn't really want to. I would have rather been working on a TV show, or a movie or an album than going to school. ... I've had a normal life and it is still very normal. When I go home, I have bunch of dogs that I have to clean up after. My sister and my mom makes sure we live a very normal lifestyle.
AP: Have you felt the pressure to be a party girl at every event?
Milian: I've never felt the pressure.... Believe me, if I wanted to, I could go out every night to every club and make sure I pop up in front of every camera on every red carpet and wear the sexiest outfits just to get attention. I prefer my celebrity not to come that way. I really prefer it to be out of my true talent. Being on stage or performing in a movie, that's more important for me. I want to get my celebrity or my name known through true art.
AP: Do you have a preference between singing and acting?
Milian: For me acting and singing go hand-in-hand. I grew-up watching a lot of the old-school actors and actresses. Back in the day, Fred Astaire, Shirley Temple, all those people, you had to do everything. You had to dance, tap, sing. You wrote songs. You act, everything. It was a group of people who did all of that. I watched a lot of that and that's where I feel I come from.
AP: Do you think fame today is more about personality than talent?
Milian: It's different. I think you go through phases where you see it is about talent. Then you go through phases where you see it is a really pop moment ... I think, at the end of the day, talent always shines through. That's always what's going to have the longevity and I think that is what is more important.