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TODAY   |  July 10, 2013

Do you suffer from FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out)?

TODAY’s Natalie Morales and Willie Geist discuss the hot topics of the day, including the phenomenon known as “FOMO,” or fear of missing out, which Willie says caused him to start most of his papers “at in the morning” in college.

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>>> with natalie morales . al is off this morning. i was walking across the street. not that hot but muggy out there.

>> you walk out and immediately it's like deoderant check.

>> i got on the one car that had no air conditioning . if you have ever been on a subway platform in new york city in the summertime it's as close to hell as you'll ever get. i mean that many ways, but especially the temperature.

>> pretty amazing pictures this morning out of the plane crash of asiana flight 214 out of san francisco . the photos show passengers fleeing the burning plane at the airport and a lot of them grabbed their luggage. their carry ones.

>> not just that, their duty duty-free shopping.

>> yeah and it could have been a dangerous mistake for all of them. they came out and said leave you most of us haven't been through something like that thankfully but in a traumatic situation where your world just completely erupted before your eyes, there is something to be said for those that grab for some sort of sense of security or even grabbing your purse if your phone is in there and you want to reach out to your loved ones and make sure they know you're okay but when you see them grabbing the duty-free bags and everything just to save the money they spent at the duty- free store , it's hard to understand the thinking behind that but i think it is. people just kind of -- and they have shown time after time , the miracle on the hudson as well people were grabbing things, their purses, their handbags. it's sort of human nature . if you're not grabbing your kids, if you're in the in that situation where you're a parent you surround yourself with your possessions and get out.

>> we're not going to judge what they were going through. maybe there was no fire or smoke where they were sitting and they had two seconds to reach down and grab the bag in front of you.

>> but still a big no no in any situation. just get out. make sure you're safe an your loved ones are safe.

>> grab the cigarettes and liquor you bought. there's more in san francisco . making the rounds this morning, a 1998 interview getting hot online, dustin hoffman talking to the american film institute . he gets very emotional talking about his role in the 1981 film "tootsie" he had an different idea about how he viewed women after he put on that costume and hair and make up the first time.

>> i was shocked that i wasn't more attractive and i said now you have me looking like a woman. now make me a beautiful woman because i thought i should be beautiful if i was going to be a woman. i would want to be as beautiful as possible and they said to me that's as good as it gets and i know that if i met myself at a party i would never talk to that character because she doesn't fulfill physically the demands that we're brought up to think we have to -- that women have to have in order for us to ask them out. there's too many interesting women i have -- i have -- i have not had the experience to know in this life because i have been brainwashed.

>> you hear a tremble in his voice.

>> he gets very emotional. he actually has to take a breath there, you see, to collect himself. but, you know, when you watch that movie he said it was not a comedy for him. most of us thought it was a great film and really funny but there's such a touching message in the movie and what he was saying was so touching in the sense that somebody like tootsie would have been overlooked by people and you would have passed her on the street and not even taken a second glance and he felt that he misjudged and didn't give people the time of day and was brainwashed as he said.

>> that's absolutely true. it's human nature .

>> we're guilty of it.

>> somebody that looks a certain way grabs your attention. that's just a reality of human nature but unfortunately i think -- as you get older you see things more important and you are more mature and meet people you may not have met when you were younger that were smart or funny or interesting or have a cool job or life story .

>> you hear and get so much more of the history of a person as you age. you just kind of look past the sup sup superficial and get into the heart and soul of that person.

>> very cool moment there.

>> have you heard of phomo.

>> i heard about it 42 minutes ago.

>> me too. we don't suffer from fomo which is a fear of missing out but a lot of people do. people are concerned that others appear to be having more fun and rewarding experiences than them. i guess all of this comes from our reliance on social media . obviously people posting all of their great vacations and things that they're doing on facebook triggers the facebook envy we also talked about.

>> right or tweeting from an event where a lot of people are and you're not.

>> missing out. what's going on right now i'm missing out on?

>> it's a study -- one of these studies we talk about. 56% of are afraid of missing out on life events and important status updates. 27% of the people in the survey said they go to social media when they first wake up to make sure they haven't missed anything overnight.

>> these are people are all ages. it's not just the under 20 set we're talking about here.

>> right. absolutely.

>> at some point in our lives we have all experienced a little bit of this. you're not invited to that party and everybody else is going, right?

>> i used to have a thing in college where i could not start writing a paper until everyone else in the house was in bed because i wouldn't be sitting there on the computer knowing great things were happening outside. so i started about 2:00 in the morning. 7:30 run in, hand them. it was a c effort.

>> look where you are today.

>> i graduated. i have the diploma. we don't need to talk about the numbers. i was just catching up to yolo and now fomo.

>> i'm missing out on the lyingo.

>> there is a australian man that's going to revolutionary the english language . he created a symbol for the word the.

>> that saves you so much time.

>> the idea here that it would be like for and and it would appear on a keyboard and you could hit it instead of writing the word the.

>> write. two extra characters on twitter it would take up but then imagine when you're tweeting or -- you have to then go to the symbol function and that takes -- he's saying it's going to make people more efficient, i think if anything it's the opposite. you to double click to get the symbol signs.

>> he's investing 75,000 dollars of his own money. he now has this app that you can download to your keyboard that will put the symbol on.

>> let's practice and see how long it takes us.

>> you wouldn't be writing it hopefully.

>> i think you have the time to knockout the e at the end maybe.

>> i think that's ridiculous. just take the extra time .

>> i'm going to sound old again but when you get the e-mails or the texts with just the r or the u, i always say to myself was it hard to write the y and the o before the u?

>> on twitter it does save you. you only have 140 characters to express you're.

>> that's true.

>> so ru saves you a lot.

>> i'm not sure the th is going to catch fire but we'll let it play out.

>> it's $75,000 investment. we'll see where it goes.

>> must have money to burn.

>> apparently you're a big hit with mel b .

>> i love her.

>> she was here filling in for me and she had a lot of great things to say about you on access live. take a listen.

>> you were just on the