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TODAY   |  August 27, 2013

Why couples fight over the thermostat

If you and your significant other bicker about the temperature in your home, you’re not alone. Psychiatrist Ish Major and Wall Street Journal reporter Alina Dizik reveal why many couples experience temperature differently.

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>>> now to a debate we know all too well. the battle over the thermostat.

>> whether it's a long car ride or in bed at night or in the studio there's always one person that wines a little bit.

>> i know.

>> who is that guy?

>> take a look.

>> it's like a sauna in here.

>> it's like a sauna in here.

>> not to mention it's 113 degrees outside.

>> but it's a dry heat .

>> first though we know what the weather is like up here, it's 103 degrees and muggy.

>> it's freezing in this area where i'm sitting right now.

>> it's 106 outside so we tried to cool it down.

>> if you have ever been on a subway platform in new york city , it's as close to held as you can get.

>> go 50 miles per hour and just drink it in.

>> you are a hot box , aren't you?

>> i think we made our point.

>> she wrote about this topic as a reporter for the wall street journal and he is a psychiatrist, author and relationship expert. fwoor good morning.

>> i want to be clear. at home no temperature issues and in the car. there's just a couple of spots around the studio where it gets warm. is this a real fight that people are having?

>> of course. i found that people are getting less activiticlimated to the heat.

>> but also where they're from? doesn't your up bringing have something to do with how you react to extreme temperatures.

>> if you grew up in india, she really loves the heat and her ideal temperature is 82 degrees.

>> but is there a biological difference between men and women that is precipitating this that we can say, well, this makes sense?

>> absolutely. muscle mass generates about a third of our body heat and guys have more muscle mass and we're a little warmer and women are typically colder at their core.

>> for those babies.

>> you got it.

>> there you go.

>> so we have folk who is tweeted in. for example, kljewett said he is always cold. i'm opening windows to cool off. car rides are hell. what did you cover when you started writing these?

>> the stereotype of women always needing to warm was fairly true but there were men that really were angry about the fact that their wives were just always hot and wanted to crank up the air conditioning .

>> we have a strange one here. this is another tweet from courtney, love to know why my husband radiates heat everywhere except his backside.

>> wow.

>> which is freezing cold.

>> listen, the blood vessels carry the heat and fat doesn't have a lot of blood vessels so there's not a lot of blood back there in that area.

>> i'm so sorry.

>> the guy goes to med school and has to come on tv to have me ask a question like that.

>> i'm so sorry.

>> does this effect relationships? when one partner comes to bed wearing a flannel nightie or pajamas or socks.

>> that's a guy's biggest complaint. she walking around and wearing her socks to bed and women say it's not that i'm not unwilling to be sexy i'm just not willing to freeze to death. so they're cold.

>> we did a today.com poll, do you and your partner argue about the temperature. 37% says always and only 15% of people said never. so this is happening.

>> this is happening.

>> it's a big deal .

>> do you argue about it?

>> we don't argue about it but sometimes he'll say i can't believe you come to bed in like a cashmere turtleneck and i'm like well, you have to be more creative to take it off.

>> that's an entirely different thing.