TODAY   |  April 29, 2014

Diane Keaton to Matt: ‘I like you better than me’

The actress joins TODAY to chat about her new book, “Let’s Just Say It Wasn’t Pretty,” focusing on beauty and body image, and has playful exchanges with Matt Lauer about their mutual admiration for each other.

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>> back with oscar winner diane keaton in

>>> oscar winner diane keaton is out with a new autobiography tackling everything from motherhood, body image , to her unique fashion sense , some of which was addressed in this scene from her hit movie "something's gotta give."

>> what's with the turtlenecks? it's the middle of summer.

>> seriously, why do you care what i wear?

>> just curious.

>> i like them. i've always liked them. and i'm just a turtleneck kind of gal.

>> the book is called "let's just say it wasn't pretty." diane keaton , welcome back.

>> thank you.

>> good to have you here.

>> good to see you, matt. you look good, by the way.

>> thank you very much. so do you.

>> i was thinking about you, actually.

>> when?

>> i was looking on the internet at images of you.

>> why would you do that?

>> because i was trying to think about what's beautiful about you.

>> uh-huh.

>> because my book does deal with beauty. and i noticed that i saw a picture of you and you had on swim trunks .

>> you did? uh-huh.

>> and i noticed your body.

>> yeah?

>> it's good.

>> that's nice of you.

>> it's a nice body.

>> thank you.

>> you have a nice chest.

>> thank you very much. okay, but i'm supposed to do this to you.

>> but i like you better than me.

>> well, i have often expressed on the air my undying love and affection for you.

>> do you really mean that?

>> i think you're beautiful and fascinating.

>> what can we do about it? sooner is better for me. i mean, i'm 68. how old are you?

>> i'm 56.

>> that's good for me.

>> works for you?

>> that works for me.

>> you write in this book about your looks. i think you are one of the most stylish, beautiful women i've ever seen.

>> i can't take it.

>> and you say that at 11 years old, you looked in the mirror for the first time and felt dispoidi disappointment.

>> i was approaching womanhood. do you know what that is?

>> yes, i do. i spent a lot of time studying that.

>> i was starting to mature a little, not much. but i saw myself in the mirror and i hadn't really formed an opinion at that point. but i knew who my heroes were. people like doris day and debbie reynolds and sandra dee , people like that. and then i saw in the mirror that it wasn't going to work out for me.

>> you didn't look like doris day .

>> no, i didn't. you don't really care, right? but the nose. let's talk about the nose.

>> look at my nose.

>> your nose is good.

>> i have a large nose.

>> i like a long nose.

>> really? turn sideways for me.

>> it goes round.

>> you call it the bulb at the end.

>> that's what it is.

>> i don't see that.

>> yeah, it's there.

>> as you've gotten older -- that started at 11. as you've gotten older, have you grown more comfortable with your looks?

>> no.

>> do you still have these insecurities?

>> oh, i think that's a lifelong problem. if you're insecure, you live with insecurity in your life. that's what's nice about the book in this regard. in the effort with my book, let's just say it wasn't pretty, i said the title. did it sound good?

>> you got it in there. it was very subtle. you write about the possibility of changing your appearance at this stage in your life.

>> you mean plastic surgery?

>> i love what you write. "i know from experience how lucky i am, but the most thrilling aspect of my face is its ability to express feelings. all of my feelings and all of my emotion come out on my face. my 67-year-old face. you see my face identifies who i am inside."

>> that's right.

>> do you feel a lot better about who you are inside than your face on a more superficial?

>> i think that the journey is all about change. i think the more you accept change and the more you see life -- like, look out this window. it's astonishing. it's kind of like a wonder land with all those flags. and usually we just walk past it, we don't even notice it. but the truth is, and all those people out there. they all have really interesting lives. i mean, you really identify with them. or like i say, you, of course, because i've got to get back to you.

>> right.

>> you are beautiful.

>> i'm going to get it back to you.

>> not me.

>> you write about the men you dated, diane.

>> i did date a few.

>> you did, you did. you've dated some of the big names in hollywood.

>> at the time.

>> do you regret not marrying?

>> do i regret not marrying? yeah, i do.

>> were you asked?

>> no. i wasn't asked. but i did ask.

>> did you ask anyone? who did you ask?

>> i asked all of them. i did. every one of them. and they all said no.

>> i'd like to talk to every one of those guys. i really would.

>> i'm lying, too. yintd real i didn't really ask them to marry me. but they didn't ask me either. when you're in the movies, and at that point in my life, it was kind of a big thing for me to be a movie star , was my dream come true. and these people -- you know, they're all artists, and i think artist with artist is kind of -- like, for example, you know, warren married annette bening . that was a good choice. the two of them have worked very well together.

>> of warren, you write real life warren was a collector's item. a rare bird . of jack nicholson , when i first met him in my 30s, friendship was not possible. he was jack nicholson . i didn't want to be his friend. i wanted him to kiss me. it didn't happen.

>> no.

>> close?

>> not even.

>> not even? al pacino . his face, his nose.

>> like yours.

>> and what about those eyes? i kept trying to figure out what i could do to make them mine. they never were.

>> no.

>> that was the lure of al. he was never mine. for the next 20 years, i kept losing a man i never had.

>> it's true. oh, i was so in love with him.

>> i love the way you write about that.

>> you think? yeah, he was special.

>> sense of style.

>> sense of style.

>> you wear these fabulous clothes, the big hats, the big glat glasses, the turtlenecks. is it an attempt to draw away from the parts of the physical appearance you don't like?

>> correct.

>> that's what savannah always says. correct. is that why you do it?

>> yeah. i like it, too. i like the way it looks. i like style. i like the style i like. i always like to cover up. first of all, it's healthy for the body and it secures you.

>> don't put your armor up. i have one more question for you.

>> oh no, is it a bad one?

>> no, it's not bad. it's controversial. you accepted an award for woody allen , one of your longtime friends and collaborators. the cecil b. demille award at the golden globes . a lot of people didn't think he should get it because of accusations. did you have any trepidations?

>> no. of course not.

>> none whatsoever?

>> you have to look at my life this way. i mean, he gave me my opportunity to be here and talk to you. it's all because of woody allen . believe me, where would i be? i can't even imagine. i don't know what would have happened to me without him. i mean, he wrote " annie hall ." are you kidding me? it was the greatest gift ever given to me by anyone professionally, and he's a genius. that's it. he's a genius. of a certain sort. i mean, i'm not trying to say he's picasso, but he is a great writer. don't you think? don't you think some of his movies are fabulous? do you like them?

>> i've liked some of them, yeah.

>> i'm from new york.

>> did you like " annie hall "?

>> it's where the crush began. it started with a crush. i end this interview with full-fledged love for you.

>> mine tops yours.

>> i doubt it. thank you so much. the book is "let's just say it wasn't pretty." diane keaton , don't leave yet, coming up, "love your selfie," using mannequins to redefine your beauty. now you can leave. but first, your local news.