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By Rheana Murray

If you're starting to think there are more dating trends than you can keep track of, you're not alone.

From breadcrumbing to zombie-ing, everyone is confused at this point. And now there's a "new" one: Rebating. Huh? The term is being used to describe when two people go out on a date, and afterward, one person lets the other know they aren't interested. Then, the presumably rejected person (who paid) submits a Venmo request to the other person for half of the cost of the date.

"It's time to grow up, people," Kathie Lee said, responding to the new term. "It's a new thing, it's called life."

In case you need a refresher, here are all the other wacky dating terms that have made their way into the modern lexicon.


Breadcrumbing is stringing a potential partner along without committing, often by sending occasional check-in text messages, but never asking for an actual date.


Breezing means being direct and saying what you want in a relationship. The opposite of following dating "rules" or playing games. Yes, this one is actually good.


Having a plan B in case your current relationship doesn't work out. Cushioning can be outright cheating on an exclusive partner, or it can be sending flirty texts to multiple people so that if one falls through, you have someone else to turn to for romance.


When you post something — say, a snapshot of your travels abroad, or a particularly sexy selfie — just so your crush will see it, according to model Matilda Dods, who coined the term. In other words, when you throw a party on the 'gram.


Ghosting is exactly what it sounds like: Disappearing without warning after a series of dates or romantic correspondences.


Presenting yourself in an overly positive light on the internet, by lying about your height or posting a photo from when you were a few years younger, for example. Kittenfishing is not as extreme as catfishing, in which someone assumes a completely fake identity online.


When someone continues to follow you, even after they've ghosted. (See above.) They'll like your Facebook posts or watch your Instagram stories, for example, but won't say anything.


Refusing to introduce the person you're dating to friends or family — sort of like stashing them in a drawer.


Jumping back into a relationship or a fling after ghosting. So, basically submarining is ... Zombie-ing. (See below.)


Hitting someone up after a long period of silence. (Or, you know, returning from the dead.) A form of breadcrumbing (see above).

This article was originally published on May 2, 2018.