TODAY | August 11, 2011
>>> another installment of today's professionals. that's right, our panel of power players back. here to take down the hottest headlines and studies making news, star jones is an attorney, author, and tv personality . donny deutsch is chairman of deutsche incorporated, a multibillion dollar advertising agency . but wait, there's more. nancy schneiderman is a head and neck surgeon. take that. nbc chief medical editor. good morning to all of you smarties.
>> good morning.
>> let's talk about "newsweek's" cover of michellebackman. she's a republican presidential candidate who's getting a lot of momentum in iowa right now. that's the cover shot they chose with the headline, "the queen of rage." this raised a lot of eyebrows, dr. nancy 's among them. you think this is sexist?
>> sexist, ridiculous, not fair. the inside copy. the word "rage" is never used. and there is an isolated picture standing in a room that looks like the oval office and looks like she's crying and isolated. she's charismatic and engaging and this made her look cool and mean. donny deutsch can say whatever he wants, he's wrong.
>> a long history of --
>> time out here.
>> going to be --
>> what is politically biassed , not racially -- not sexually biassed .
>> oh, you agree it's biassed .
>> it's biassed . i can show you a cover of newt gingrich with hair coming out of his nose. first, why can't they make a statement. that was a real picture. they didn't air touch her. it's not a flattering article. why can't you write an unflattering biassed article.
>> the article does not match the headline or the pictures.
>> but i have to say, if someone who really defends b main stream media a lot, it leads right into and gives credence to the blessed bias.
>> you want people to suck it up. she wants women to run for president. it's a big job. suck it up, man up, put your big girl pumps on. wait a minute --
>> but women need to stop with the, oh, they're picking on me because i'm a woman.
>> by the way --
>> if you want to be in the game, put your big girl pumps on and get in the game.
>> michelle bachmann did not complain about it.
>> but women all over america who are professionals are the ones i'm also talking about. we have to step it up. we cannot expect to play on an even playing field if every time it looks like they make us cry or they make us emotional, we whine.
>> as the man between the two women , give points to star. i love you like a sister. but okay.
>> all right, trying to get slammed. john binger cries repeatedly. oh well.
>> newspapers have a long history of picking up flattering portraits. i mean, showed a sign the other day with his face in a scowl.
>> and with the swimming trunks on on one of the -- one of the national magazines for goodness sake.
>> let's move on to a topic donny is uniquely qualified to discuss. unfaithfully yours . in a new study in the archives of sexual behavior , men -- why i mentioned donny , men who suffer from nonperformance in the bedroom are more likely to cheat. explain this, if a guy has issues in the bedroom, why does he want to go out and cheat?
>> it's foreign to me.
>> it's counterintuitive. it makes sense. he needs to prove himself some place else. with a stranger no pressure. the person he's with, that would be the most comfortable place obviously, pathetic and sad, he needs to prove something some place else.
>> medically, is there any explanation?
>> sure. it's easy to bored -- get bored with a partner. you can blame your performance on a partner. and they're on an adrenaline rush , anxiety, danger. that makes you or allows you to do things you probably wouldn't otherwise. so i think looking for other partners is not a crime.
>> what do you think?
>> it's a little bit of a moral cop-out. people don't take their vows seriously anymore.
>> of marriage?
>> i haven't been following that in the media. 50% of divorces in the last 20 years.
>> it feels good, you do it. if the maid is handy, you sleep with her and you get her pregnant. i mean, you -- they do that every --
>> that's a big reach.
>> but i mean there are some men who just make choices. there are women who make choices. and people who take the vows seriously and have a moral compass higher than a hyenas would not --
>> you think monogamy is normal?
>> you think monogamy is unnatural.
>> i can't believe i just said that. no --
>> i think --
>> i have to --
>> biological, you have to work hard at it. we're going to say -- i'm going to say something very controversial. i can't believe --
>> get ready.
>> if you ask a lot of me and women what their ideal life would be, having children, basically having their spouse live a block away. having family, having freedom half the time, having a family half the time. i think that's what we're wired for. we socialize in other directions.
>> it's not like --
>> oh i'm not saying it's right. i think that's if people are honest.
>> you see a lion with a bunch of lion ness and the lioness goes over here and raises a teeny tiny lion --
>> i don't know where we are in this, but --
>> i agree with donny .
>> you think monogamy is unnatural.
>> i think it's biologically not normal. but society gives structure to children.
>> i'm working really hard at it.
>> i don't know how we got from that study to this. it will be a good topic for next week. moving on to breastfeeding in public. once again, this issue has been raised. a mother was kicked off of a bus in detroit for nursing her infant son. the driver was suspended as a result and ignited this debate again. dr. nancy , i guess the issue of whether it's proper to breastfeed in public, is there a biological imperative of a nursing mother if she wants to go on with a nursing life, she will have to nurse in public?
>> what is a problem in society when a mother wants to feed her child and she happens to be breast fielding we get wiggy. we're so puritanical about not wanting to see a breast but we have no problem watching the victoria's secret models.
>> it's crazy.
>> you have to go to the bathroom but you don't do that in public.
>> what if i said that, i would get in big trouble . busting me -- look, i think it's a beautiful thing. the only place that i would get a little uncomfortable is if i were with my 8-year-old daughter. them i have to get a whole discussion -- she -- a woman has the right to do that. i would never get up. personally, that would be the only time i would have to get into a discussion and she would say, well, did mommy breastfeed me. but a woman should be able to do what you want.
>> we say breastfeeding is natural and feeding a child is the most natural thing. but at some point, don't we have to make some modesty decisions on whether or not a child at 4 or 5 years old needs to be breast fed.
>> no, forget it.
>> if a kid can ask for a happy meal, the kid should not be breast fed.
>> if you're going to breastfeed in public, be discrete. moms are usually modest. they have a towel or blanket.
>> people don't think they should. a lot of people don't think --
>> i was not breast fed. can we move on.
>> that explains a lot.
>> for donny . yeah.
>> let's move on. i know last week on this segment, you guys had a spirited debate on this topic, a growing number of teenage students blogged on advertised themselves as sugar babies looking for a sugar daddy . in return, the young women used money from the older men to pay off college debt. you and dr. nancy , star, basically you said prostitution. before we ask you, brandon wade is it the founder of one of the most popular of these websites called seekingarrangements.com. good morning, thank you for being with us.
>> good morning, thank you for having me.
>> let me have you respobd to what panelists think about your website which is it's dressed up prostitution.
>> it can't be prostitution. legally speaking, prostitution is money for sex. money in exchange within the context of a relationship. what's wrong with the husband giving the wife some money, or a rich boyfriend giving the girlfriend some money. in this case, it's simply a sugar daddy giving some sugar baby some money with the context of the relationship with a chemistry,romance. there's nothing wrong with that.
>> may not be legal prostitution. but doesn't it walk right up to the line?
>> i don't think so. i mean prostitution means there's no chemistry. people here, you know, there's nothing wrong with a woman wanting to be with wealthy and generous men. i think people say maybe the website, you know, take advantages of women . but in reality, the women who use the website, i feel, is empowered to better their life.
>> you say those who do these arrangements is like a negotiation. it's very open and transparent. by the way, 40% of the men on the website are married, you say?
>> yes, that's correct.
>> ding, ding, ding --
>> and this is chemistry. there's chemistry with a married man and a black card that the married man has.
>> let him respond very quickly and we'll turn to our panel.
>> it's great. it's a relationship. every relationship can start off with a negotiation. would p wouldn't the world be a better place if we could be up front and tell people what it is they have? what is it they want. i believe in brutal honesty.
>> we'll leave it there.
>> seekingarrangements..com. thanks for joining our group today. i heard a lot of mumbles and outright yelling. you still say this is prostitution. you're not convinced.
>> legally, he's correct. it's not prostitution. but morally and ethically, the women know it. it's dressed up in an ivy league education, but simple prostitution. you expect renumeration for sexual favors.
>> i'm not sitting in judgment. i'm giving an evaluation based on the facts which i'm supposed to do.
>> there are many women out there, i do not fault them, who are with men for financial reasons and that's their choice and the man's choice. who are we to sit in judgment if a young girl wants to go to college.
>> how would you feel if your daughter did that?
>> my daughter is in a socioeconomically different position. she wouldn't be. but my daughter, if she ever later in her life for security reasons was going to be making choices that for her well being , that's what she's going to do. these are women who don't come from the same social -- we're so siding i'd logically.
>> if it boils down to she doesn't get her college debt paid for unless she has sex with one of the guys on the website.
>> one of the guys you went out to dinner with last week.
>> these are not my friends.
>> could be.
>> well, i will tell you i came down on -- with star last week saying this is any way you want to look at it, the oldest profession in the world. my 23-year-old, the recent graduate of a prestigious women 's college called me and took me out and said you are out of your league, you are out of touch. and the young websites that were taking me to tasks were right on. she said she has friends who went out for $4,000 a night as arm candy as she called it and there's nothing wrong with it. i happen to think my 23-year-old daughter is flat wrong. and now the whole world knows it.
>> not --
>> thyeah, great --
>> and we want a little bit more -- we want you to open up a little bit more.
>> oh, no, no.
>> no, i'm just the vehicle for your opinions. all right, star jones , donny deutsch , dr. nancy . a head and neck surgeon.
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