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    >> bethany smith is now joining us exclusively. bethany , good morning.

    >> good morning.

    >> you have a big smile on your face.

    >> i'm excited to be here.

    >> excited to have you here. i saw you watching that story with tears in your eyes. and also laughing. as well. it's just been barely three months. how are you doing?

    >> up and down. it's hard. but i have an amazing support system, and i have a lot of good memories, too.

    >> there is so much beauty in your story, as well. in addition to these memories. i can see you're still wearing the wedding ring .

    >> yep.

    >> do you -- tell us the story of how he proposed. because it was a surprise.

    >> it was a surprise. i -- one of the reasons -- he's still going through treatment at the time, and i had no focus on the idea of getting engaged at that point. it was one of those things we assumed we'd do it after the fact. so that was one of the reasons why he decided to propose while he was still kind of in treatment, because he knew it was the only way he would surprise me. and we took a trip to bend, central, oregon for the weekend and he said he was uncomfortable from the drive and needed to pull over. and i was like chemo patient, you know, whatever he needs, we can do. and he -- we were walking down by the water and he just dropped down to one knee and i dropped down to both knees, and freaked out a bit. but, it was -- it was a huge surprise and really special.

    >> you, at the time, had heard positive news that the prognosis might be good for ryan .

    >> his original prognosis was 100%.

    >> and you wanted to wait two years before you got married. why?

    >> i always told him i wanted to be engaged for two years because i wanted to be able to plan it for two years. but, when he proposed and he was, you know, still dealing with all the health stuff we pushed it back. we were thinking 2013 . just wait until he's healthy, recovered, and we could then start planning from there.

    >> you didn't get that time. and as time was running out, you realized you had to do something quickly. so you planned this in three days. how did you pull off such a beautiful wedding in so short a time?

    >> well, it wasn't just me. it was definitely a group effort, and you know, it really just came down to us deciding what was important to us for that day. and making those things happen. and trying to let go of the things that, you know, didn't necessarily need to be there.

    >> you've said looking back there was more love in that room than i had ever experienced in my life, and looking at these images we can see that love. so many people, 400,000 people, have read this story on today.com, and the responses have been just beautiful. so many people deeply moved. one commenting, i am singing and not in love and i'm still bawling my eyes out. it's nice to know the precious few who are so very lucky to fall in love like this. may he rest in peace and prayers to bethany for a happy and successful life. how do you respond to this, this, this reaction to the beauty of your relationship with ryan ?

    >> i mean, it's a bit overwhelming. but in a positive way. i think that it's good to know that it brings out the best in people just hearing something like that. i hope it would be a positive influence. i mean obviously we were dealt a very hard situation. but, seeing other people being inspired by it, i guess, could make it a little easier in a way.

    >> inspired by the strength of the two of you, and the depth of your love, and we're ought of time but i want to quickly ask that we take a photograph, show your parents, and also ryan 's parents, carrie and peter are here, and your parents susan and steve are also here and we recognize them from your wedding. congratulations to your family for the resilience and the beauty of the love you found with ryan

    >> thank you.

    >> thank you so much for

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updated 4/25/2012 10:39:22 AM ET 2012-04-25T14:39:22

The moving love story of the late Ryan Smith and his wife Bethany has touched people around the world, with 400,000 people reading the original story on TODAY.com and thousands more sharing it online. On Wednesday, Bethany Smith sat down with TODAY’s Ann Curry in an intimate interview in which she shared how she has been affected by the many people her story inspired, and to reveal how she’s doing just months after her husband died of cancer.

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It has been three months since Ryan, 24, lost his short but brutal battle with a rare cancer. His body was already shutting down when the couple, who had been together since college, tied the knot in a hasty but gorgeous wedding.

Six weeks after they were married, Ryan was gone.

Read the original story: At 24, he hadn’t long to live ... so they got married

Many memories
On Wednesday, Smith, who turned 25 last Wednesday, was still wearing her wedding ring as she told Ann Curry she’s been “up and down. It’s hard, but I have an amazing support system and a lot of good memories.”

Those good memories were well documented by the couple, and their home and wedding videos and photos of their trips together have been shared online. Hundreds of thousands of people have viewed the photos and spoken out in support, sharing words of love and hope.

Join in the Facebook conversation around the story

“It’s a bit overwhelming but in a positive way,” Smith said of the outpouring of emotion. “It’s good to know it brings out the best in people … I hoped it would be a positive influence.”

Ryan had proposed to Bethany during a car trip to visit their parents, Smith recounted. It came as a surprise: He was still going through treatment at the time, and Bethany said her focus wasn’t on the engagement, but supporting him through his treatment.

Image: Bethany and Ryan Smith on their wedding day
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Bethany and Ryan Smith's bittersweet love story hit a chord with TODAY.com readers.

“He decided to propose while he was still in treatment because he knew it was the only way he would surprise me,” Smith told Curry.

But due to Ryan’s failing health, the wedding date had to keep being pushed back, she explained: “When he proposed, he was still dealing with all the health stuff and we pushed it back, we were thinking 2013, wait until he was healthy, recovered, and we could then start planning from there.”

Video: Bethany Smith: ‘I have a lot of good memories’ (on this page)

Group effort
Before Ryan’s disease affected their lives, Bethany had told him that she wanted to be engaged for two years because she wanted that much time to plan it. In the end, they planned the wedding in just three days.

It was a group effort, Smith told Curry Wednesday: “It came down to us deciding what was important for us for that day and letting go of the things that didn’t necessarily have to be there.” In attendance were 32 guests, including both Bethany and Ryan's parents, who also joined her in Studio 1A on Wednesday, looking on as she shared her story on the air.

Slideshow: One month of marriage: ‘A gift no one can take away’ (on this page)

Though Smith has been overwhelmed by the reaction to her story, she says it’s inspiring that so many people have been moved.

“Obviously we were dealt a very hard situation,” she told Curry. “But seeing other people being inspired by it I guess can make it a little easier in a way.”

Video: Watch a montage of their courtship, wedding

Their story has touched the hearts of many, including TODAY.com’s Facebook community. Some 33,000 people have recommended the story to their friends. Hundreds have left comments praising the couple for their bravery and courage.

To read the original story click here. Join the conversation on Facebook. To see more photos from Bethany and Ryan’s wedding, view this slideshow on TODAY.com, visit this post on the wedding website Snippet & Ink, or visit Bethany and Ryan’s wedding website.

To watch a moving video montage of Ryan Smith’s life that was shown at his memorial service, click here.

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Photos: One month of marriage: ‘A gift no one can take away’

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  1. Getting ready

    Bethany and Ryan Smith had to plan their Dec. 11, 2011 wedding in just three days’ time after Ryan's doctors discontinued his cancer treatments. Here are images from their wedding day.

    Bethany has her hair done by Jennifer Siefried from Salon Essenza in Bend, Ore. Bethany's mother, Sue Schmidt, watches in the background. (Kubota Photo-Design) Back to slideshow navigation
  2. Wine and roses

    Rose petals form the aisle at Bethany and Ryan Smith's wedding in Bend, Ore. The couple opted to have guests stand instead of sit to make the event feel more intimate. (Kubota Photo-Design) Back to slideshow navigation
  3. 'So glad I met you'

    When they were dating, Bethany gave Ryan a one-year anniversary card bearing the message, “You will not believe how glad I am to have met you.” Bethany highlighted those words in this chalkboard display at their wedding and also incorporated them into her wedding vows. (Kubota Photo-Design) Back to slideshow navigation
  4. Helping hands

    Ariana Fernandez, co-owner and chef of Ariana Restaurant in Bend, Ore., helped Bethany and Ryan pull together their wedding at her restaurant in just three days. Here, Ariana's mother, Susan Asti, opens wine at the wedding reception. (Kubota Photo-Design) Back to slideshow navigation
  5. Personalized messages

    Bethany said she wanted to avoid a Christmas theme for the December wedding, but she found paper-monogrammed ornaments at Pottery Barn that made ideal wedding favors. "We picked out a letter for each guest’s first name and I wrote a personalized thank you on the back of each one," she wrote on the wedding website Snippet & Ink. "We hung them on a beautiful birch tree and the guests had to find their ornament during the evening." (Kevin Kubota / Kubota Photo-Design) Back to slideshow navigation
  6. 'All I wanted to see'

    "I remember walking in the door with my dad, having to turn a little corner, seeing so many people and just searching for Ryan. He was all I wanted to see," Bethany wrote. (Kubota Photo-Design) Back to slideshow navigation
  7. Their moment

    Bethany and Ryan planned their wedding as quickly as they did because they knew how little time they had left to get married. Ryan died of a rare form of cancer six weeks after the wedding. (Kubota Photo-Design) Back to slideshow navigation
  8. There for them

    Bethany's godfather, Wade Conrad, married Bethany and Ryan. He handled Ryan's memorial service just weeks later. (Kubota Photo-Design) Back to slideshow navigation
  9. 'More love in that room'

    “Looking back on it, there was more love in that room than I have ever experienced in my life,” Bethany Smith said about her wedding day. (Kubota Photo-Design) Back to slideshow navigation
  10. A family's love

    Ryan Smith receives a hug from his grandmother, Helen Zaraska. Ryan's father, Peter Smith, is pictured on the far left. (Kubota Photo-Design) Back to slideshow navigation
  11. A few quick photos

    Ryan was too sick to stay for the dinner and most of the wedding reception. Bethany and Ryan posed for a few photographs after the wedding ceremony, and then Ryan had to go lie down. (Kubota Photo-Design) Back to slideshow navigation
  12. Alone at her wedding reception

    This photo of Bethany was taken shortly after the conclusion of the wedding ceremony. "The plan was to take photos right away but Ryan actually went to the car with his dad to lie down for a minute," Bethany said. "I was waiting for him to come back in to take photos and just got really sad he wasn't feeling well." (Kubota Photo-Design) Back to slideshow navigation
  13. A special engagement

    Bethany and Ryan displayed their engagement photos at their wedding. The couple got engaged in July 2011 and had these photos taken in November. After undergoing intensive chemotherapies, "Ry wanted to wait until he had a little hair," Bethany explained. (Kubota Photo-Design) Back to slideshow navigation
  14. A precious gift

    “Although it was way too short, we were able to be married and celebrate our one-month anniversary, and that’s a gift no one can ever take away,” Bethany said.

    To watch a moving video montage of Ryan Smith’s life that was made by Bethany's brother Isaac Schmidt and shown at Ryan's memorial service, click here. To see a video Isaac made celebrating Bethany and Ryan’s relationship, click here. (Kevin Kubota / Kubota Photo-Design) Back to slideshow navigation
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