Marriage can be both a source of joy and sorrows. Through ups and downs, couples can bolster their happiness by following these five tips that real life couples find work for them.
Share the housework
Research finds that couples that split household duties, including cooking, cleaning and child rearing, enjoy more sex and are happier than couples where the woman tackles "feminine" tasks and the man tackles "manly" tasks.
Lamar and Ronnie agree.
“We do everything as a team. We’re a team at work but also at home, you know with raising the kids. So teamwork has been instrumental in our marriage,” says Ronnie.
All you need is love
A majority of couples say love makes their marriages successful. Saying it to each other and remembering it can help strengthen relationships. Joel and Michael realize the importance that love plays in their marriage and celebrate it.
“I really don’t think there’s any difference between gay and straight marriage. It’s just two people who love each other and are going through life together. Marriage is marriage. Love is love,” says Joel.
Pack your bags, but not the kids
While parenting feels fulfilling, sometimes taking a break from the kids and focusing on the each other is greatly needed. It helps couples re-join and allows kids to gain some independence. Trina and George knew they needed some kid-free time away.
“We decided to start taking vacations without the kids because we knew almost immediately that it was important for us to stay connected,” George said.
Trina says the couple goes away mostly for weekend trips and the location doesn’t matter much.
“It really is about being together being exclusively together,” she says.
I want to hold your hand
Couples who hold hands with their spouses show the world that they love each other. They also provide strength, comfort, and affection to each other.
“It’s very much a sign of or a silent way of saying I love you,” says Lee, who has been married to Harry for 67 years.
Have fun together
Laugh together. Go on adventures. Play games. Share new experiences and have fun together to boost your marriage.
“I think the secret to our marriage is to be honest and open and laugh whenever we can and spend time with each other,” says Michael, who has been married to Joel for two years.