Mary Hunt shares tips to approach gift-giving with an eye for financial responsibility in "Debt-Proof Your Christmas." Here's an excerpt.
The simple act of gift-giving has become extremely complicated. I blame that on the consumer-credit industry. Think about it. You can be completely broke but still spend thousands of dollars on Christmas gifts—and believe it is not only your right to do so but also your obligation to do so. We believe the message that we have to spend a lot for Christmas gifts to be socially acceptable.
Gift-giving is a custom that has pretty much run amok. But it doesn’t have to be that way. We can choose to make wise and reason- able decisions about the gifts we give.
How many of you cannot recall the gifts you gave last Christmas? How about the gifts you received? Come on, let’s see those hands. Okay, that’s just about everybody.
It’s not because we’re total ingrates that we have trouble remembering the gifts we received. It’s because when it’s all over, the gifts pale in comparison to the joy they deliver—the love and best wishes for the season. That’s what we carry with us from one year to the next.
Okay, so here’s another question. How many of you still have a sense of the joy and good feelings associated with gift-giving that took place in your home and your life last Christmas, even if you cannot recall the specific gifts? Look at that. Hands are going up all over the room! At least some of those gifts did their job. They delivered joy and love and then quietly slipped out of the spotlight.
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Those of you who couldn’t raise your hands may be remembering the stress of ﬁnding the perfect gift, the hassle because you waited until the last minute. You may be recalling your guilt over spending money you didn’t have on things you don’t remember and haven’t yet paid for.
If you don’t know what to give someone, ask this simple question: What matters to him or her? You have to know this person pretty well to know the answer to that question without inquiring. You almost have to be a detective. You have to pay attention, listen, and observe.
Let’s say your grandmother really loves animals. In fact, she volunteers at the shelter two days a week. She is passionate about animal rights. Donating twenty dollars in her name to the animal shelter would probably make her break down and cry. She would be touched that you cared enough to ﬁgure out what really matters to her.
Not every occasion requires a gift. Sometimes a card that you buy or make yourself in which you write a thoughtful sentiment is an excellent way to go. Caring enough to pick out the right card and then taking the time and effort to write in it can say “I care!” even better than a gift could.
If you’re looking for a unique gift—one that will have a great deal of meaning for both you and your recipient—I have an idea. It’s called “Journal in a Jar.”
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The idea is to assemble in a glass canning jar (or a box or other creative container) everything your recipient needs to write the story of his or her life: journal and pens, or fancy computer paper and a notebook. Possibly the most fun element of this gift is the year’s worth of specific questions that will act as daily idea starters for your recipient’s journal writing.
Questions like: Why was your name chosen for you? What was happening in the world when you were born? What is your personal secret to happiness? You can include as many questions or prompts as you like, however 365 insures a very complete journal that touches on all areas of a person’s life.
Once you’ve completed packaging the gift, you will want to add a tag or card that explains what this is and how the recipient will use it. Recipe for Your Life History. The purpose of this gift is to help you preserve a written account of your life. Instructions: Combine a generous slice of your life history, a dash of nostalgia, several cups of facts and feelings and [the number you come up with] deliciously interesting questions. Draw one slip of paper each day until all are gone. Paste or write the question at the top of a blank page. Fill in your answer. Enjoy the memories that celebrate something very important ... You!
Not just a great gift idea for parents and grandparents, this is an idea for kids, too. Kids will love: Draw a picture of your favorite pet or animal. Draw a picture of your favorite thing to do in the summertime. Draw a picture of your favorite place to go. Draw a picture of your favorite thing to do with Grandma or Grandpa.
For an older child or teen: Tell about your favorite pet—what kind of animal is it? When did you get him/her? Tell about your hardest day at school. What is your favorite band?
Adapt your questions and prompts so the result will be more detailed and the answers more complete and specific. Make it fun by including questions you know will make the person laugh because the answers are so hilarious. Add a nice blank journal with plenty of pages. Attach one or more nice pens.
To help you get going I have posted hundreds of questions and prompts for all age groups—as young as 5 and as old as 105 at my website, www.debtproofliving.com. Copy and paste these and add your own unique questions, too. Print, cut apart and drop them into the jar or other container.
Journal in a Jar is not a gift you can make on Christmas Eve. You need to get started now. And while you’re at it, make one for yourself. Your finished journal will be your life history and a legacy for your children.
Mary Hunt is an award-winning and bestselling author of Debt-Proof Your Christmas, 7 Money Rules for Life and Cheaper, Faster, Better (Jan. 2013). She is a sought-after motivational speaker who created a global platform that is making strides to help men and women battle the epidemic impact of consumer debt. She is founder and publisher of the interactive website Debt-Proof Living, which features financial tools, resources, and information for her online members.
From DEBT-PROOF YOUR CHRISTMAS by Mary Hunt. Reprinted courtesy of Revell, a division of Baker Publishing Group. Copyright © 2012 by Mary Hunt.
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