TODAY | April 17, 2013
>>> hello, everything. it's wines-daye wednesday. a special day for ms. hoda.
>> it's my mother's birthday. we're going to celebrate this weekend and blake's birthday celebration.
>> and someone else 's birthday.
>> our precious tammy, her daughter alana. look at that face. don't cover it with confetti.
>> so double birthday .
>> happy birthday to her.
>>> we are learning more about the aftermath of boston. i think a lot of people are at the point where they want to know who did it and why. those are two big questions . there was a guy --
>> they have some good clues, some excellent clues.
>> there was a guy taking photos, like a whole bunch of still pictures. just a viewer of the marathon.
>> and saw a picture of someone who was fleeing. you can't tell, they were asking -- this is a person fleeing, or is it someone who had something to do with it. it seemed like the consensus was it was just looked like someone who was fleeing. you wonder if you planted a bomb, would you stand next to it?
>> there is suicide bombers who die for a cause, but this doesn't seem like that. and i don't know if they were detonated by a cell phone or timer.
>> a lot of stuff still to be discovered. we're discovering more about the victims. i think this "daily news" cover was heart wrenching.
>> you see the picture of this precious little 8-year-old. this was his response after the tray von martin case -- no more hurting people -- peace. that's the photo of him.
>> but his father, you know, who has lost now his son, his 6-year-old daughter lost a leg, and his wife is still in critical condition.
>> a different road.
>> and i guess there's one other daughter who is okay, thank god. the second victim has now been named.
>> 29-year-old krystle campbell of medford, massachusetts. another a heart-wrenching story. her dad was told she was okay and it was a case of mistaken identity.
>> she was just there to watch her friend's boyfriend come over the finish line .
>> the third was a chinese national, a grad student action and her name is not being released at this point. i actually heard someone on the news talking about how they were down there at the area this morning, or late last night --
>> are they letting people in now?
>> they're making a smaller crime scene . a guy who had a clarinet in a case. he was walking across the street action and a lot of people gathering, walking, he said he opened that clarinet, he played "the star-spangled banner" pitch-perfect, and everyone stopped and applauded.
>> that would have devastated me.
>> it talked about how people come together.
>> we have different ways of greving. you have to grieve or you can't move on. the trouble is that when people choose to continue grieving long after it's healthy to keep doing so. i think we're very much in the grief mode. it's interesting how soon life gets back to normal. we were talking about when we lost our beloved dads, how bizarre it is for you to be immersed in your grief and all of a sudden you look around and people are going about their normal days. we're like, how can you do that? don't you realize what just happened? we're self-absorbed creatures by nature. it doesn't mean we're bad, it's just that we're all about us. and if it didn't affect you personally, then we just seem to move on to how much weight has kim kardashian gained? which is sad, i think, even "people" magazine, i'm kind of surprised today this is still such a brand-new tragedy, and it's a crime, let's not forget that, here's trisha yearwood whom we love, and that's the main story, how much weight she's lost in a short amount of time. on the side, the story -- i'm just surprised by that.
>> "people" usually does the, you know, the big news story on the front. i'm not sure what went on in the discussion, but i think it is one of those things that it is everywhere. i was watching different news places last night and then you flip on " access hollywood " and it's wall to wall access and hollywood, all about the marathon, celebs reacting, who was down there, like it's all about it. so there isn't really a way not to see it or not to be exposed. i wonder if "people" thought about, it's in so many places we're going to cover it and we'll do it our way kind of thing.
>> they made their own decisions, but we have the right to respond as human beings and citizens. i thought it was interesting to talk about the people who commute here to new york. after the 9/11 attacks, that's all any of us spoke about for months, right? months. even on a 6:00 train yesterday, it wasn't the subject of conversation on a new york train, nor was it this morning coming in, in light of the images we have seen. maybe people just have become --
>> i'm not sure why people weren't talking about it, but to me because it happened in such an iconic place, such a public place where anyone could have walked by, i think it affected a lot of people.
>> that surprised me.
>> here's a good quote. mister rogers always comes to the rescue.
>> he was always so honest about everything.
>> a great quote that went viral. here's the quote. it says -- when i was a boy and i would see scary things in the news, my mother would look to me and say look for the helpers. you will always find people who are helping. i love that.
>> it moves me so much, because he was a friend of mine and a neighbor of mine in nantucket. one of the sweetest men. he would sit like that. he was so real. you realized how did mister rogers become mister rogers ? it was because of his mom, you know is it that's a window how you that human being came to be. he was shown the way to be that kind of person.
>> i think as parents struggle to figure out what to say to their kids, that's perfect.
>> we were talking about that yesterday in our chat, about look at the people that are going the other direction towards it. we saw so many stories like that of heroism.
>> we sure did.
>> during 9/11. you say it's the basic nature to be selfish, i think it's also the best part of our nature is to be responsive to people of need.
>> people magazine did make the stud. the boston bombing is the cover for the east coast , and trisha userwood is the cover for the west coast .
>> well, they are in business and answering to stockholders. it struck me as strange.
>>> i love this next story.
>> what is it.
>>> bradley cooper making a big deal about it, in the main issue of "details" says he's reese veal he's lived with his mom the last two years. his father died two years ago and he said -- this is where we are, my family is very close, and my dad dying was brutal for all of us, it was a schism, and the aftershock has not stopped. he didn't move back into his childhood home as a -- i don't know how old he is, he moved his mom in with him. if it's possible, i love him even more.
>> i have to say, you know, so many people luke your mom lives here, and i understand everyone needs their lives, but in other places around the world people take care --
>> that's what cultures have always done.
>> i think it's important we take care of one another. eventually that would be you some day, hody.
>>> who is the best deserving mom? we are launching that contest. responsibleorsed by expedia. the most deserving mom will win a vacation and sail anywhere in the world on a norwegian cruise line of her choice.
>> europe, alaska, bermuda, hawaii.
>> write an eisai.
>>> the good part is even if you don't have anyone around you who thinks you're terrific --
>> you can write it yourself. until tuesday, april 30th . two finalists, and then we'll reveal the one who wins on may 9th .
>> that's great. that's great.
>>> a sad note in the world today, especially for us and our family. pat summer y'all passed away yesterday down in texas. he was a football player, played with my husband, became a legendary play-by-play announcer. his pastor called my from his hospital room yesterday, and he died peacefully. he died more than peacefully. he died at peace. he came to grips with his alcoholism, was well with my soul, you know. he died knowing where he was going. we send our love very much to his family.