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    >>> you said that was absolutely not true.

    >> it is not true.

    >> i have proof.

    >> and you know it.

    >> it is true.

    >> you are joking.

    >> brandi glanville describes herself as honest and filter free. she's known for speaking her mind on bravo's "the real housewives of beverly hills " as you just see. that clip real quick, was there a little drinking and tweeting going on there as well?

    >> yes. absolutely. always.

    >> how are you and adrienne do?

    >> who?

    >> that's how we're going to start, okay. let's talk about the book. you wrote most of it four years ago at a time when your marriage was breaking up. do you regret anything you put in there now that you would like to have out of there if you could do it again?

    >> no. i was very angry, obviously, four years ago when i wrote the book. there were things in there that i did take out because i was so mad like, oorks maybe that's too much of a low blow. and also the lawyers had me take some things out as well.

    >> obviously, you were mad at your ex-husband, who left you essentially for leann rhymes . among other things you call him a made for tv actor, a pretty face, not a talented actor. i understand and a lot of people would understand why you're angry, but he is the father of your two kids.

    >> right.

    >> is it appropriate to put that out there in public?

    >> you know, i don't know if i do everything that's appropriate in life. the fact of the matter is, that is my opinion and one day all of this will be available for my kids to read and i think what they're going to take away from it is that throughout this entire time, i've never said a bad word about their dad in front of them. they ask if we can go and all move into a house together. i'm like, sure, just talk to your dad.

    >> they're going to be at the age soon where they'll see this online and see what you said about their father.

    >> not at my house. we have parental controls . they can't google certain things.

    >> eventually.

    >> eventually, they will, for sure.

    >> we reached out to eddie and he gave us a statement. quote, i certainly wish i handled some of the choices i made four years ago differently. but i have been conscious of the choices i have made since. this exploitive book, intended to hurt leann and me will ultimately only hurt and scar my kids. that deeply saddens and concerns me. do you worry about the kids?

    >> that's all i worry about. with eddie not working and me having to pay my own bills, this book will help me do that. the fact that, unfortunately, i had to write this book, i have to pay the bills. he's not doing that for me.

    >> what's your relationship like with eddie right now?

    >> we don't have one now.

    >> you don't speak at all?

    >> no.

    >> you don't see him in the course of dropping the kids off or picking the kids up?

    >> no.

    >> you did have a relationship not long ago. how did that deteriorate of late?

    >> unfortunately, you know, she -- leann went to rehab. and i was very concerned for my children, what was going on over at that house. why that had to happen. and i didn't get any answers. and i got very angry. you know, it's my children's stepmother. so, if she's checking into rehab for stress and anxiety and says she's crying every day, i need to know my kids are okay when they're with them. so that kind of started the ugly back and forth again and, you know, there was a time when we were good. i had them over for easter. it was just them, me and the kids for an easter egg hunt . it's difficult.

    >> what are your concerns when your kids are over there, given what you said about leann and eddie ? what do you think is happening there that should concern you?

    >> i don't know. if someone is checking into rehab clearly there's some sort of issues going on. i want to make sure that's not affecting my children.

    >> you write in the book of leann rhymes , among other things, call her a washed up country singer . child stars are just the worst. throughout their careers no one tells them knno. they think they can take anything they want without repercussions. you're talking, of course, about i don't you are husband. you've had this twitter war. she says she wants to move on and you won't let her.

    >> i don't tweet leann . i try to leave them out of my timeline. i really do.

    >> do you feel that you and leann will ever have a relationship because of the kids that can be at least stable, something that will help the children?

    >> i hope so. i think once leann has a child of her own and understands kind of boundaries and what's okay and what's respectful as far as, you know, being a parent goes that she and i will hopefully be okay. i hope so.

    >> do you think this book does anything to forward that relationship?

    >> no.

    >> how about the relationship with your husband?

    >> my husband? i'm not married.

    >> your ex-husband, excuse me. excuse me.

    >> no.

    >> and you're okay with that?

    >> i'm okay with that.

    >> so are you okay with having no relationship from this moment forward with eddie or leann ?

    >> i haven't had a relationship with them for probably over a year. do i want to be at mason's high school graduation and be able to sit next to them? i do, absolutely. they've done numerous sit-down interviews where they've told their side of the story over and over and over again. i never did. this is my sit-down interview. i put it in the form of a book. this is my story, my truth. here you go. when this book tour is done, i'm done talking about them completely, in public, not on twitter, nothing. this is my side. this is my last chapter when it comes to talking about them publicly.

    >> the book is very tough in some places, very funny in a lot of other places. your fans are going to love it. brandi glanville, the book is "drinking, tweeting and other brandi blunders." thank

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updated 2/11/2013 6:09:06 PM ET 2013-02-11T23:09:06

As one of the “Real Housewives of Beverly Hills,” Brandi Glanville’s life played out on the small screen with tumultuous results. In her new memoir, “Drinking and Tweeting,” Glanville lays bare her life as a celebrity, a mother and a divorcee. Here’s an excerpt.

Remember the good old days when social media didn’t exist? When the first thing you grabbed in the morning was a cup of coffee and not your iPhone and when personal privacy wasn’t just a setting you have to select? I think of those pretech days as the golden years, when everything you said and did wasn’t an opportunity to alert five hundred of your “closest” friends (and something that could come back and bite you in the ass later).

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Social media has completely changed the way we interact with one another. Instead of calling your best friend for a movie night, now you send him or her a Facebook message. Instead of mailing baby announcements when you have a child, you blast it out on Instagram. And instead of your casual one-night Vegas wedding to your former friend’s ex-husband one New Year’s Eve’s remaining between you, him, and the county clerk, it gets blasted to the Twitter-verse and ends up #Trending on every gossip site from here to Timbuktu. Oh, wait, that’s just me. Either way, social media has made even the most intimate events something you share with not only everyone you’ve ever met, but complete strangers—narcissism at its finest. It’s how people announce engagements, travel plans, weddings, pregnancies, new jobs, new relationships, new shoes, deaths, divorces, promotions, and even breakups.

I think social media is the enemy of anyone going through a split. Technology is no longer just how we connect with each other, it’s how we disconnect with each other. You used to be able to break up with someone (a boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife, or friend), and he or she virtually disappeared from your life. And that’s the way it’s supposed to be, isn’t it?

Sure, occasionally a certain sappy song or romantic movie would come on, and you’d wonder what he or she was up to, but there was no way to know. Of course, you could always pick up the phone (and more recently, text or e-mail), but that would require that person’s knowing you were thinking of him or her. Where’s the fun in that? You never want them to know you’re thinking of them, so you refrain. Before long the memories start to fade. One day, you realize you can’t quite remember how she smelled or the exact color of his eyes. Eventually, without ever knowing it, you just forget that person altogether. You replace old memories with new ones, and life goes on. It was the clean break you needed to move forward.

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Well, Facebook f____d that up, didn’t it? Welcome to 2013, ladies and gays. A breakup is no longer grabbing a tub of ice cream, a box of Kleenex, and watching The Notebook. Today, it’s the chance to enter into a second, extremely unhealthy phase of your breakup: cyber-stalking. You know what I’m talking about. It’s that impulse to constantly refresh his Twitter feed to see if he has posted anything new. Or that urge to routinely check Instagram for new photos of that face that you should already have long forgotten. So thanks to some dorky dude from Harvard—and the virtual parade of social media that followed—we can subject ourselves to this cruel form of self-torture. I was cursed with a front-row seat into my ex-husband’s brand-new life without me. Via his new girlfriend’s Twitter page, I was pretty much able to witness every moment of their lives—partially because I was obsessed with tracking him, and partially because she loved to post s__t to piss me off (and still does). #FML. I knew better. You know better. We all know better. But that doesn’t mean we’re going to stop. It’s completely masochistic, but strangely satisfying. After months of waffling, you finally decide that you have mustered enough courage to “unfollow” that person on Twitter or “defriend” him or her on Facebook—a decision you will undoubtedly regret when you’re psychotically driven to check whether his profile photo has changed or when you’re obsessively counting how many tweets he posted in your absence (especially if he is “private”). #CrazyTown. However, that’s better than the alternative when one day you go to check his profile and you’ve been defriended, or worse . . . BLOCKED. #Gut- Punch. Or perhaps you’re like me and never “friend” or “follow” your ex and his or her new partner to begin with. Instead, you stalk their profiles through mutual friends, because you don’t want to give them the satisfaction of knowing that you follow them.

In my opinion, social media can easily become this all-consuming obsession that drives you to other vices (such as countless bottles of white wine).

However, I’m not entirely sure if I subscribe to the idea of “twee-hab” (in which people seek professional help for social-media addictions). I can totally relate to those people who feel social media has taken over their lives, but cyber-rehab? Really? If you have the kind of money to check yourself into therapy because you can’t stop tweeting, go buy a plane ticket to Maui and take a vacation instead.

For those people with preexisting dependencies and addictive personalities, it can be especially dangerous. And if that’s the case, seeking medical treatment to help conquer those demons is commendable. I just don’t believe that regular people need treatment just because they can’t stop refreshing their news feeds.

But if you’re like me, and you used social media as an emotional crutch to maintain some kind of self-destructive connection with someone that you should already have let go of, you don’t need cyber-rehab, you need to take your life back. But like all things, it’s easier discussed than done (except sex, which is easier done than discussed!).

I blame Eddie for breaking my heart, but I blame social media for keeping it broken for so long.

From DRINKING AND TWEETING AND OTHER BRANDI BLUNDERS by Brandi Glanville. Copyright ©2013 by Brandi Glanville. Reprinted with permission from Gallery, a Division of Simon & Schuster, Inc.

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