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I share my life with a rescued German Shepherd named Trista. I take her everywhere with me, on trips across the country involving boat ferries, horse-drawn carriages, motels and shops that allow dogs and, of course, sidewalk cafés.
She can go so many places with me precisely because she is a pleasure to be with and around: She lies quietly beside me, bothers no one by soliciting attention or making noise, tolerates the unexpected with grace, and is happy just to be included. Our relationship is deepened by the mutual respect we have and because we can share so much together.
The principles I used to prepare for our lives out in the world together were simple: when I’m walking, she’s walking (loose-leash); when I’m standing, she’s sitting; and when I’m sitting, she’s lying down.
I want to help you to shape the kind of relationship with your canine companion that I have with Trista. For you to do so, practice the steps outlined below. Practice everywhere: at home, in the yard, in parks and sidewalk cafés. While the first stages will require frequent food rewards to keep your dog attentive and working, gradually space out the treats and rely more on verbal encouragement as she becomes more consistent.
OK, let’s get started!
“With me!” (a casual heel): While heel is an exercise of strict attention and position, “with me!” simply means that your dog should remain close at your side, with a casual attitude.
Start by giving your dog the command “with me” and slapping your left leg with your hand (assuming you’re keeping her on your left side). Keep up a dialogue with her, telling her how good she is when in the right position and giving her treats. If she should lag, slap your leg and offer encouragement in a high, happy voice. Give her a treat when she reaches your side. If she gets out in front of you, say “this way,” turn around and walk in the opposite direction, leaving her behind you so you can again slap your thigh and encourage her to catch up to your side.
With practice, “with me” makes walking by your side a sweet spot for your dog.
Now just a few details:
- You should warehouse your treats in your right hand, use your left hand (or near hand) for treat delivery; using your right hand will lure her to cross in front of you.
- Use your hand for thigh slapping and encouragement, not for luring your dog into position. Otherwise your dog will need to see the treat in order to keep her position.
- Always treat on the move. Stopping to deliver the treat is not reinforcing moving in position but, rather, stopping.
- Remember not to use your leash to guide position. Instead, use your voice, use your hand slaps, and increase delivery of treats if your dog’s consistently leaving position. To ensure that you’re not using the leash as a crutch, start practicing inside or in a fenced-in yard, where the leash is unnecessary, and see how successfully you can keep her at your side. When first practicing out on the sidewalk, have a partner hold the leash and follow behind you as you work on motivating your pooch to walk by your side.
- Keep your practice sessions of this exercise short and positive. Too long and your dog will get distracted and drift around more, and she’ll require more frequent reinforcement to stay focused.
Meeting people on the street, an exercise in impulse control: Too often, when people stop on the street, perhaps to chat with a neighbor, their dog is left to conduct herself politely without any instruction from her handler. When things go south and the pooch gets impatient, then the treats come out as hush money. This is reinforcing the absolutely wrong behavior!
As you approach someone on the street with whom you’d like to stop and chat, stop a bit short of them, step on your leash (control position*), and ask your dog to sit. Reinforce her with little treats for sitting quietly as you chat with your neighbor. Gradually, over time, you will put greater distance between the treats until at some point you needn’t use treats at all and you won’t have to even cue the sit — she’ll have learned the appropriate behavior when stopping to visit with the neighbors.
*For control position, hold the leash’s handle in one hand, letting the middle of the leash drop to the ground. Now step on the leash at a distance from your dog so that she can sit or stand comfortably but cannot jump up.
The café-ready default-down: Start with you seated and your dog on leash and in control position if she is apt to jump up on you. Fiddle with some treats in your hand, but otherwise ignore her, studiously avoiding giving eye contact or attention, perhaps watching TV or carrying on a conversation with someone. Should your pooch go into a down (which often happens at about the time she is giving up), immediately mark the behavior with a “yes!” and give her a treat, continuing to reward at intervals. If she stands up, mark with an “uh!” and abruptly the treats stop flowing. At some point, say “OK” and stand up, allowing your dog to rise. Repeat a few times, making note of whether your dog begins to lie down sooner.
With frequent practice, the down will become a default behavior that is perfect for a canine café companion! The beauty of the default down is that your dog is taking responsibility for her own behavior rather than relying on you to monitor and instruct her politeness. This is a very effective way to build a strong down-stay.
A note: If your dog is having difficulty and getting frustrated, use the sit as an intermediate step. When this is solid, start reinforcing for the down instead.
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