(By Vivian Fel, TODAY Associate Producer)
When I received my assignment about motherhood with Giada(WATCH VIDEO), I spoke to many women on the phone as I sought out a well-rounded roundtable. Some were moms with kids of all ages. Others, married women in their 30s, like Giada, who still do not have children. One married woman mentioned to me that she had assumed she would have kids by now, but didn't meet her husband until later on in life. So what is a woman to do?
I turn 30 this year, and while I don't hear my biological clock ticking just yet, it doesn't mean I don't check my watch every once in a while.
I'm single. I travel when I want. I've been hang gliding in Rio, skydiving upstate, and snowboarding in the Italian Alps. Been around the world, but have not found the one to marry.
So I wait. But not by the phone.
When I first moved to New York City, I was 22. Along with my roommates, we were schooled - or some might say, slightly obsessed – with Sex & the City episodes where glamorous life for women in their 30s and 40s was all things Cosmos and Manolos. More importantly, if you had true girlfriends, life was fabulous.
And it is. Especially in this city.
But it is not always enough. Especially in this city.
Ironically, with more than 8 million people, the feeling of loneliness can sometimes be exacerbated by the lack of connections to those who commute aside you the moment you step out of the apartment.
So when one mom in my spot, said that yes, women her age, sometimes do look at women in their 30s and question what they are waiting for, I wonder if the women who are getting married later then wait to have children? Are there repercussions? Or does it make for a more fulfilled mom?
Is this a new phenomenon? Or is this a New York phenomenon? Ladies, around the country, let us know!
My dad has this saying in Spanish, he says, "todo llega." Everything comes when it should. It's worked for me so far. The truth is we can't stop time. Nor would I want to. It's Monday and I have a party to go to tonight!!!