A Small Exercise in Civility Goes a Long Way

Published: July 25, 2007, 12:03 am

Tags: failed marriage, divorce communication, separated, talking with your ex, failed relationship, being civil, separation

In my first posting to this blog, I said that "You don't have to like an ex, you just have to be civil." I occasionally forget to practice this advice when I bring up the past--another thing to avoid, but today I followed my advice. My ex called from New York and asked if I could search through his business files for an important document. Instead of telling him I wasn't his secretary or mother, I went ahead and searched through his files. I really wanted to tell him that our separation means that I am not there for him and that he relinquished his rights to ask for help, but I bit my tongue. I spent a few minutes assisting him because I knew he had no else to help him . It is in these small instances that I can maintain some level of civility and prove that I am capable of being a bigger person than my ex for all his pettiness.In following this advice, I put money in my relationship bank account and now have a little credit for some future date where I may not be as civil. For

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