TODAY   |  August 10, 2013

How to avoid alienating friends on Facebook

A new study finds that posting pictures to social media may damage relationships with friends and colleagues. “Oversharing can be troublesome,” said Mario Armstrong, TODAY’s digital lifestyle expert. TODAY’s Erica Hill and Willie Geist interview Armstrong and Faye de Muyshondt, a social media etiquette expert.

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>>> this morning on today's relationships, the perils of posting on social media . people who post on facebook might be damaging their real life relationships.

>> mario armstrong is here. nice to have you here with us this morning.

>> good morning, thanks for having us.

>> you were not at all surprised by this study?

>> not at all. i could not agree more. i spend a better part of a chapter in my book on teaching your kids how to keep friends. you check in and read the same few dozen people's status updates and seeing their photos over and over and over making you wonder, is this person that self-absorbed or nas cystic or do i care about this?

>> mario , you might disagree about this. your friends go away for the weekend and give you a running blog of what they have been doing moment to moment but you are okay with that?

>> i'm okay with it. there's a fine line. it can be troublesome if you are talking younger kids. we are talking a study looking at adults. the study is bogus to me.

>> really?

>> you have ways you can block things and hide content. you don't have to read it. how bad is it, really. are you just jealous because you are not in paris and your friend is? take a look in the mirror and question why you are upset. do you want that meal?

>> people may come up a lot. sometimes you don't have control of that. i kind of avoid it. people come up in my feed all the time. i liken it less to them posting and more to it's facebook .

>> it's the way we keep up to date with people these days. i think there should be, i mean, let's face it, we shouldn't be posting every day about the kind of mundane things in our life. it's called a news feed for a reason. is what you ate last night for dinner newsy?

>> it could be for someone that just made this meal, it's the first time cooking it and it's special for them. or i'm going to the same restaurant. i might benefit from that. it's a delicate balance. i agree, there should be value to what you post, but you don't have to read it. am i really not going to like you anymore as a friend because you are posting meals.

>> you have rules. let's lay out the rules.

>> number one, make sure it's newsy. keep the the per am ters of one post a week. we don't need to see your daily.

>> wow!

>> really?

>> what!

>> why be on facebook .

>> why are you using social media ? go snail mail.

>> do you have something that important to share every single day?

>> yeah.

>> oh, my gosh. i don't think we should be friends on facebook , by dear.

>> oh, my gosh, really? i don't know you.

>> there are ways to limit what you see and how often you see it.

>> i think it's a combination of that with digital behavior. let's use some digital etiquette. post about things that aren't news worthy. let's not be show boating.

>> what is the definition of show boating. let me help everyone. i'm going to pull up something on the ipad right now.

>> we are going to get cut off. but the good news is, i have a feeling you might share those tips on your facebook page, if we are lucky.

>> one today. can we share one today?

>> no. i don't agree with that. once a day, absolutely not.

>> mario , thanks so much. we'll settle this off the air.