TODAY | February 20, 2012
>>> frankel is known for straight talk and sassy style and she's bringing it back for the third season of her reality show "bethenny ever after." if the controversy and buzz are an indication it should be an interesting one. take a look.
>> things are good with jason, but the second year of marriage is definitely more difficult than the first year for me. the second year of marriage is we have a baby, we have this business. i'm really trying to be a good mother, be a good wife, keep the romance in my marriage. and run a business.
>> bethenny frankel is here. good morning to you.
>> good morning.
>> first i have to ask you about this health scare you had. you had an ulcer?
>> i took an antibiotic at pill at night without a full glass of water and it burned a hole in my esophagus. i thought i was dying. three days later i hadn't been able to swallow. they found out i created an ulcer in my esophagus. particularly for kids taking medications, a full glass of water and do not take it right before bed. you can burn a hole. i created an ulcer.
>> do you feel okay now?
>> it was 13 days . it was hike a missile crisis , but it was my esophagus.
>> you said it was like "house"?
>> my first doctor said in 30 years he never saw it happened. so i looked up things on the internet and we figured it out. next season i'll be on "house" solving medical mysteries.
>> there is a lot of drama that is in your show. you said this season was an emotional roller coaster .
>> it is. it's my life. it's the truth. you can't always be there like a fairy princess in a wedding gown and say how perfect life is and then when things aren't perfect not be honest about it. i said i would connect with fans about what was going on. a lot of people can relate. it's the truth. going back to document the other season again, no. this is the truth of my life. it's out there.
>> what are some things that happened that you wish hadn't been only camera.
>> i never regret certain things i.'s my life, my marriage. it's hard for me to balance a business and having a baby and be a good friend and manage so have romance. all i do is work through it.
>> i wanted to ask you about a it. one of the statements you make that's been shown in the promos, i have to clean this up for morning television. you say your husband jason may be feeling neglected lately. i sanitized it.
>> we don't say "penis" on morning television?
>> i don't.
>> oh, you don't. my husband's penis allegedly has cobwebs on it. do you know how hard it is to get cobwebs on a penis? it would be can i have cult.
>> you can't say it, but i'm here. when we first got together it's not the same. it's the baby, waking her up. feeling weird.
>> a lot of people can relate. i'm sure you have seen stories the tabloids that say there are strains in the marriage.
>> by the way, are there strains in my marriage? absolutely. do we have issues? absolutely. do we love each other and am i committed to my marriage, making it work and to being a better partner and a better mother? i have frustrations as a mother, in my business. there are strains in every part of my life. i don't know what everybody else does. this is my experience and i try to be the best person i can, the best wife i can. this show is a depiction of what's going on in my life.
>> anyone who watch it is show sees a lot of love and affection and humor. i know you have talked about wanting to have a second baby. how is that going?
>> you know, i'm 41. it's a very personal question i do get asked a lot. we were pregnant with a second baby and at eight weeks i miscarried. that was a very emotional experience and it had a lot of different things that came with it. thinking about women who can't have their own baby, even the first baby, i'm lucky. i have the most beautiful daughter in the world. and i'm grateful for her. but i didn't know -- until you become a woman you don't know the things that come with being a woman. i'm 41. i don't know. it's really not my choice. it's not my option. the window is closing. so it's something i'm dealing with. that's something that has not been dealt with on the show that was recent.
>> it's hard to go through something like that. do you have hope? do you still want to try?
>> i'm really not thinking about it. i don't know what i feel my options are. i have an incredible daughter. i feel like she's perfect. truthfully, i have thought about other women more than myself. in many cases i don't do that. but in this particular case, the first thing i thought about was, oh, my god, i can't believe what people must go through the f they can't even have one. my baby is still 21 months so i'm enjoying her being a baby. there are so many emotional things that come with it that it's hard to put it into a small conversation. you go through a roller coaster of emotions about your age, about being a woman. about can you have another baby. are you a failure to your partner, what if my husband married someone younger. you go through a million things.
>> you have so many blessings. bethenny frankel , thank you for sharing with us.
>> thank you.
>> catch the season premier of "bethenny ever after" tonight on