Sex after baby -- it doesn't have to be a contradiction in terms. Ian Kerner and Hilda Hutcherson appeared on TODAY Wednesday to talk about Hutcherson's new book, "Sex and the Baby Years."
They joined TODAY Moms for a live chat on Wednesday morning; you can read a full archive of the questions and answers here.
Here's what Ian has to say about the book on his web site, Good in Bed:
When you have a baby, sex goes from being something that used to be spontaneous to something that goes on a to-do list. And as sex falls to the bottom of that list, relationships become increasingly vulnerable: to anger, resentment, indifference, and, yes, infidelity. No wonder studies show that 90% of new parents experience a significant decline in relationship satisfaction, and that many couples end up divorced within five years of having a baby.
In the end, every parent wants their child to be happy. That's why we do our best to give them everything: from setting up college funds to giving up our careers to stay at home with them. But in the end, a happy child is part of a happy family, and at the heart of that happy family are two parents who are connected, loving and intimate. Becoming a parent doesn't mean becoming selfless, it means becoming selfish about the things that really matter: like your sex life.
So, the big question: How do we do it? Of course, we have kids, so we know how to do "it." But how do you make sex a priority when you're already exhausted and overloaded and haven't had five minutes for a shower? Please bring your questions and join the conversation with these authors.