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Curing your kid's 'bedtime blues' so you can both get back to sleep!

From Positive Parenting Solutions founder and TODAYMoms.com contributor, Amy McCreadyIs this just a stage or something that should be fixed?-Do bedtime issues negatively impact time or intimacy with your partner?-Do you feel sleep deprived or irritable during the day?-Do you dread the bedtime routine? If the answer is “yes” to any of the questions, it’s time to address the "bedtime blues!" W

From Positive Parenting Solutions founder and TODAYMoms.com contributor, Amy McCreadyIs this just a stage or something that should be fixed?

-Do bedtime issues negatively impact time or intimacy with your partner?

-Do you feel sleep deprived or irritable during the day?

-Do you dread the bedtime routine? If the answer is “yes” to any of the questions, it’s time to address the "bedtime blues!" Why do kids battle us at bedtime?

Assuming the child is physically and emotionally healthy, “bedtime blues” are usually a result of the following problems:

  • Not enough positive attention during the day. If parents don’t fill the child’s attention basket with enough positive attention during the day, they’ll use the bedtime routine as a way to get attention and keep parents busy with them longer. It makes perfect sense from your child’s perspective. In his mind, he thinks…
  • Inconsistent routines and getting kids to bed too late. Inconsistent routines, especially at “lights out” time, are a major contributor to nighttime battles. If bedtime varies from night to night, kids don’t get into a consistent sleep pattern. “Lights out” time should also be consistent between weekdays and weekends. Their bodies don’t know the difference between a Tuesday night and a Saturday night and varying the “lights out” time contributes to bedtime battles.

The first steps for correcting bedtime battles: Fill the attention basket.Implement a consistent bedtime routine.Practice the new routine.It’s show time:Plan B:The issues and suggestions in this article represent just some of the challenges presented by parents and a few of the strategies to correct "Bedtime Blues." For more information on bedtime battles and other free training resources for tantrums, power struggles, whining, morning dawdling and more, visit: www.positiveparentingsolutions.comAmy McCready is the founder of Positive Parenting Solutions and mom to two boys, ages 12 and 14. Positive Parenting Solutions teaches parents of toddlers to teens how to correct misbehaviors permanently without nagging, reminding or yelling.Have any secrets for creating a sane sleep schedule in your house? Share them below.Related stories:Battling backtalk: 5 tips every parent needs