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While it’s Mel Gibson’s allegedly violent and racist rants against ex-girlfriend Oksana Grigorieva that made the rumor rounds lately, another woman maintains she had her own first-hand experience with the star’s bad behavior.
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updated 7/5/2010 7:22:59 PM ET 2010-07-05T23:22:59
TABLOID TIDBITS

While it’s Mel Gibson’s allegedly violent and racist rants against ex-girlfriend Oksana Grigorieva that made the rumor rounds lately, another woman maintains she had her own first-hand experience with the star’s bad behavior.

Adult film actress Violet Kowal, who claims she shared a brief romance with Gibson while he was seeing Grigorieva, told The Mirror that the actor-director seemed the perfect gentleman when they first met.

“At first he was charming,” Kowal revealed. “He was very complimentary and told me he was attracted to me. He came across as a single man. It was only later I realized he was seeing me behind Oksana’s back.”

Being the other woman while Gibson dated his — well, other other woman — wasn’t really a problem for Kowal. That is until things took a turn for the worst.

“At first he was always in a good mood, then I got to see his temper,” Kowal said. “It’s really scary — he can go from smiling one minute to furious the next for no reason at all.”

Then, on the same January day Grigorieva claims Gibson struck her, Kowal said she had her own unexpected falling out with the A-lister.

“(Mel) called me up from a blocked number so I wouldn’t know it was him,” Kowal recalled. “I picked up the call and he screamed at me ‘Listen you bitch, do you know who this is. Don’t f--- with me or I will make you suffer.’ Then he hung up. I was crying and shaking — terrified because he knew where I lived. I had no idea what he would do to me but I’d seen his temper before. I packed my stuff and left town for a few weeks.”

According to The Mirror, Gibson’s rep dismissed the allegations as “an absurd fabrication,” which is just what Team Mel told the National Enquirer when Kowal first discussed the relationship back in March.

Lady Gaga’s no romance rule
An all-work-and-no-romance attitude is no good for Lady Gaga, at least that’s what her former boyfriend Matthew Williams fears.

“Matthew feels that he'll always come second to her career,” an insider told Now magazine. “He's very much in love with her and wanted to marry her. He's begged her to slow down with work and take better care of herself, but she never listens.”

While Gaga, who reportedly parted ways with Williams in May, sees no need to slow down, she wouldn’t argue with her ex’s assessment that her career comes first.

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“My greatest sacrifice is love,” the pop sensation said in a quote published in the Daily Mail. “I've only ever been in love once, and I had to walk away because I had to put my career first. He wanted me to stay at home and be with him; I wanted to be out there trying to make it on stage. It was a huge lesson for me, but it's also a source of sadness. God gave me a gift with music, but if you have gifts you also have weaknesses. My weakness is not being able to make relationships work.”

But it’s a weakness Lady Gaga believes works to her advantage.

“I guess I always think my music is never going to roll over in bed one morning and tell me that it doesn't love me anymore,” Gaga said. “I have to believe the music is worth the sacrifice.”

Dish on the fly
Looking back on her relationship with embattled actress Lindsay Lohan, Samantha Ronson can’t say that it was worth all the hassle. “I love her as a human being,” Ronson told The Times. “I'm not gonna sit here and negate everything we had.” But ultimately the DJ admits “being with her was more of a headache than anything else.” ... During an interview with Britain’s “GMTV,” Robert Pattinson claimed he would “definitely” date a fan. In fact, the “Twilight Saga: Eclipse” star has already dated one extreme admirer. “She was more of a stalker than a fan,” Pattinson explained. “But I was in Spain and she was there and I thought ‘I am sick of seeing you stare at my window all the time’ so I asked her if she wanted to do something.” Now that kind of talk isn’t exactly going to discourage those eager teens that scare the heck out of co-star ( and more ) Kristen Stewart, is it?

Tabloid Tidbits is compiled by Ree Hines. Follow her on Twitter to gab about gossip at twitter.com/ReeHines.

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  1. Talk to the hand

    Jodie Foster directs Mel Gibson in the much-delayed film "The Beaver." Gibson is Walter Black, formerlly a successful toy executive and family man who now suffers from depression. No matter what he tries, Walter can't seem to get himself back on track ... until a beaver hand puppet enters his life. (Summit Entertainment) Back to slideshow navigation
  2. Ready to plead

    Gibson arrives at Airport Courthouse in Los Angeles on March 11, 2011. Prosecutors charged Gibson with misdemeanor battery after a lengthy investigation into a fight with his then-girlfriend Oksana Grigorieva. Gibson pleaded no contest to resolve the case and faced no jail time. (Mario Anzuoni / Reuters) Back to slideshow navigation
  3. Tough to hear

    At the height of her conflict with Gibson, Grigorieva released audio recordings through the website RadarOnline that captured Gibson raging against her. (Mikhail Metzel / AP) Back to slideshow navigation
  4. Short-lived romance

    After nearly 30 years of marriage to wife Robyn, Gibson left her for Grigorieva, who has a son from an earlier relationship with actor Timothy Dalton. Gibson and Grigorieva had a daughter, Lucia, on Oct. 30, 2009, but split up in April of 2010. (Jacques Brinon / AP) Back to slideshow navigation
  5. Will audiences come?

    Gibson, center, speaks on set during the filming of "Apocalypto" in 2006. This historical epic follows the decline of the Mayan civilization 600 years ago, just before Spanish invaders conquered Central America. The story revolves around one native who fights to save his culture from the outsiders. (Andrew Cooper / Icon Distribution via AP) Back to slideshow navigation
  6. After the rant

    Gibson had his police mug shot taken July 28, 2006, in Los Angeles after he was arrested for drunk driving. He was pulled over for speeding and had a blood alcohol reading of 0.12 percent, according to authorities. More notoriously, Gibson let loose an anti-Semitic tirade, blaming the Jewish people for all "the wars in the world." (Los Angeles County Sheriff's Dept.) Back to slideshow navigation
  7. 'Apocalypto' now

    Gibson pulls on his beard during a news conference held in Veracruz, Mexico, Friday, Oct. 28, 2005. Gibson announced the shooting of "Apocalypto," a film in which the dialogue is spoken in an obscure Mayan dialect. (David Hernandez / AP) Back to slideshow navigation
  8. Gibson's 'Passion'

    Gibson directs Jim Caviezel as Jesus on the set of Gibson's movie "The Passion of The Christ." The film was based on the last 12 hours in the life of Jesus Christ. The film grossed more than $370 million. Gibson was criticized by some for the film's perceived anti-Semitism. (Icon Prodictions via AP) Back to slideshow navigation
  9. Good soldier

    In "We Were Soldiers" (2002), Gibson played Lt. Colonel Hal Moore who, during the Vietnam War, had to lead his men into a small clearing where they were surrounded by 4,000 North Vietnamese soldiers. The ensuing battle was one of the most savage in U.S. history. (Getty Images) Back to slideshow navigation
  10. Man of the People

    Gibson accepts his trophies for favorite motion picture star in a drama and favorite motion picture actor during the People's Choice Awards in January, 2001. (Lucy Nicholson / AFP - Getty Images) Back to slideshow navigation
  11. Finding his inner female

    Gibson tried his hand at romantic comedy in "What Women Want" (2000). Nick (Gibson), a chauvinistic hot-shot advertising exec, has his life turned haywire when a fluke accident enables him to hear what women think. (Paramount Pictures) Back to slideshow navigation
  12. Seeking his son

    Gibson starred in 1996's "Ransom" as a multimillionaire whose young son (played by Brawley Nolte) is kidnapped for ransom. (Getty Images / Getty Images) Back to slideshow navigation
  13. Oscar winner

    Mel Gibson holds Oscars for best director and best picture for "Braveheart," at the Dorothy Chandler Pavilion in Los Angeles. Gibson shared the best picture award with producers Alan Ladd and Bruce Davey. (Jeff Haynes / AFP - Getty Images) Back to slideshow navigation
  14. Director and star

    In "Braveheart" (1995), Gibson played William Wallace, a Scottish rebel who leads an uprising against the cruel English ruler Edward the Longshanks (Patrick McGoohan), who wishes to inherit the crown of Scotland for himself. (AFP -Getty Images) Back to slideshow navigation
  15. No pretty-boy role

    In "The Man Without a Face" (1993), Gibson plays Justin McLeod, a former teacher whose face was disfigured in an automobile accident and fire who lives as a recluse. He is befriended by a young man named Chuck (Nick Stahl), which ignites suspicion and hostility from the townspeople. (Everett Collection) Back to slideshow navigation
  16. Sci-fi drama

    In "Forever Young" (1992), a 1939 test pilot asks his best friend to use him as a guinea pig for a cryogenics experiment. Daniel McCormick (Gibson) wants to be frozen for a year so that he doesn't have to watch his love lying in a coma. The next thing Daniel knows he's awoken in 1992. The film also features a very young Elijah Wood, right. (Everett Collection) Back to slideshow navigation
  17. Together for decades

    Gibson and wife Robyn attended the "Hamlet" premiere in Los Angeles on Dec. 18, 1990. Gibson married Robyn Moore in 1980 and they divorced in 2009. They have seven children together. (Barry King / WireImage.com) Back to slideshow navigation
  18. A mother's son

    In "Hamlet" (1990), Gibson took on Shakespeare's melancholy Danish prince. Directed by Franco Zeffirelli, the film also starred Glenn Close as Hamlet's mother Gertrude. In real life, Close is only nine years older than Gibson. (Everett Collection) Back to slideshow navigation
  19. Come fly with me

    Gibson and Robert Downey Jr. starred in 1990's "Air America," about two pilots during the Vietnam War who discover their planes are being used to smuggle heroin. () Back to slideshow navigation
  20. It takes a team

    "Lethal Weapon" (1987) is the first of a series of movies that were released in 1987, 1989, 1992, and 1998, all starring Gibson and Danny Glover as a mismatched pair of Los Angeles police officers. (Everett Collection) Back to slideshow navigation
  21. A tradition begins

    People's "Sexiest Man Alive" list began in 1985 with Mel Gibson. That year Gibson also starred in the final (at least for now, as there are talks of resurrecting the franchise) "Mad Max" film, "Beyond Thunderdome," opposite Tina Turner. (People) Back to slideshow navigation
  22. Early troubles

    In 1984, Gibson starred as Fletcher Christian in "The Bounty," the story of Captain Bligh (Anthony Hopkins), whose cruelty leads to a mutiny on his ship. According to Wikipedia, Gibson and Hopkins did not get along during the shoot. At the time, Hopkins was a teetotaler, and Gibson was struggling with alcoholism. Gibson took to mixing two shots of Scotch with his beer. He dubbed the concoction "Liquid Violence." (Everett Collection) Back to slideshow navigation
  23. Stunning early performance

    "Gallipoli" (1981) tells the story of a group of young Australian men who leave their various backgrounds behind and sign up to join the Australian and New Zealand Army Corps (ANZACs) in World War I. They each meet their fates against the Turkish army in the infamous battle. (Everett Collection) Back to slideshow navigation
  24. 'Mad' Mel

    In "Mad Max" (1979), an Australian dystopia of decaying order and violent highways, a police pursuit driver is drawn into a path of vengeance after a motorcycle gang targets him for the death of their former leader. (Everett Collection) Back to slideshow navigation
  25. Auspicious beginnings

    Gibson made his feature-film debut in "Summer City" (1976), a low-budget Australian teen drama that chronicles the exploits of a quartet of boys who leave Sydney and head out for a weekend of surfing and adventure. Unfortunately the fun takes a serious turn when they find themselves involved in a murder. (Platinum Disc) Back to slideshow navigation
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