TODAY   |  February 25, 2014

Hoda helps you learn to love your wrinkles

In Tuesday’s installment of TODAY’s weeklong “Love Your Selfie” series, Hoda Kotb meets with women of various ages who share what aging means to them. The women’s selfies are later displayed publicly.

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>>> on body image called "love your selfie." and hoda's here to explore aging and how it impacts yourself.

>> 41% of women say seeing selfies and other flattering photos of themselves online makes them feel more confident. so we decided to put that to a test with a group brave enough to put themselves out there with a little bit of make-up to talk about what aging really looks like.

>> i'm diane and i'm 67 years old. i see a lot of drooping on my face and wrinkles.

>> my name is bella, i'm 44 years old. couple of different chins going on.

>> i'm helen and i'm 72 years old. it's my neck, see. if i just did that, i might look better.

>> i'm annette and i'm 55 years old, my stomach. it's gotten bigger. used to be flat.

>> i'm eileen and 73 years old. aging has sucked the life out of me.

>> i'm sheila and i'm 40, somewhere around 30, 40, you become almost invisible.

>> invisible no more. we gathered at a new york hot spot, the aventi hotel to talk aging and beauty.

>> tell me your favorite body parts .

>> let's go with the feet.

>> my legs.

>> show me a little. i want to see a little up to the knee. do you think society appreciates women as we age?

>> no.

>> no.

>> no.

>> i feel as if my hair was on fire, nobody would say anything.

>> they wouldn't see you? why?

>> that's right. because they don't see people my age anymore. they just, oh, you're part of the scenery, the woodwork.

>> i never thought i would get here to the point that, you know, i'm not accepting myself that much.

>> what do you guys think about how the celebrity world and magazines, how do you think that affects how we view ourselves?

>> i watch the whole, you know, real housewives of wherever. and that probably affects my body image a lot. these are women in their 40s, some older, and they look flawless all the time.

>> so selfies, what do you think of them? have you taken them before?

>> i have. not happily, i look --

>> i took some of myself recently.

>> yeah.

>> and i was very disappointed.

>> we thought these ladies needed some help with some selfie-esteem.

>> my hope ultimately is that we see more and more real women .

>> her film challenged moms and daughters to see themselves in a more positive light. and it worked.

>> it's a way of telling your own story and being powerful.

>> are we warming up? are we getting closer? come on. this is beauty. wipe don't you do a selfie where you embrace the fact you're a healthy woman in the prime of your life . you're a mom.

>> small steps, but a big surprise. our ladies front and center on a very big screen .

>> oh, my god, look. how did that happen?

>> oh, my god. these are your selfies.

>> we're not invisible.

>> are you happy you took your selfies and they are displayed prominently in manhattan?

>> i'm proud of ourselves and proud of everyone for coming out and showing how fragile we are and embracing it.

>> yes!

>> such a great group of ladies, they were super freaked. when those pictures showed up that huge.

>> freaked is good, right?

>> in a good way.

>> they are ageless, they have defined beauty in hollywood for more than 40 years, award winning actors jacqueline bisset and jane seymour are with us. good morning.

>> hi.

>> if aging is difficult, it must be difficult on steroids in hollywood . have you had that experience that some of the ladies in the piece talked about where they felt invisible?

>> invisible for sure. absolutely. it cuts off around 50.

>> so when you looked up at the big screen and see yourself in one of the movies, do you focus in on something and go, oh, i wish that were better, i wish that were different?

>> i do, yes. i've genetically always had bags under my eyes. i tried to have them removed a long time ago. but i know if i smile -- if i smile, i look younger. smiling is the answer. being happy. that's what it's all about. everything lifts when you do that.

>> the that's the main thing, get out of yourself.

>> it is true. it's the light behind your eyes. i love the way you put it in your golden globes acceptance speech that forgiveness is better than any beauty cream. which goes to the point of it's really what's inside that makes you useful.

>> absolutely. what's inside and being able to let go and realizing that life is like a wave. you have your highs and your lows. you let go and recharge. and you never know. if you can live in the present moments and be open to it, i think you can have a really rich life.

>> okay.

>> we give each other something. and people say -- and then they feel good.

>> let's be superficial for a second and talk about the outside. now, you've never done plastic surgery .

>> no.

>> in hollywood , it must be insane because the pressure to look good is so much more than for the rest of us. so what stopped you from doing any kind of plastic surgery ?

>> well, i don't think it makes you look younger.

>> yeah.

>> i agree.

>> that's really -- and i also just got to get used to yourself. you have to face yourself. you have to on a deep, deep level. you have to face yourself and say there are people who love me, the inside of me, who love me. took me my life --

>> to get there? what about you?

>> i told people, i did my eyes about 25 years ago and my father, we had big old baggy eyes and he kept saying you've got to do something and i did. a long, long time ago. and i gave a birth of a whole load of children. you didn't go there. and i just replenished the stock 25 years ago. and that was that. but nothing else. i stay away from botox and all of these things, i need my wrinkles. i did a great movie in which i played my own age and i was so happy to have everything moving, all the wrinkles were readily available. i played a grandmother.

>> is that you in a bikini?

>> that's me in a bikini.

>> how old are you?

>> i'm 63, but that's my granddaughter. and that was me on the beach at new year's.

>> can we acknowledge you both have great genes going.

>> of course.

>> it's funny, because do you feel you've appreciated your looks in your 20s and 30s as much as you might now?

>> hated myself.

>> you did?

>> lots of conflicts.

>> what did you dislike?

>> my brother made me aware of certain things i didn't like. i'm not going to go backwards. you don't want to go backwards. we go forwards.

>> you know what's funny, isabella rosalini, at 40, they said good-bye to her. she was selling the product and still they thought she was too old.

>> it's so rude.

>> what was the product for?

>> i mean, i think it's an amazing, amazing thing that they age you out when you're actually the age when everybody who is buying it wants it.

>> well, we've got about 30 seconds. hoda has a selfie here.

>> are you ready?

>> okay. ready?

>> ladies, smile.

>> if you open your mouth, too, you look fun.

>> i believe you. you look like you're having fun , hoda. jane seymour , jacqueline bisset . thank you so much. we're back