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10 signs you’re afraid of commitment

Elina Furman, author of “Kiss and Run,” tells why you may still be a single girl.
/ Source: TODAY

For years, men who had the monopoly on commitment-phobia. Not anymore. Single women are now the fastest-growing segment of the population, with over 47 single women in U.S., of which 22 million are between the ages of 24 and 44. Whatever the reasons — fear of divorce, increased financial independence, delayed motherhood — more women than ever no longer feel the urgency, or the ability, to settle down. Elina Furman, author of the new book, “Kiss and Run,” was invited on TODAY to discus female commitment anxiety. Find out if you’re afraid of commitment:

Top 10 signs you’re commitment-phobic:

  1. You have a long and elaborate list of requirements for your ideal mate.
  2. You go from one short-lived relationship to the next.
  3. You have a habit of dating "unavailable" men.
  4. You consider your married friends’ lives boring and think they settled for less.
  5. You stay in relationships that are rocky and offer little hope of commitment.
  6. You back out of plans at the last minute and have trouble setting a time for dates.
  7. You cultivate large networks of friends at the expense of a single romantic relationship.
  8. You have a lot of relationship trauma in your past.
  9. Your career is very important to you and you often choose work over relationships.
  10. You are constantly blowing “hot” and “cold” in your relationships.

Excerpted from “Kiss and Run” by Elina Furman. Copyright © 2007 by Elina Furman. All rights reserved. Published by No part of this excerpt can be used without permission of the publisher.