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    >>> just after announces their trial separation , david arquette opened up with surprising detail about his split with courtney cox .

    >> she may be a cougar now, but to most of us, she'll always be that neurotic friend.

    >> i have been waiting my whole life to be engaged and unlike some people, i only plan on doing this once.

    >> reporter: courtney cox 's real life relationship with david arquette was one of those hollywood marathons, 11 years and counting after they first met on the set of "scream."

    >> do you mind if i join you?

    >> not at all.

    >> reporter: arquette to the airwaves with this.

    >> we had not had sex at that time a month or so.

    >> reporter: just a day after the couple announced that they were separating to better understand themselves, arquette called into howard stern 's radio show to air some of their pillow talk . he was shockingly candid and he says the couple was on a break of sorts.

    >> i had sex with a girl once.

    >> so she's not your girlfriend?

    >> under the terms of the separation, i was allowed to meet other people.

    >> reporter: the other person is reported to be jasmine waltz. she was act ncused of punching lindsay lohan at one point.

    >> it wasn't a big surprise to people in hollywood that he might have been hooking up with this girl.

    >> reporter: will it matter in a possible divorce? most agree probably not.

    >> it very well could, but from a legal perspective, it has no play.

    >> reporter: courtney is allowed to play the field too?

    >> so she's free to see people too, that's what she wanted?

    >> the star said she wants to be just friends with her spouse. so there is a "friends" curse? the stars on that show only have about a 50/50 chance of living in wedded bliss. lisa and david just revealed he just got hitched to his long-time girlfriend months ago. as for courteney cox and david arquette both insist they're still friends. whether their break becomes permanent, still up in the air. lee cowan, nbc news, san francisco .

    >> indicate -- good morning to you both. so let me start with you, on monday they announce the trial separation , they ask the media to show them some respect. the next day david arquette is on the radio talking in very explicit detail about his life, sex life or lack thereof. were you surprised at how quickly he went public with this?

    >> very surprised, generally when you hear of a celebrity split, what you're expecting is the standard, please respect our privacy as we go through this difficult time. and there's usually quite a long period of silence before one or the other is willing to talk about what went wrong. and when they do talk about what went wrong, it's usually couched in very vague terms. for him to talk so soon and be so candid is unusual. talking about his other conquests, how it made him feel manly?

    >> what was his motivation for that?

    >> if you listen to the many, many thing he said during the stern broadcast. buried in there is he wanted to make it clear that he wasn't cheating. he seemed to want to explain this whole trial separation and he was free to see other people so he wants it known that he's not someone who cheated on his wife. that appears to be the impetus, but of course he wandered into many other topics.

    >> at one point when he's talking to howard stern , he says she initiated the breakup right after the anniversary of the 11 years of marriage and said that she didn't want to be his mother anymore.

    >> a lot of couples go through that, everything is going well, and it comes out that there was some rift around the parent and the child and the child happens to be the partner. and after a while, 11 years they have been together, she may have flipped the script and decided she just didn't want to play that role anymore. and that happens in a lot of cases. and quite frankly , if he'll call calling howward stern and he's airing this on radio --

    >> they had talked openly about getting married, counseling when they needed it, talked about their infertility problems prior to having their daughter cocoa, the fact that they have gone public in this way, does this damage any hope they night have had?

    >> they're talking about a trial separation , and trial separations can work, but they need to work on it. they've got to get the help they need and they have got to get down to the business of working through whatever the problems were so they can get to the are root of it. quite frankly with hollywood and all of this supposition swirling around them, it probably won't work.

    >> thank you very much for your perspective this morning.

Image: David Arquette, Courteney Cox
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David Arquette and Courteney Cox, shown in happier times, have separated after 11 years of marriage. Arquette told Howard Stern that Cox told him she "didn't want to be" his mother anymore.
updated 10/12/2010 1:28:11 PM ET 2010-10-12T17:28:11

A day after announcing that he and Courteney Coxare calling it quits after 11 years of marriage, David Arquette phoned Howard Stern's Sirius Satellite radio show Tuesday morning to set the record straight.

"It breaks my heart," he said of their decision to separate, adding that he is "not the one that called this [separation] in order." "I've been begging Courteney to get back with me," he later added. "She's conflicted too."

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So what went wrong?

During the very candid conversation, Arquette, 39, implied that Cox, 46, grew tired of his kooky ways.

For their 11th wedding anniversary this past June, she bought him a motorcycle. "She said to me, 'I don't want to be your mother anymore,'" he recalled. "And I appreciated that about her ... She didn't want to tell me, 'Don't do that.' She didn't want to nag me anymore."

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Without elaborating, Arquette said that he had started doing things that would "embarrass" his wife publicly. (He recalled she once told him not to get any more tattoos.)

His kooky behavior probably seemed "charming" to her when they first met on the set of "Scream" in 1996, he said. "But that stuff starts getting old."

By the time they started filming "Scream 4" in Ann Arbor, Mich., this summer, he said he was "feeling distance." He said they hadn't been intimate "in a month or so." (His wife is "real and emotional ... She's an emotional woman and if it doesn't feel right, then she doesn't feel like bonding in that way," he said.)

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He said he remembers telling her, "'If you're not my mother anymore, I am going to be myself.'"

He said he found himself going out with the younger castmates and having fun. "She wants me to be who I am," he said of Cox. "She needs to make that decision if this is person she wants to spend her life with or not." Cox also has had "her issues," Arquette said. "She tries to take on everybody's problems. She's the mother to everyone. That's why she doesn't want to be the mother to me anymore."

He denied that anyone cheated.

He confirmed that he has gotten intimate with L.A. cocktail waitress Jasmine Waltz, but he stressed, "I am a single man" — and they are no longer together.

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As for reports this past spring that Cox was getting cozy with her "Cougar Town" costar Brian Van Holt, Arquette said he confronted her and she denied an affair.

"I do believe her ... I truly don't think she ever had an affair," he said, adding that if anything perhaps they formed an "emotional" bond.

Asked if she ordered the separation because she wanted to see other people, Arquette said, "Maybe. I don't know."

How is daughter Coco coping?

When they recently broke the news to her, they took her to the beach and had a picnic.

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He said they explained to her that "'we're grown-ups ... and grown-ups need to figure out their lives.'"

"'Are you guys getting divorced?'" he recalled her asking.

"'No, we're taking time off to know ... what we want out of our mate better,'" he remembered telling her.

Arquette wanted to stress that he and Cox are "still tight. I love her with all my heart and she loves me with all her heart ... We're trying to get real with each other, real with ourselves.

"I want her to be happy," he later said, "more than I want happiness for myself."

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