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Can we do it all without judging each other?

From Mika Brzezinski, msnbc anchor and author of "All Things At Once" On msnbc's "Morning Joe," we pride ourselves in a meaningful, thought-provoking, peaceful dialogue. It's a "no-judge" zone, meaning we bring different voices together to celebrate the conversation and learn together. Its the same concept I am hoping to put forward with my book, "All Things at Once." In it, I write about the

From Mika Brzezinski, msnbc anchor and author of "All Things At Once" On msnbc's "Morning Joe," we pride ourselves in a meaningful, thought-provoking, peaceful dialogue. It's a "no-judge" zone, meaning we bring different voices together to celebrate the conversation and learn together. Its the same concept I am hoping to put forward with my book, "All Things at Once." In it, I write about the choices I have made in life pertaining to marriage, children and career. Not all of them have been the best choices and some of them are embarrassing for me to share. They include a devastating accident with my baby daughter after I pushed too hard and too fast at work. And why my husband and I actually chose to ramp up on my career rather than give up on it in light of the accident. I talk about getting fired, being out of work and struggling to admit to myself that I missed work terribly. That being "at home" was not for me. How somehow, my life as a journalist was so intertwined with who I am as a mother and a wife, that functioning without that added challenge was disorienting. I talk about my mother's ability to have "all things at once" and how she did that in a generation less suited to the choices she made. I knew the book would be a risk. In fact, many high-profile women, thought leaders in Washington, New York and Boston, urged me upon reading the first draft, to not release the book. But you can’t have a dialogue without being truly honest and putting yourself out there. Which I did. What I want women to think about is where we go from here in this discussion. Can it be a good discussion? Can we do it without judging each other? The reaction to the book has been amazing. The New York Times’ review was wonderful and Elle, Glamour and More magazines have recognized the value of my honesty. But go online, and the conversation on parenting Web sites and other similar outlets, goes wild. I am called "disgusting" and "blinded by ambition" and my children apparently are doomed. Part of this is to the nature of the Internet beast. But I did notice that most of the vitriol has come from women. Especially to my comments about embracing the concept of marriage and children at a younger age than 35. Wow! The reaction to this was searing, defensive and coarse. I challenge all of us to question why we do this to each other. Why does the conversation degenerate when it comes to issues of parenting, marriage and work? There are gains to be made for women in the workforce -- salaries are still far from equal with men. And some glass ceilings need to be broken. But I think our biggest problem as we move forward may be with each other. Let's change that. Related stories: