What kind men will your boys grow up to be?

I have two sons, ages 6 and 3, so I guess have a bit more time before I have to start worrying about them transforming into hormone-raging cads. But if today's world of sexting, rainbow parties, Girls Gone Wild and Tila Tequila is any indication of what's to come, I'm going to have my hands full. Friends tell me to just be happy that I have boys and not girls -- after all, it's the girls that get pressured to "go wild." Boys will be boys goes the conventional wisdom, which means it's generally up to a girl to have the self-confidence and self-esteem to create and protect boundaries in respect to her sexuality. Easier said than done. While I think it's important to teach girls how to be empowered gatekeepers of their own sexuality, I think we also have to focus on the boys. We can't just let them off the hook by saying boys will be boys. If girls often worry about how they're being seen by boys, then we need to change the way boys see. But how the heck do we do that? To be honest, if I think back 25 years to my own high school days, what would I have done if girls were doling out nude photos of themselves, kissing and grinding each other at parties and then offering oral sex like it was an after-show goodie? But that was then and this is now, and the question is how, in a culture that celebrates raunch, do we help our boys grow up into gentlemen? In my column for TODAYshow.com, "In an era of raunch, how to raise a gentleman," I came up up with a few ideas, but please share your suggestions!