TODAY | July 23, 2012
monday with more of "today." expert advice on dating after 30. who better to help you out than a matchmaker, radio talk show host and a journalist who happen to be relationship experts of a soern age. you would never know it to look at them.
>> they happen to be single themselves. and bravo's miss advise where they publically struggle with their own lives. amy laurent, emily and julia allison .
>> who is the matchmaker?
>> who is the journalist?
>> i am.
>> i have a talk show called "sex with emily."
>> of course you do.
>> everybody does.
>> here is our first question. these came from viewers who want your help. how do you approach a guy you've been dating more than two years about moving in together and getting married?
>> okay. i would tell tracy be very careful because as a woman, you never want to give an ultimatum. that never works out well.
>> unless you're prepared for whatever answer he gives.
>> exactly. if you haven't voiced your opinion that you want to move in, how does he know you're not happy with things?
>> that might scare him away, too. you've got to know your own relationship.
>> i say give him tons of ultimatums like i need one orgasm a day.
>> just one? what's wrong with you?
>> i think there is a great article called "why you're not married" made into a book. she said women are liars. they don't say to a guy, hey, i'm looking for a serious relationship. you don't have to say it on the first date, but you have to say it within the first couple of months of a relationship.
>> give yourself the ultimatum. if you're the woman and you want to be in a relationship, you need to say, i'm going to give myself a month. if we don't have the conversation within a month, i'm over it.
>> create your own deadline.
>> i am over 50 and i have not dated in over a year. where does someone over 50 meet others who are not looking for one-night stands? that is a good question.
>> if 2 you're single, i don't care what age you are, you need to treat it like you're looking for a job. tell everyone you know you're single, friends, co-workers, person in the grocery store . put it out there to everyone.
>> there is a big article in one of the papers this morning about how women in new york are getting on the train going up to where i live in greenwich looking for a man. a lot of guys who work for hedge funds and stuff.
>> we are going to be in 2 greenwich having a good old party. i love greenwich , connecticut. great men. great men.
>> if frank's there, send him home.
>> you can go to places online.
>> i don't trust that. you get freaks.
>> not on facebook and twitter.
>> next one. which dating website would be best for a single woman attempting to get back out there after divorce? what do you like the most?
>> actually, to the point i just made, facebook and twitter. you go unconventional. there are dating websites, eharmony, match, but i think it's nice to go in the back door. you go subtle.
>> i think we need to look at -- there are so many dating sites, it's almost asking who should i be friends with? what makes you feel good? are these people i would date or go out with and just explore?
>> hire a matchmaker.
>> you would want to find somebody in your life with not just to go out with, but who is going to share life with you. i think you would go to places you're interested. the church or synagogue or a pet store --
>> biking club, hiking.
>> say yes to everything for a month. every invite you get.
>> are any of you happy in your interpersonal relationships?
>> are you guys with boyfriends?
>> happy dating. it's really good.
>> i don't want to spoil the show. there is a guy i started going out with last week. we'll see.
>> looking good.
>> you can catch "miss advise" tonight at 10:00 on bravo.