June 27, 2011 at 9:31 AM ET
Fascinating story this morning about birth parents contacting the children they gave up for adoption through Facebook -- sometimes before contacting their adoptive parents, sometimes even before the children know they've been adopted.
Tracking down and contacting adopted children used to be a long, slow process controlled mainly by the adoptive parents, but not anymore. As The New York Times reports, all it takes for a potentially life-changing reunion is "a computer, Wi-Fi and some luck."
This has got to change the conversation about how and when you tell children they've been adopted.
"Any parent who's not telling her kid that she's adopted is taking a huge risk of the kid finding out that she was lied to every day," says Adam Pertman, executive director of the Evan B. Donaldson Adoption Institute and author of "Adoption Nation."
What do you think?