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    >>> what happens when it's time for your college reunion and where you thought you'd be in life doesn't actually measure up to where you are. in the new novel "the redbook," the author explores the lives of four former roommates from harvard as they come together 20 years after graduation. deborah, good morning to you.

    >> good morning.

    >> a lot of us facing our college reunions. may check out facebook to study up on our former colleagues. harvard does it a little differently. you've got what's known as the red book .

    >> this is the actual red book . my book is called "the red book " and it's a fictional version. this red book is essays, three to five paragraph essays that alumni write about their lives. and some of them gloss over things. some of them are brutally honest. you read, you know, my mother died, my child is sick, it's -- it's such a fascinating document that my husband, who didn't go to the same college as i did, grabbed it from me before i could even get to it, and he will read it cover to cover all night long.

    >> i guess there is a question about whether this is a book of fiction or nonfiction. you use this as the jumping-off point for your novel. four people facing their college reunion and it starts with what they wrote, or what their lives were actually, it's a little different.

    >> that's what's kind of interesting. is i actually thought about writing nonfiction first. but then i realized, people gloss over their lives. the real inner turmoil that we all have, and doubt and failures. that stuff doesn't get really written in there. so what i wanted to do was play with the idea of the actual entry that we write about our lives, and then the lives themselves. and so there's a kind of interplay between the fiction and the nonfiction. in fact, in this case, fiction happens to be truer than the nonfiction.

    >> i guess you have some personal experience. you wrote your entry for the red book and then your life just happened to change between the time you wrote it and when you actually went to the reunion.

    >> absolutely. so i went to my reunion in 2008 , and everything was sort of hunky dori, my life was going along fine, as lives tend to do, and then right around the time that the recession hit my husband lost his job, my dad was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer , and we had to move. and if you talk to any psychologist about what are the three biggest stressors in life, you know, death of a parent, a job loss, a move, we had it all at the same time. and i thought, oh, my goodness, my life doesn't resemble a thing about what i'd written before.

    >> and speaking of your fictional character , lest we think because they went to harvard they've got it all made, your characters have faced some challenges themselves.

    >> harvard is just a setting. and, in fact, my characters are all living extremely ordinary lives . because, you know, it doesn't matter if you went to an ivy league college or state college , we all live our lives after college --

    >> and relationship traumas.

    >> and have relationship traumas and life just kicks you down every once in awhile. and that's what this book is about. it's about not the pretty picture that weigh paint of our lives. not the facebook profile. but the real stuff.

    >> and i understand you have your 25th reunion coming up?

    >> shhh.

    >> well, maybe --

    >> maybe it will be fodder for your next novel.

    >> hopefully.

    >> deborah, thank you for stopping by and telling us about the book. and it is called "the red book ." coming

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updated 4/3/2012 10:48:13 AM ET 2012-04-03T14:48:13

In her latest novel, Deborah Copaken Kogan chronicles the lives of four friends who lost touch reuniting for their 20th college reunion. How much do they really know about each other? Here's an excerpt.

Friday, June 5, 2009
Addison

It had simply never occurred to Addison that the Cambridge Police Department not only kept two-decade-old records of unpaid parking tickets, but that they also could then use the existence of her overdue fines, on the eve of her twentieth college reunion, to arrest her in front of Gunner and the kids. If such a scenario had struck her as even remotely possible, she’d be thinking twice about zooming through that red light on Memorial Drive.

But it hadn’t, so here we go.

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“Oh my god, look at these idiots,” she says, slamming her hand down hard on the horn of her blue and white 1963 VW Microbus, which she purchased online one night in a fit of kitsch nostalgia. Or that’s the story she tells friends when they ask what she was thinking buying a vehicle that takes weeks or even months to fix when it breaks down, for want of parts. “Take my advice: don’t ever go on eBay stoned,” she’ll say, whenever the conversation veers toward car ownership, online shopping, or adult pot use. “You’ll end up with a first generation off the master Cornell ’77 along with the friggin’ bus the dude drove to the show.”

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While the story is technically true, the impetus behind the purchase was much more about economic necessity, practicality, and appearances than Addison likes to admit. For one, she and Gunner couldn’t afford a new Prius. They refused, on ecological principle, to buy a used SUV, or rather they refused to be put in the position of being judged for owning an SUV. (While they loved the Earth as much as the next family, they weren’t above, strictly speaking, adding a supersize vehicle to its surface for the sake of convenience.) A cheap compact, with three kids and a rescued black Lab, was out of the question. And they couldn’t wrap their heads around the image of themselves at the helm of a minivan. To be a part of their close-knit circle of friends, all of whom had at least one toe dipped in the alternative art scene in Williamsburg, meant upholding a certain level of épater-le-bourgeois aesthetics. If a minivan or even a station wagon could have been done ironically, believe her, it would have.

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Traffic in front of the Microbus has halted, an admixture of the normal clogged arteries at the Charles River crossings during rush hour compounded by the arterial plaque of reunion weekend attendees, those thousands of additional vehicles that appear every June like clockwork, loaded up with alumni families and faded memories, the latter triggered out of dormancy by the sight of the crimson cupola of Dunster House or the golden dome of Adams House or the Eliot House clock tower, such that any one of the drivers blocking Addison’s path to Harvard Square might be thinking, as Addison is right now (catching a glimpse of the nondescript window on the sixth floor of that disaster of a modernist building that is Mather House), There, right there: That’s where I first f--ked her.

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No, that wasn’t a typo. Prior to marrying Gunner, Addison spent almost two years in a relationship with a woman. This, she likes to remind everyone, was before “Girls Gone Wild,” before the acronym LUG (“lesbian until graduation”) had even debuted in the Times, so she’d appreciate it if you wouldn’t accuse her of following a trend, okay?

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If anything, Addison has come to realize, thanks to a cut-rate Jungian who came highly recommended, Bennie was just one more way — like the roommates she wound up choosing — she’d been trying to shake off her pedigree, to prove to herself and to others that she had more depth and facets than her staid history and prep school diploma would suggest. Addison may have been one of the eighth generation of Hunts to matriculate from Harvard, but she would be the first not to heed the siren call of Wall Street. For one, she had no facility with numbers. For another, she’d seen what Wall Street had done to her father. He, too, had been enamored of the stroke of fresh Golden’s on canvas from the moment he could hold a paintbrush, but he’d tossed his wooden box of acrylics into the back of the closet of his Park Avenue duplex — where it gathered dust until Addison happened upon it one day during a game of hide-and-seek — because that’s what Hunts did: they subsumed themselves into their Brooks Brothers suits. The cirrhosis that killed him in his early fifties, when Addison was just a sophomore in college, was no act of god. It was an act, every glass-tinkling night, of desperation.

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Bennie was the first person in her life to make that suggestion. Out loud, at least, and to Addison’s face. And though both Bennie and her pronoun were aberrations in the arc of Addison’s sexual history, what the two had together — although Addison would only be able to understand this in retrospect, per the cut-rate Jungian — was love.

From The Red Book by Deborah Copaken Kogan. Copyright © 2012 Deborah Copaken Kogan. Published by Hyperion. Available wherever books are sold. All Rights Reserved.

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