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Former flame Ben Affleck, now happily married and a dad, tried to help Jennifer Lopez with her marriage.
updated 7/20/2011 9:50:29 AM ET 2011-07-20T13:50:29

Ben will always be in Jen's corner.

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Although Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck famously called off their engagement and 18-month romance in January 2004, the actor was happy to help as his ex's 7-year marriage to Marc Anthony was falling apart.

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Guadalupe Lopez, the singer-actress's mother (and plus-one at the July 9 BAFTA bash with the royals in Hollywood), sought Affleck's advice on July 12, multiple sources confirm in the new Us Weekly, out Wednesday. "Guadalupe reached out to Ben over email. She wanted advice for Jennifer," reveals a source.

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"She always liked and trusted him. [Ben] replied back on email, wished her well and offered what he could," the source says of Affleck, 38, now happily married to Jennifer Garner with two daughters. (Lopez, now 41, wed Latin crooner Anthony, 42, just months after she and Affleck split.)

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Three days after that secret email exchange with Affleck, Lopez and Anthony announced the end of their union in a joint statement. "It was a very bad marriage, and Jennifer got the courage to end things," an insider says, adding, "[Marc] was a terrible husband."

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At issue: Anthony's raging jealousy over Lopez's career, his compulsion to control everything from her business endeavors and even her famous wardrobe, and, according to multiple sources, at least one extra-marital affair in 2009.

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And despite her ultra-glamourous, ultra-confident persona in the public eye, Lopez "actually has low self-esteem," one pal explains. "And Marc really played into that insecurity. That's why she put up with his abuse for such a long time."

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For much more on the shocking split -- what's at stake, their money squabbles, who will get 3-year-old twins Max and Emme and whether she's ready to date again -- pick up the new Us Weekly.

Copyright 2012 Us Weekly

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  1. Life in 'The Town'

    "Mad Men" star Jon Hamm plays an FBI agent who's after a bank robber played by Ben Affleck in the 2010 thriller "The Town." The film is set in the Boston area, where Affleck grew up. (Warner Bros.) Back to slideshow navigation
  2. 'Town' residents

    Ben Affleck and co-stars Rebecca Hall, Jon Hamm and Jeremy Renner attend the premiere of "The Town" during the Venice Film Festival on Sept. 8, 2010, in Venice, Italy. (Vittorio Zunino Celotto / Getty Images) Back to slideshow navigation
  3. King of Boston

    Actor Ben Affleck waves to the crowd at the premiere of "The Town" at the Venice Film Festival on Sept. 8, 2010. (Pascal Le Segretain / Getty Images) Back to slideshow navigation
  4. One of the Guys

    Affleck presented actress Charlize Theron with the Decade of Hotness award at Spike TV's Guys Choice Awards on June 5, 2010, in Los Angeles. (Kevin Winter / Getty Images) Back to slideshow navigation
  5. Give peace a chance

    Affleck is a noted activist, and is seen here speaking during the Children Mending Hearts 3rd Annual "Peace Please" Gala held on April 16, 2010 in Los Angeles. Children Mending Hearts is an arts exchange program designed to give homeless kids and those less fortunate a voice. Kids in America and those in armed conflict zones around the world write letters and paint pictures for a global children’s book given to the President. (Alberto E. Rodriguez / Getty Images) Back to slideshow navigation
  6. With fame and wealth comes responsibility

    Affleck has earned acclaim for his acting, but hasn't forgotten to give back. He is the founder of the Eastern Congo Initiative, and works with community-based healthcare leaders and survivors of sexual violence in the African country. He is seen here meeting with community-based healthcare leaders and survivors of sexual violence at HEAL Africa on March 18, 2010 in Goma, Democratic Republic of Congo. (HEAL AFRICA via Getty Images) Back to slideshow navigation
  7. In a 'State'

    In 2009, Affleck played a congressman whose mistress has been found dead in the topical thriller "State of Play." Russell Crowe, right, portrayed a reporter investigating the case. (Glen Wilson / AP) Back to slideshow navigation
  8. Return to Congo

    Ben Affleck made his fourth trip to Congo in November 2008, part of his effort to help in the humanitarian crisis in the African nation. Here he visits a camp for displaced people. (Karel Prinsloo / AP) Back to slideshow navigation
  9. Heart in the right place

    Affleck was one of a number of celebrities who turned out for Children Mending Hearts, an event honoring the International Medical Corps, in Los Angeles in February 2009. (Matt Sayles / AP) Back to slideshow navigation
  10. Jen and Ben

    It was a different kind of "Bennifer" (the media's joint name for Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez when they were an item) when Affleck costarred with Jennifer Aniston in 2009's "He's Just Not That Into You." (Warner Brothers) Back to slideshow navigation
  11. Family man

    Affleck and Garner walk with their daughter Violet on Oct. 13 in New York. Violet Anne Affleck was born on Dec. 1, 2005. On January 6, 2009 they became proud parents of their second daughter, Seraphina Rose Elizabeth Affleck. (Marcel Thomas / FilmMagic) Back to slideshow navigation
  12. On the campaign trail

    One of the most politically active of Hollywood's celebrities, Affleck campaigned for Barack Obama during the 2008 presidential campaign. (Bizuayehu Tesfaye / AP) Back to slideshow navigation
  13. Behind the lens

    Affleck directs the new film "Gone Baby Gone," in 2007, which stars his brother Casey. Based on the Denis Lehane novel, it tells the story of two private investigators hunting for a 4-year-old girl. (Miramax) Back to slideshow navigation
  14. Back on track

    In 2006's "Hollywoodland," Affleck's poignant portrayal of "Superman" star George Reeves won over critics. Affleck's role as an actor who feels trapped in the limited way the public views him, seemed to echo his own troubles as half of "Bennifer." (Focus Features) Back to slideshow navigation
  15. Lump of coal

    Another year, another bomb. In 2004's "Surviving Christmas," Affleck played an obnoxious young millionaire who wants to buy the perfect family Christmas. James Gandolfini costarred. (DreamWorks) Back to slideshow navigation
  16. For the troops

    Affleck entertained the crew of the USS Enterprise warship, which was conducting missions in the Arabian Gulf in support of Operation Iraqi Freedom on Dec. 23, 2003. (Adam Jan / AFP - Getty Images) Back to slideshow navigation
  17. End of the road

    Affleck rides a horse carriage with Lopez during the filming of "Jersey Girl." After the disaster that was "Gigli," Lopez's role was trimmed down to almost a cameo. The couple split in 2004. (Arnaldo Magnani / Getty Images) Back to slideshow navigation
  18. Opposites attract

    Affleck met his future wife, Jennifer Garner, when he starred opposite her in 2003's "Daredevil." The movie, about a blind superhero, tanked, but Affleck would eventually marry Garner in 2005. (20th Century Fox) Back to slideshow navigation
  19. A new low

    Affleck starred opposite then-girlfriend Jennifer Lopez in 2003's "Gigli." The off-screen couple just couldn't create any on-screen chemistry in this stinker. (Columbia Pictures) Back to slideshow navigation
  20. Bombs away

    Affleck starred opposite Kate Beckinsale in 2001's big-screen bomb "Pearl Harbor." The movie told the story of the Japanese attack on Pearl Harbor that jolted the United States into World War II. (Touchstone Pictures) Back to slideshow navigation
  21. Doing his part

    Ben Affleck testified with Joe Kindregan, who suffers from the fatal disease ataxia-telangiectasia, on Capitol Hill before the Appropriations Subcommittee on Labor, Health & Human Services and Education on July 11, 2001. Affleck urged lawmakers and private citizens to support increased funding for National Institute of Health (NIH) research into Kindregan's fatal disease and other rare ailments. (Paul J. Richards / AFP - Getty Images) Back to slideshow navigation
  22. 'Room' service

    Set in the backwaters of New York's financial world, "Boiler Room" features Seth Davis (Giovanni Ribisi) stumbling upon a shady brokerage firm on Long Island that's making a killing in stock market sales. He sees it as his chance to shine. Affleck costars as Jim Young, one of the company's hot shots, in the 2000 film. (New Line Cinema) Back to slideshow navigation
  23. Serious turn

    Affleck starred as Buddy Amaral, a hot shot urban ad executive, who woos Abby Janello (Gwyneth Paltrow), a struggling single mom, in Don Roos' 2000 film "Bounce." (Miramax Films) Back to slideshow navigation
  24. Saving the world

    From left: Steve Buscemi, Will Patton, Bruce Willis, Michael Duncan, Affleck and Owen Wilson star in 1998's "Armageddon." An oil driller and his crew are hired to rocket to a gigantic asteroid and blow it up before it slams into Earth. (Buena Vista Pictures) Back to slideshow navigation
  25. 'Love' story

    Paltrow and Affleck celebrate their win for outstanding performance by a cast in a motion picture for "Shakespeare in Love" at the 5th Annual Screen Actors Guild Awards on March 7, 1999, in Los Angeles. (Jim Smeal / WireImage via Getty Images) Back to slideshow navigation
  26. All the world's his stage

    Affleck took a small part in then-girlfriend Gwyneth Paltrow's "Shakespeare in Love." He played popular actor Ned Alleyn, who was eager to star in William Shakespeare's new play. (Miramax) Back to slideshow navigation
  27. The 'Will' to succeed

    Damon and Affleck hold their best original screenplay Oscars for "Good Will Hunting." The film earned over $225 million worldwide. (AFP - Getty Images) Back to slideshow navigation
  28. Big break

    After struggling as actors, Ben Affleck and Matt Damon decided to make their own luck and wrote themselves plum roles in the 1997 film "Good Will Hunting," which was directed by Gus Van Sant. Damon played a math prodigy with personal issues, while Affleck costarred as the best friend who just wants him to fulfill his potential. (Miramax Films) Back to slideshow navigation
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