Kids and family secrets: When to tell them what they need to know

Nov. 5, 2012 at 3:40 PM ET

We live in an age of over-sharing information, but when it comes to family secrets, when is it OK to tell the kids?  Are we spilling too much?

Experts such as psychiatrist and TODAY contributor Janet Taylor say that what you share with kids depends on what the “secret” is, how old they are, and whether they are emotionally capable of  understanding the situation.

Family financial challenges, or an impending move, are both situations that should be shared with kids, but it’s important to keep things in context

Even marriage troubles can be shared, but some things should remain private. Kids don’t need to know the cause of troubles, but do need to know how it is going to impact them or whether anything is going to change.

Kathie Lee Gifford’s advice: “Don’t ever put the kids in the middle.”