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In “Secrets of a Jewish Mother: Real Advice, Real Stories, Real Love,” Jill Zarin of “The Real Housewives of New York” teams up with her sister Lisa Wexler and mother Gloria Kamen to share advice on love, marriage, happiness and, of course, matchmaking. Read an entertaining excerpt on how to navigate modern love:

Chapter 2: Dating
Just because he isn’t perfect doesn’t mean he won’t be perfectly right for you.

Our kids are growing into a generation of young adults that forgot how to date. What happened? Dating as a courtship ritual seems to have disappeared. Where did it go? More impor­tant, what replaced it? Random, anonymous conversations on so­cial networking sites? Hook-ups? Or is that yesterday’s word? We can’t keep up. Even the word “partying” has morphed into a pejo­rative term, implying drug use rather than enjoying yourself at a party without drugs. Many of our young people are lonely. They don’t have “socials” the way we used to or safe places to meet other young adults. For some reason their own friends don’t “set them up” the way we did. If they are not in college and cannot af­ford an apartment of their own, their social world is tiny. So many kids today are content to sit home at their computers, watching life from a screen in their comfortable bedroom, rather than get­ting out there and participating in life. Joanna tells her mother, Lisa, all the time: The computer is both a blessing and a curse.

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    From Katy Perry and Russell Brand to Sacha Baron Cohen and Isla Fisher, see the stars who tied the knot this year.

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    Musician Joel Madden and Nicole Richie were married on Dec. 11, 2010, in a lavish yet private ceremony at Lionel Richie's Beverly Hills estate.

    The ceremony was officiated by rapper-minister Rev. Run and the bride donned three different looks, all by Marchesa, according to UsMagazine.com.

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    Wrestler Hulk Hogan married girlfriend Jennifer McDaniels on Dec. 14, 2010, at an intimate ceremony in Hulk's backyard in Clearwater, Florida. Radar online reports that the wedding got chaotic when cops were called to break-up a brawl between a photographer and the wrestler's bodyguards.

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    British actor/comedian Russell Brand and singer Katy Perry wed in a traditional Hindu ceremony at a luxury resort in a tiger preserve in India on Saturday, Oct. 23, 2010.

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    "Brothers & Sisters" star Dave Annable and actress Odette Yustman were married on Oct. 10, 2010, in an outdoor ceremony in Ojai, California.

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    "American Idol" star Crystal Bowersox married musician Brian Walker on Oct. 10, 2010, at Uncommon Ground Café in Chicago, the restaurant where the couple had met six years earlier while both performing at Open Mic Night.

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    "Bones" star Emily Deschanel married writer-actor David Hornsby on Sept. 25, 2010 during a small private ceremony in the Pacific Palisades area of Los Angeles. Hornsby appeared on the comedy "It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia."

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    Johnny Knoxville wed longtime girlfriend Naomi Nelson (right) on Sept 24, 2010. They have a son, Rocko Akira Clapp, who will be one on Dec 20. Knoxville also has a teenage daughter (left) with his ex-wife Melanie Clapp. The two divorced in 2008.

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    Rocker Eddie Vedder and model Jill McCormick wed in a romantic ceremony in Oahu on Sept. 18, 2010. They have two daughters, Olivia, born June 11, 2004, and Harper Moon, born Sept. 23, 2008. Vedder and McCormick became engaged in Dec. 2009 at the Kennedy Center Honors gala in Washington, D.C.

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    Kelly McGillis, the actress who won the heart of Tom Cruise in the 1986 movie "Top Gun," wed her girlfriend of ten years, Melanie Leis, in a civil union ceremony in Collingswood, New Jersey, on Sept. 15, 2010.

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    Supermodel Kate Moss married her long-term, rocker boyfriend Jamie Hince in August 2010. According to reports, Moss went barefoot and wore a see-through white gown for the low-key ceremony in Sicily.

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    Chad Lowe and Kim Painter were married on Aug. 28, 2010, before a small group of friends and family at Terranea Resort in Los Angeles. According to People magazine, Chad's brother Rob Lowe was best man and the couple's 15-month old daughter Mabel served as ring bearer.

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    Anna Paquin and Stephen Moyer, stars of the HBO vampire drama "True Blood," got married Aug. 21, 2010, at a private residence in Malibu, Calif.

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    Hilary Duff and Mike Comrie married Aug. 14, 2010 in Santa Barbara, Calif. The 22-year-old Hilary, in Vera Wang, and the Canadian hockey player, 29, exchanged vows in front of 100 guests.

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    British pop star Robbie Williams and actress Ayda Field got married Aug. 7 2010. The couple, who met in 2006, exchanged vows in front of about 75 friends and family members at his Beverly Hills home.

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    Singing star Alicia Keys and music producer Swizz Beatz attend a benefit at Russell Simmons' estate in East Hampton, N.Y., on July 24, 2010. The couple, expecting a child together, held a wedding celebration on the island of Corsica on July 31, 2010, where the guests included Bono and Queen Latifah.

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    Rapper T.I. and singer-songwriter Tameka "Tiny" Cottle arrive at the Grammy Awards in Los Angeles in February 2009. The couple, who have two sons together as well three other children, were married in Miami Beach on July 31, 2010.

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    Chelsea Clinton walks with Marc Mezvinsky after their wedding ceremony at Astor Court in Rhinebeck, N.Y., on July 31, 2010. Bill and Hillary Clinton's daughter married her long-time boyfriend in what has been dubbed America's royal wedding.

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    Australian model Miranda Kerr and actor Orlando Bloom attend the grand opening of Vdara Hotel & Spa in Las Vegas in 2009. On July 22, 2010, Kerr released a statement announcing that the couple had been married in a quiet ceremony.

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    Spanish actors Penelope Cruz and Javier Bardem joined the ranks of Oscar-winning married couples after tying the knot in the Bahamas in July 2010. The pair, each marrying for the first time, started dating in 2007.

    Cruz, 36, won an Academy Award in 2009 for her supporting role in "Vicky Cristina Barcelona." Bardem, 41, won his statuette a year earlier for "No Country For Old Men."

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    Country star, Carrie Underwood, 27, and her hockey player beau, Mike Fisher, 30, tied the knot at a luxury resort Saturday, July 10, before 250 friends and family. The ceremony featured classical music and the couple's favorite Bible readings, according to PEOPLE.

    Fisher, who plays for the Ottawa Senators, was engaged to Underwood on Dec. 20, after quietly dating for about a year. Underwood told PEOPLE in March that with their busy schedules, “We'll be little nomads for a while” and that they planned to keep homes in Nashville and in Peterborough, Ontario.

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    TV personality La La Vasquez and Denver Nuggets basketball player Carmelo Anthony attend their wedding at Cipriani 42nd Street on July 10 in New York City. Some of the guests that attended the wedding were Ciara, LeBron James, Ludacris, Serena Williams, Kim Kardashian and director Spike Lee.

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    Actors John Krasinski and Emily Blunt made got married on July 10, in a private ceremony at the Villa D'este in Como, Italy. Krasinski's rep confirmed the wedding, according to published reports, adding that Blunt wore a custom cream chiffon sweetheart draped Marchesa gown with embroidered detail. Krasinski, 30, and Blunt, 27, began dating in 2008 and became engaged in August 2009.

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    Comedian Martin Lawrence and longtime girlfriend Shamicka Gibbs were married on July 10. Their daughters Amara, 7, and Lyanna, 9, and Lawrence's daughter Jasmine, 14, (File photo shows Jasmine, right and Lyanna, left) from a previous marriage were flower girls. After the ceremony, Lawrence, 45, and Gibbs, 35, held a family-style celebration.

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    Megan Fox and former "90210" star Brian Austin Green got married on June 24, 2010. Green's son, Kassius, 8, was present at the ceremony. Months before the wedding, Megan told Us Weekly that Brian would be a hands-on groom: "He is in on the planning. He wants to be!"

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    On June 16, 2010, Harrison Ford and Calista Flockhart tied the knot in Santa Fe, New Mexico. The ceremony took place at the Governor's mansion, where Governor Bill Richardson officiated.

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    "Glee" actress Jane Lynch and Dr. Lara Embry were married at the Blue Heron Restaurant in Sunderland, Massachusetts, on June 6, 2010. A friend who became a Universal Life minister for the event officiated.

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    Former "Beverly Hills 90210" star Ian Ziering, who was on the 2007 season of "Dancing With The Stars," married Erin Kristine Ludwig, a nurse, in Newport Beach, California, on May 28, 2010.

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    Alanis Morissette married rapper Mario "Souleye" Treadway during an intimate ceremony in Los Angeles on May 22, 2010.

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    "So happy to share with you that my man Souleye and I got married," Morissette shared on her Twitter page. "We're very excited to embark on this journey with each other."

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    CW stars Danneel Harris and Jensen Ackles were married in Dallas, Texas, on May 15, 2010. The couple dated for three years and costarred in the 2007 comedy "Ten Inch Hero."

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    Actor and comedian Seth Green married model Clare Grant on May 1, 2010, at a private vineyard in Northern California.

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    Comedian and "Borat" star Sacha Baron Cohen married Australian actress Isla Fisher, of "Confessions of a Shopaholic," on Mar. 15, 2010, in a small Jewish ceremony in Paris. According to PEOPLE magazine, Isla said of her nuptials, "It's very important to me to have a beautiful ritual celebrated with my family and friends. And when you are in the public eye, to keep that private and to make it happen without it being really visible is really difficult."

    On 19 October 2007, Fisher gave birth to a baby girl named Olive Baron Cohen in Los Angeles, California.

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    "Weekend Today" anchor Amy Robach and former "Melrose Place" actor Andrew Shue were married in New York City's Lighthouse at Chelsea Piers on Feb. 6, 2010, which was also the bride's 37th birthday.

    Shue's mother officiated the ceremony and the couple exchanged their own vows before guests. "It was the most beautiful night in every way," Robach said.

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    British author and model Sophie Dahl, 32, married singer and pianist Jamie Cullum, 30, in a secret ceremony in the New Forest, Hampshire on Jan. 9, 2010. According to reports, the bride wore an ivory Versace-style gown for her reception.

    Sophie Dahl is the granddaughter of celebrated children's author Roald Dahl, who penned "Charlie and the Chocolate Factory" and "Matilda."

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    On Jan. 2, 2010, "The Break-Up" star Vince Vaughn married Canadian real estate agent Kyla Weber in his hometown of Lake Forest, Illinois. They enjoyed a small, private ceremony at the Great Hall of the historic Armour House at Lake Forest Academy in Lake Forest, Illinois.

    The couple has been engaged since Valentine's Day 2009.

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Despite the lack of what we used to call “dating,” meeting people and seeking a life partner is still an important part of life. The rules may change daily, but that just makes socializing more confusing, not less essential. Twenty- and thirty-somethings are still out there looking for their perfect mate. We have also noticed that the issues of dating resurface frequently in middle age, be­cause so many people are either divorced or widowed. There may be a lot more baggage at that stage, and many more complexities, but whether we are twenty-four or fifty-four, we still have the same feelings of anxiety and rejection: Is he or she out there? Why didn’t this one work? Why didn’t he like me? The key is to main­tain hope: I’ll check in tonight on JDate; maybe Mr. Right is wait­ing on my desktop.

In this chapter we explain how we found our Mr. Rights. More important, we tell you how to identify the definitely Mr. Wrongs.

What are the sexual expectations of today’s youth? Of course, it depends on whom you ask. But there is no doubt that we have saturated this latest generation with an abundance of sexual­ity. Did you put a condom on a banana in ninth grade? Joanna did. Did you learn about the nuances of hetero and homosex­ual intercourse before you were sixteen? Our kids know more than we did then, or now. In our quest to ensure that our kids know every possible bad thing that could happen to them as a result of being sexually active, we have taken some of the mys­tery and romance out of life. We have created a jaded generation.

The shiddoch
If you are serious about getting serious, then you have come to the right place. For casual dating, move to another book — the Jewish mother is not interested. Dating is serious business to the Jewish mother; she knows that few things in life are more impor­tant than finding the right mate. Did you know that all Jewish mothers are born matchmakers? It is true. Lisa and Jill pride themselves on their matchmaking abilities. Plus it’s a huge mitz­vah, and we need as many of those as we can get.

How do you find the right person for you? We think the best way to meet someone is through a match, the traditional shid­doch. Our parents, Sol and Gloria, met that way. Jill met her first husband, Steven, that way too. If you are single, get the word out. Tell your friends you are looking. You can’t expect them to read your mind; everybody has his own life to worry about. If you do not know anyone who is willing to set you up, there are profes­sional matchmaking services in every region and on every desktop. Do not expect your white knight to magically appear one day when you are waiting in line for coffee, on the elevator or at the airport terminal. If you want to find love, you have to think of it as a second job (provided you have a first job). That means you have to be open to a shiddoch. Have a little trust — and carry pep­per spray, just in case.

Lisa’s matchmaking method
I do matchmaking all the time. If I find out that you are single, I begin the interrogation: What are you looking for — kids, no kids, city, country, age, religion, interests? Then I begin the match in my head. Whom do I know who might be suitable for you? I can’t help it — I assume every­one wants to be in love. Everyone needs love, so I as­sume everyone also wants to meet that perfect match. If I know someone who might be right, I ask only one thing of each person in the match — they have to agree to go out on a second date. I read that someplace in a maga­zine and I thought it was a great rule; it takes all the pres­sure off the first date. I have at least one marriage I can take credit for, and right now two friends of mine whom I fixed up are dating steadily. Of course, my kids would never let me fix them up — they’re still too young to be desperate enough to have their mother set them up on a blind date. But not to worry ... I’m out there looking any­way. Who said I needed their permission?

Jill’s philosophy on matchmakingI take matchmaking very seriously. It is not a sport for me. I truly believe that God will give me credit for this one day, and I love to get credit! I matched up a nice Jewish girl and a widowed dentist, and they got married. I am keeping my fingers crossed on some other matches I have made. If I were dating today, I would definitely go on JDate.com, which is an Internet matchmaking site for Jews. There is no stigma attached to online dating today like there was just a few years ago. In fact, Bobby’s son, David, met his wife, Jill, on JDate.com. So did our cousin Rebecca, Aunt Cooky’s daughter, who married Mark. Simon and Alex McCord, my costars on "Housewives,"met on an international dating site. They say they were look­ing for a one-night stand and not a relationship but ended up falling in love instead. Cast the net as wide as you possibly can — listen to your friends, go on blind dates and go online. You have to work to find love.

Of course, you can’t create chemistry. It’s either there, or it’s not. The matchmaking Jewish mother puts the pieces in place as best she can and then leaves the rest up to God and Cupid.

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    The heights of love

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    New Jersey Nets forward Kris Humphries, at 6-foot-9, towers over his 5-foot-2 fiancée, Kim Kardashian in Monaco on May 27, 2011.

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  • What's a little height difference when you're in love? Sometimes it's the female of the species who's tall and the male who's small; other times it's vice versa. Either way, attraction often trumps altitude. For example, Tom Cruise was trading up (comparatively) when he popped the question to one-time "Dawson's Creek" cutie Katie Holmes at the top of the Eiffel Tower in 2005; after all, ex-wife Nicole Kidman towered 3 and a half inches over him, while Suri's mom is only 2 inches taller. Now that's something worth jumping on a couch about!

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    What's a little height difference when you're in love? Sometimes it's the female of the species who's tall and the male who's small; other times it's vice versa. Either way, attraction often trumps altitude. For example, Tom Cruise was trading up (comparatively) when he popped the question to one-time "Dawson's Creek" cutie Katie Holmes at the top of the Eiffel Tower in 2005; after all, ex-wife Nicole Kidman towered 3 and a half inches over him, while Suri's mom is only 2 inches taller. Now that's something worth jumping on a couch about!

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    Six-foot-2 actor Dax Shepard hit new career heights with comedies like "Employee of the Month" and "Baby Mama." Kristen Bell is only 5'1", but has a high entertainment profile with TV's "Veronica Mars" and the film "When in Rome." The couple started dating in 2007 and became engaged in February 2010.

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    Stacy Ann Ferguson, better known by her stage name of Fergie, regularly tops the record charts both solo and as part of Black Eyed Peas, even though she's only 5-foot-2. In 2004 she started dating 6-foot-3 1/2 Hollywood hunk Josh Duhamel, and they tied the knot in January 2009.

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  • Granddaughter of Willy Wonka creator Roald Dahl and actress Patricia Neal, writer Sophie Dahl is no longer a plus-size model as she was in her teens -- but she still has a considerable plus in height over award-winning English musician Jamie Cullum. Sophie, who met Cullum at a breast cancer charity event where they performed two songs together, seems to have a thing for musicians -- reportedly, she was formerly involved with Mick Jagger.

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    Granddaughter of Willy Wonka creator Roald Dahl and actress Patricia Neal, writer Sophie Dahl is no longer a plus-size model as she was in her teens -- but she still has a considerable plus in height over award-winning English musician Jamie Cullum. Sophie, who met Cullum at a breast cancer charity event where they performed two songs together, seems to have a thing for musicians -- reportedly, she was formerly involved with Mick Jagger.

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    Actor Peter Dinklage made a big splash in such films as the critically acclaimed "The Station Agent" despite being only 4'5" due to being born with achondroplasia dwarfism. In 2005 he married theater director Erica Schmidt, who is of normal height.

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    New Zealand-born country superstar Keith Urban rides high on the music charts despite his height of only 5 feet, 8.5 inches. Actress Nicole Kidman is 2 inches taller at 5'10 1/2". The two wed in Australia in 2006, and welcomed their first child, Sunday Rose Kidman Urban, in July 2008.

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    Khloe Kardashian, who costarred with sisters Kourtney and Kim in the reality series "Keeping Up with Kardashians," is hardly short, standing all of 5-foot-10. But she still looks small next to her husband, Los Angeles Lakers forward Lamar Odom, who's a full foot taller at 6-foot-10. The two tied the knot in September 2009.

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    Actor Will Arnett made his mark in TV series "Arrested Develpment" and went on to such films as "Blades of Glory." His fellow comic actor Amy Poehler was also in "Blades," as well as TV's "Saturday Night Live" and "Parks and Recreation." The 6-foot-2 1/2 Arnett and 5-foot-2 Poehler gave birth to a son, Archibald "Archie" William Emerson Arnett, in October 2008.

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  • "Do Ya Think I'm Sexy?" singer Rod Stewart got a big "yes" to that  question from English model and photographer Penny Lancaster even though she's several inches taller than him. Ironically, even though Rod's ex Rachel Hunter succeeded Penny as the face (and body) of Ultimo lingerie, it was Lancaster who succeeded Hunter to become Mrs. Stewart No. 3 in June 2007. After all, she'd already given birth to his son -- one of Rod's seven children by five different women -- in 2005.

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    "Do Ya Think I'm Sexy?" singer Rod Stewart got a big "yes" to that question from English model and photographer Penny Lancaster even though she's several inches taller than him. Ironically, even though Rod's ex Rachel Hunter succeeded Penny as the face (and body) of Ultimo lingerie, it was Lancaster who succeeded Hunter to become Mrs. Stewart No. 3 in June 2007. After all, she'd already given birth to his son -- one of Rod's seven children by five different women -- in 2005.

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    Christina Ricci made it big in such films as "The Opposite of Sex" and "Black Snake Moan" despite her diminutive height of 5-foot-1. She was once engaged to comedian Owen Benjamin, a regular correspondent on "The Jay Leno Show," despite their reported 17-inch height difference.

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    Best known as Meadow on "The Sopranos," Jamie-Lynn Sigler is only 5-foot-5, but her heels make her look taller than actor Jerry Ferrara, whose signature role is Turtle on "Entourage." They were spotted together at the L.A. premiere of "The Hangover" in June 2009.

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  • Though superstar Will Smith's actress/singer wife Jada may have come from "A Different World" (in height, as well as the TV series where she first became a star), the two are one of the most successful power couples in show biz. Their collaborations include "Ali" (he got an Oscar nomination in the title role while she played Cassius Clay's first wife); "All of Us," a sitcom based on themselves, which they executive-produced; and the Will and Jada Foundation to benefit inner-city youth. Together they also produced a son, Jaden, and a daughter, Willow, both of whom have worked with their dad in films.

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    Though superstar Will Smith's actress/singer wife Jada may have come from "A Different World" (in height, as well as the TV series where she first became a star), the two are one of the most successful power couples in show biz. Their collaborations include "Ali" (he got an Oscar nomination in the title role while she played Cassius Clay's first wife); "All of Us," a sitcom based on themselves, which they executive-produced; and the Will and Jada Foundation to benefit inner-city youth. Together they also produced a son, Jaden, and a daughter, Willow, both of whom have worked with their dad in films.

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    Paris-born actress, singer and model Emmanuelle Seigner is 5-foot-8, making her 3 inches taller than her husband Roman Polanski, known not only for his acclaimed films, but also for his marriage to murdered actress Sharon Tate and his 1977 arrest for sexual assault of a 13-year-old girl.

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  • Best known for playing Dr. Evil's vertically challenged sidekick Mini-Me in the latter two Austin Powers movies, as well as an infamous stint on VH1's "The Surreal Life" and an Apple Computer commercial with NBA superstar Yao Ming, 2-foot-6 Verne Troyer opted for maxi-matrimony when he wed Genevieve Gallen, a yoga instructor who has shown all of her considerably taller frame in Playboy magazine. But maybe they were just too different: Troyer subsequently filed for an annulment.

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    Best known for playing Dr. Evil's vertically challenged sidekick Mini-Me in the latter two Austin Powers movies, as well as an infamous stint on VH1's "The Surreal Life" and an Apple Computer commercial with NBA superstar Yao Ming, 2-foot-6 Verne Troyer opted for maxi-matrimony when he wed Genevieve Gallen, a yoga instructor who has shown all of her considerably taller frame in Playboy magazine. But maybe they were just too different: Troyer subsequently filed for an annulment.

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    Freddie Prinze Jr. of "24" fame is 6-foot-1 while former "Buffy the Vampire Slayer" star Sarah Michelle Gellar is only 5-foot-3. But the difference in altitude didn't stop them from co-starring in "Scooby-Doo" in 2002, nor from getting married the same year (Gellar legally changed her name to Sarah Michelle Prinze in 2007). They had a daughter, Charlotte Grace Prinze, in September 2009.

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    Novelist Salman Rushdie looms large in the literary world with a prestigious Booker Prize and many other accolades, but stands only 5' 7". Married four times, he was seen at the April 2009 Tribeca Film Festival in New York City with 6-foot-1 actress and singer Pia Glenn.

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  • Talk about "Strange Love": stupendous Danish actress Brigitte Nielsen's many loves have included Sylvester Stallone, football star Mark Gastineau, and rapper Flavor Flav, whom she famously shared smoldering glances with on VH1's "The Surreal Life" and their own spinoff, "Strange Love." But Brigitte wound up choosing a different flavor of man when she married bartender Mattia Dessi (who had appeared in "Strange Love") in July 2006. Her maid of honor was Ivanka Trump.

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    Talk about "Strange Love": stupendous Danish actress Brigitte Nielsen's many loves have included Sylvester Stallone, football star Mark Gastineau, and rapper Flavor Flav, whom she famously shared smoldering glances with on VH1's "The Surreal Life" and their own spinoff, "Strange Love." But Brigitte wound up choosing a different flavor of man when she married bartender Mattia Dessi (who had appeared in "Strange Love") in July 2006. Her maid of honor was Ivanka Trump.

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  • Sir Mick has been a Rolling Stone in more than one sense of the term, with a long list of loves that includes Bianca Jagger, Jerry Hall, Marianne Faithfull, Janice Dickinson and Carla Bruni -- in fact, the veteran rocker has had seven children with a total of four women. All the more impressive, then, that statuesque fashion designer and ex-model L'Wren Scott has managed to make herself what Jagger calls his "main point of interest." Who says you can't get no satisfaction?

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    Sir Mick has been a Rolling Stone in more than one sense of the term, with a long list of loves that includes Bianca Jagger, Jerry Hall, Marianne Faithfull, Janice Dickinson and Carla Bruni -- in fact, the veteran rocker has had seven children with a total of four women. All the more impressive, then, that statuesque fashion designer and ex-model L'Wren Scott has managed to make herself what Jagger calls his "main point of interest." Who says you can't get no satisfaction?

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    Best known for his comic personas Borat and Bruno, British actor/comedian Sacha Baron Cohen is 6-foot-3, while Australian actress Isla Fisher is only 5'3". But their love towers; Fisher gave birth to their daughter, Olive Baron Cohen, in October 2007. The couple reportedly married in March 2010.

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By the way, the savvy Jewish mother does not believe that there is only one perfect match for someone. She is way too practical for that. What happens if, God forbid, bite your tongue three times, something happens to that person? Does that mean you should be alone the rest of your life? Absolutely not. What about divorce? Maybe he was perfect for you for a while, but you weren’t so perfect for him. What are you supposed to do — just sit there and feel sorry for yourself? Jewish mothers are not only resilient, they are flexible. Many shoes can fit the same feet. Now, will you please call the num­ber we gave you? We hear he is a nice boy from a very good family.

On dating men you meet online
Look up your date on Google before you go out with him. If you really like him, but want to know more, you can even have an online search service check him out. You can never be too safe.

Ask yourself:

1. Are you looking for a serious relationship?

2. Have you told everyone you know that you are looking and asked them to set you up?

3. What are you waiting for? Perhaps more precisely, what are you afraid of?

4. Have you signed up on an Internet dating site yet? What did you like or dislike about it?

The Jewish husband: Myth and reality
Let’s face it: Everyone is looking for a good Jewish husband. Jewish girls for sure are looking, but so are Irish lasses and southern belles. They’ve heard that Jewish men make the best husbands too. We have a few things to say on that subject:

1. Not all Jewish men make the best husbands. Trust us on this one.

2. Why is a Jewish husband better than others? He has been trained, from birth, to respect women. He may not like his wife, he may not even love his wife, but he definitely respects his wife.

3. Jewish men usually are great fathers. Even if they are lousy husbands, they are usually devoted daddies.

4. Traditionally, Jewish men didn’t drink and didn’t fool around. But today, we wouldn’t swear for either virtue...

5. If you do find a good Jewish man who makes a decent hus­band, give us Jewish mothers some credit for this. God knows we get the blame. And for the record, Jewish wives can be pretty terrific too, thank you very much.

Excerpted from “Secrets of a Jewish Mother,” by Jill Zarin, Lisa Wexler and Gloria Kamen. Copyright © 2010 by Dutton. Excerpted by permission of Dutton. All rights reserved.

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