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TODAY   |  April 21, 2014

Boy who asked out Miss America ’didn’t expect this’

Patrick Farves, the high school senior who was suspended from his school after asking Miss America to prom, tells TODAY’s Tamron Hall that he did not expect the mass response to what started as a joke. NBC's Craig Melvin reports.

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>>> half-hour with a teenager who's in hot water for asking someone to a prom. that someone just happened to be miss america . and that student was warned by school administrators not to go there. we'll talk with him exclusively in a moment. but first, nbc's craig melvin has his story.

>> reporter: to land the perfect prom date, patrick farves knew he'd have to be bold.

>> will you go to prom with me?

>> reporter: he didn't stop there. in a packed auditorium, the 18-year-old strolled up to the stage, plastic rose in hand, determined to get nina davulari to make his life. but when the dancing and cheering stopped, farves found himself in trouble. administration at central york high sentenced him to three days of in- school suspension, explaining on the school 's facebook page, it is not our practice to discipline a student for asking someone, even miss america , to a school dance. however, it is our practice to set expectations for student behavior. to communicate those expectations and rules to students and families and to ensure those rules are followed within our schools. the school 's decision sparked outrage on social media . hundreds took to twitter using the #freepatty. even his dream date, who let him down easy before jumping to his defense, weighed in on facebook . i was flattered by the gesture, although i am unfortunately unable to attend due to my travel schedule. i later learned of the disciplinary action taken and reached out to the school in hopes that they will reconsider their decision. for "today," craig melvin, nbc news, new york.

>> patrick farves is with us now. patrick , good morning.

>> hi.

>> okay, so now this is a national story. it started out as a few yuck-yucks with your friends. what's it been like?

>> this whole thing has just been insane. it's just crazy. i didn't expect any of this when i did it. this is kind of what i do. i'm kind of known for this type of stuff.

>> which is what, pranks?

>> just kind of standing out and doing different -- just jokes with my friends and stuff. we're real goofy and standout characters.

>> so you weren't prepared for the national attention, but were you prepared for the punishment? the school told you not to do it. school officials warned you. and there's a rule. my mom used to say, unless you're ready for the punishment, don't do the crime. were you ready to be suspended?

>> um, well, when they had told me not to do it, and i had looked at it -- this was like a now or never type thing. this was a once-in-a-lifetime chance --

>> to be suspended?

>> no.

>> i'm kidding.

>> to ask her to prom. i did it anyway. and i knew i would get in some type of trouble. i completely understand and respect the disciplinary actions that had to be taken and i'm completely understanding.

>> so you were okay with being suspended for three days? were you parents okay?

>> my mom was actually -- she had to be a parent and discipline me as well. you know, say you know better than that. you know you shouldn't have done that. but at the same time, all this happening, she knew it wasn't out of character for me to do something like that. but at the same time, with all this, it's just -- i think it's amusing to her with all this media attention and stuff. but yeah, this is crazy.

>> so it sounds like you got what you wanted out of this, which is you got the attention. your friends all think you're a hero. and you're willing to eat the three days of school ?

>> well, it wasn't really my intent to have all this attention. it was kind of just like i'm going to do this type thing. but yeah.

>> is this a resume tape for comedy central , because colbert is leaving? is that what this is about?

>> no, no.

>> okay. and my last question, is there a -- because miss america now says she can't go with you.

>> yeah.

>> do you have a backup plan? which no one wants to be called the backup.

>> i actually don't have -- i mean, i don't know if i'm going to -- if i want to ask someone, or with this all this attention a girl ask me or whatever. i don't know if you can tell by all this, but i'm pretty good at making my own fun, so i wouldn't have a problem going alone.

>> so people have a lot of opinions about it. some siding with you, some siding with the school . let's check in with dylan. she's in the orange room with more on what folks are saying online.

>> that's right. we are getting mixed reactions to the school district 's decision. brenda on facebook writes, i think even their prior warning was stupid. he wasn't asking a rude or insensitive question and i think it took courage to even ask. if movie stars can be asked to prom, why not miss america ? irving also on facebook says i wanna side with the kid for having the guts to ask out miss america . but then he goes on to say, but he was told not to do it and he didn't listen. he deserved to be suspended. then on twitter, lloyd writes, it's a harmless question. who wouldn't ask? no harm, no foul. school may have overreacted. so we're seeing both sides of the story here. we want to hear what you think. send it to us using #orangeroom.

>> all right. you were told not to ask, you're okay. when do you go back to school ?

>> well, probably friday.

>> and you're a living legend at the school now.

>> yeah, i am. it's crazy.

>> all right, patrick . listen to the school . they're the boss.

>> yeah.

>> okay, thank you very much.