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    MEREDITH VIEIRA, co-host: Back now at 8:10 with what has been a year full of drama, divorce and a little dancing mixed in for Kate Gosselin . And this Sunday she'll return to TLC for new adventures with her eight kids on "Kate Plus 8 ." Kate Gosselin , good morning to you.

    Ms. KATE GOSSELIN: Good morning.

    VIEIRA: We have had some chances over the past year to sit down and talk about all the things that have happened in your life, from separation, divorce, custody battles, new hairdo, new book, new reality show , the kids. Talk to me about what this year has been for you on an emotional level, the journey that you've traveled.

    Ms. GOSSELIN: This has definitely been a year. You know, there's been so much change, there's been so much unexpected things, obviously, that came our way. There's been so much good. I think the kids and I have had a chance really by this point to step back and really learn about ourselves and pull together as a unit. And, you know, we're getting there.

    VIEIRA: Yeah. You said at the start of 2010 that your life was in shambles.

    Ms. GOSSELIN: It really was. It was -- it was a year of 2009 , may be one that I'd prefer to erase if I could. 2010 was the marker for me that it was going to be a better year, and the shambles no more and we were moving forward. And so far I feel like we're in a good place.

    VIEIRA: And yet in April there was a little bit of a setback because Jon filed papers, he wanted full custody of the kids, the eight children. Where does that stand, Kate , at this point?

    Ms. GOSSELIN: At this point Jon has rescinded on that. He's dropped the custody battle. At this very moment things are peaceful. He's amicable at this moment. I never know when that's going to change. It's changes often. And so...

    VIEIRA: So you always in the back of your mind worry about that?

    Ms. GOSSELIN: I do.

    VIEIRA: Yeah.

    Ms. GOSSELIN: I worry every day where we're going to be. But at this very moment the kids are spending time with him at his apartment, and I feel like things are moving along the way they should in more of a normal, if you can call it that, divorce situation. And generally speaking, things are good at this moment.

    VIEIRA: September -- I'm sorry, June 12th would have been your 11th wedding anniversary. Is that going to be a hard day for you?

    Ms. GOSSELIN: You know, I -- not really.

    VIEIRA: Yeah.

    Ms. GOSSELIN: To me, I feel like it's just another day in this year of positivity and moving forward. And I 'm not going to sit and spend really a whole lot of time thinking about what could have been, what would be. I'm going to plunge ahead, as is customary for me, just to move ahead and move on and think good thoughts.

    VIEIRA: I know that Jon has moved on in terms of his personal life . Just saw a picture of him with a new girlfriend and the kids. It looked like he was introducing her to the kids. Have you been able to move on?

    Ms. GOSSELIN: No. I don't feel like it's time. I feel like my kids need so much of me that I need to be there with them. And personally, I don't feel ready to move forward. At some point I'm sure that I will. But, you know, the kids even talk about it, they bring it up. They wonder, you know, am I going to get married again and all of those things? And I 'm open and I talk to them about it. But, you know, Jon 's decisions remain his decisions. And it's just for me to help the kids deal with it.

    VIEIRA: But, you know, there's an interesting moment...

    Ms. GOSSELIN: It's...

    VIEIRA: Oh, go ahead, finish your thought.

    Ms. GOSSELIN: Well, it -- you know, it's just hard. They come home and I have to discuss things with them that -- you know, they ask me questions where his girlfriends are concerned, and it's just a situation that I have to deal with with them.

    VIEIRA: But there is a moment in the special where you are -- you're at the upfronts for TLC , for the cable network, and promoting your new shows for now and in the fall.

    Ms. GOSSELIN: Mm-hmm.

    VIEIRA: And you pass a bunch of girls that are in bridal gowns...

    Ms. GOSSELIN: Mm-hmm.

    VIEIRA: ...and you ask them for -- they're promoting another show, and you ask them if they're married. And when you -- when you -- they say no, you basically say, 'Keep it that way.' So are you jaded about marriage, ever marrying again, or was that just for the cameras?

    Ms. GOSSELIN: You know, I think whenever I meet a young girl now I think my challenge to them is be really sure. I got married very young. And I just want to be that person in their ear saying, `Be really, really, really sure.' And what's the rush to get married young? That'll be my advice to my daughters. I'm already telling them 30 and beyond.

    VIEIRA: You wish you had made that choice now, in retrospect?

    Ms. GOSSELIN: I do. I do.

    VIEIRA: Yeah. Your show is coming back, but it's "Kate Plus 8 ." It's going to be a series of specials. Were you worried about exposing the kids again, or whether they'd want this to happen?

    Ms. GOSSELIN: I was not worried in the least. I was so glad to open the door and have our crew come in the door. And you'll see it in the special, how the kids -- I didn't tell them who was coming and I opened the door, and they screamed and shouted and attacked them. That, to them, is a very healthy, normal, and they were thrilled to get back on an airplane and go to Florida , and they can't wait to see what we have coming this summer. And I am very happy that I was able to put that back in their lives. And there's nothing negative about it.

    VIEIRA: Did it help -- you're saying it was almost providing a rock for the kids. Same for you, as well?

    Ms. GOSSELIN: Yes. I love our crew. The cameras are off and -- the cameras are on and I love them, the cameras are off and they're helping me around the house. And my crew is an all-man crew, and they know I have a list for them when they come. `Can you move this heavy box here? Can you do that?' And they can't help me enough. And for that, they're family. They are absolute family. Some of our production assistants come and babysit my kids sometimes even. And it's family. It was putting back something that was positive from 2009 back into 2010 , and I can't say enough.

    VIEIRA: I got to let you go. But very quickly, there is a scene in the special where you break down crying when you're talking about the transition you're making from being a stay-at-home mom to now a career mom, working mom and also a celebrity, for better or worse .

    Ms. GOSSELIN: It's -- you know, it's hard to say goodbye to those quiet, peaceful moments of years ago. But I'm a mom who has to have a career and a job, and all moms have bittersweet feelings about that. And it's just about walking through it and dealing with it. And, you know, whatever my kids need I'll do, and that's what moms do.

    VIEIRA: All right, Kate Gosselin , always a pleasure to see you.

    Ms. GOSSELIN: Thank you.

    VIEIRA: Thanks a lot. Good luck with the shows, too.

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updated 6/4/2010 11:12:54 AM ET 2010-06-04T15:12:54

One year after the divorce that launched a thousand headlines, Kate Gosselin finally has her TV show back and feels that life is good again. But unlike her ex-husband Jon, who has been showing off a new girlfriend, she has no intention of re-entering the marriage market.

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“I don’t feel like it’s time. I feel like my kids need so much of me, that I need to be there with them,” Gosselin told TODAY’s Meredith Vieira Friday in New York. “Personally I don’t feel ready to move forward.”

Indeed, if she had it to do all over again, Gosselin said, she would not have gotten married at the age of 24 back in 1999.

“Whenever I meet a young girl now, my challenge to them is to be really sure. I got married very young, and I just want to be that person in their ear saying, ‘Be really, really, really sure,’ ” Gosselin told Vieira.

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“What’s the rush to be married young? That would be my advice to my daughters,” she added. “I’m already telling them, ‘30 and beyond.’ ”

Even so, her kids wonder when and if Mommy will start dating and maybe get married again.

“They bring it up. They wonder, am I going to get married again and all those things. And I’m open and I talk to them about it,” Gosselin told Vieira.

2009: ‘A shambles’
It’s been a tumultuous year since Jon and Kate Gosselin sat down and faced the TLC cameras filming their reality show, “Jon and Kate Plus 8,” and announced that they were getting divorced. Their twins, Cara and Mady, were 8, and the sextuplets — Alexis, Aaden, Collin, Leah, Hannah and Joel — had just turned 5 on May 10.

The divorce was messy, replete with recriminations and lawyers and fights over money and the kids and everything else that people fight over when they break up a partnership that had been together 10 years.

For Kate, there was a new, best-selling book, a makeover, a highly publicized run on “Dancing With the Stars,” and now, a return to reality TV as the star of not one but three shows.

Returning Sunday on TLC after Jon dropped his legal objections is “Kate Plus 8,” followed by “Kate’s World,” a behind-the-scenes look at her daily life and visits by special guest personalities. Yet another TLC show, “Twist of Kate,” in which she spends each episode experiencing the life of someone else, has started filming, but won’t air until the fall.

Kate freely admits 2009, which she has called “a shambles,” was not a good year for her.

“The year 2009 was maybe one I’d prefer to erase if I could. 2010 was the marker for me that it was going to be a better year, the shambles no more, and we were moving forward. So far, I feel like we’re in a good place,” she told Vieira.

‘Just another day’
On June 11, she would have celebrated her 11th wedding anniversary. Last year, thoughts of such things reduced her to tears. This year, she said, the day has lost its emotional power.

“I feel like it’s just another day in this year of positivity and moving forward,” Gosselin said. “I’m not going to sit and spend a whole lot of time thinking about what could have been. I’m going to plunge ahead as is customary for me, just to move ahead, move on and think good thoughts.”

It’s a little easier to do that now that her volatile relationship with Jon has settled down. He has dropped a recent effort to get full custody of their eight children, and is apparently happy with new girlfriend, Ellen Ross.

“At this very moment, things are peaceful. He’s amicable at this moment. I never know when that’s going to change. It changes often,” Gosselin said. “But at this moment, the kids are spending time with him at his apartment, and I feel like things are moving along the way they should in more of a normal — if you can call it that — divorce situation.”

Crew like family
After both filed for divorce last year, Jon succeeded in a court battle to prohibit Kate from continuing their television show without him. When he finally dropped his objection, Kate invited the TLC crew back into her home in rural Pennsylvania. She didn’t tell her kids the crew was coming back, and when they showed up at the door, the children leaped on the cameramen, soundmen and technicians like long-lost friends.

“I am very happy that I was able to put that back into their lives,” she said of the film crew. “There’s nothing negative about it. I love our crew. The cameras are off and they’re helping me around my house. My crew is an all-man crew. They can’t help me enough. For that, they are family. They are absolute family. Some of the production assistants come and baby-sit the kids sometimes. It’s family.”

Their first big trip for “Kate Plus 8” was to Orlando, Fla., and all the theme parks. The kids are primed for more adventures, Gosselin said: “They can’t wait to see what we have coming this summer.”

It’s been a big transition, she added, to go from stay-at-home mom to working single mother.

“It’s hard to say goodbye to those quiet, peaceful moments of years ago. But I’m a mom who has to have a career and a job, and all moms have bittersweet feelings about that,” she said. “It’s just about walking through it and dealing with it. Whatever my kids need, I’ll do. That’s what moms do.”

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  1. CHICAGO, IL - JULY 22: Kate Gosselin takes part in the 2012 Rock 'n' Roll Chicago Half Marathon at Grant Park on July 22, 2012 in Chicago, Illinois. (Photo by Timothy Hiatt/Getty Images) (Timothy Hiatt / Getty Images Contributor) Back to slideshow navigation
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  3. Back to work

    Reality TV star Kate Gosselin has a new job -- working for a money-saving coupon website. She will be contributing blog posts to offer money-saving advice and shopping tips to CouponCabin.com. Gosselin is seen here on her first day at the new job, Nov. 11, 2011. (CouponCabin.com via Splash) Back to slideshow navigation
  4. Kate Gosselin and her eight children on "Kate Plus 8." (Clark Mccarthy-miller / TLC) Back to slideshow navigation
  5. A fresh start

    Gosselin appears on stage Thursday, April 8, 2010, in New York to introduce her new show "Twist of Kate." TLC said the show will revolve around Gosselin "meeting real families in the middle of their own extraordinary challenges." (Mary Altaffer / AP) Back to slideshow navigation
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  7. Showing a new side

    Gosselin, left, and her partner Tony Dovolani perform on "Dancing with the Stars," on Monday, March 29, 2010 in Los Angeles. In order to compete on the ABC show and spend as much time as possible with her kids, she built a dance studio in her basement of the family's Pa. home. (Adam Larkey / AP) Back to slideshow navigation
  8. Turning the page

    Gosselin is shown on the cover of her memoir, "I Just Want You to Know," which was released by Zondervan Books. In the book she opens up about her marriage to Jon Gosselin and talks about the pressures of motherhood and the hardships of stardom. On the TODAY show in New York on Tuesday, April 13, she told Meredith Vieira that she wanted to write it to give her kids "advice for the future." (AP) Back to slideshow navigation
  9. Lending a hand

    Jon Gosselin and girlfriend Morgan Christie attend the Sundance Film Festival in Park City, Utah, on Jan. 22, 2010. The two are shown visiting Resource's Sky Suite Lounge, where he participated in the Blanket America campaign to give blankets to poverty-stricken Americans. The couple reportedly split in March. (Jerritt Clark / WireImage) Back to slideshow navigation
  10. Time to pay up

    Jon Gosselin walks past reporters after he exited the Montgomery County courthouse in Norristown, Pa., on Oct. 13, 2009. In the court proceeding, Gosselin was ordered to repay $180,000 that he took from the joint account he shares with estranged wife Kate Gosselin. Kate and Jon's divorce was finalized in December 2009. (Matt Rourke / AP) Back to slideshow navigation
  11. Rough seas?

    Kate Gosselin and her children ride a ferry during an episode of TLC's "Jon & Kate PLus 8." The network shut down filming of the show on Oct. 1, 2009 after receiving a cease-and-desist order from Jon Gosselin. The reality dad told Larry King he had “an epiphany one day” and realized his 5-year-old sextuplets and 8-year-old twins shouldn’t be filmed at the family’s Pennsylvania home while their parents are going through a divorce. (TLC) Back to slideshow navigation
  12. Milestone moment

    Jon and Kate Gosselin help their sextuplets get ready to board a bus for their first day of school in Reading, Pa., on Friday, Aug. 28, 2009. The 5-year-olds -- Alexis, Hannah, Aaden, Collin, Leah and Joel -- are attending junior kindergarten three days a week. (Splash News) Back to slideshow navigation
  13. Kate's dudes

    Kate Gosselin sports a pink cowgirl hat while visiting a dude ranch in 2009 in Wyoming with Collin, Aaden and Joel. The boys rode horses, chased goats and were utterly fascinated by the ranch, musing that the horses looked like cows. (TLC) Back to slideshow navigation
  14. Reduced to tears

    Kate Gosselin dries her eyes during her interview on the TODAY show in New York on Monday, Aug. 10, 2009. Kate said her marriage to Jon would have failed whether it played out in the glare of a reality TV show or not. (Richard Drew / AP) Back to slideshow navigation
  15. Public affection

    Jon Gosselin and girlfriend Hailey Glassman are spotted together in Harriman State Park in New York on Monday, July 20, 2009. The two were hugging each other, holding hands and at one point Glassman put a flower behind Jon's ear. Glassman is the daughter of Harry Glassman, the doctor who performed Kate Gosselin's tummy tuck. (Splash News) Back to slideshow navigation
  16. Unwelcome spotlight

    Celebrity magazines featuring Kate Gosselin are seen on a table in Lotus Salon in Wernersville, Pa., on May 28, 2009. The Gosselins have attracted a huge television audience with their TLC program "Jon & Kate Plus 8." As news of marital trouble gained traction, so did the tabloid coverage. (Carolyn Kaster / AP) Back to slideshow navigation
  17. Seemingly happy family

    Jon and Kate Gosselin -- with twins Cara and Mady in center -- celebrate the fifth birthday of the sextuplets on May 17, 2009. Jon and Kate reportedly arrived separately. ''Marriages can crumble very easily. I'm not dumb," Kate said. "Ours has 500 times the stress of a normal marriage.'' (Michael Pilla / TLC via AP) Back to slideshow navigation
  18. Her reality

    A TLC camera crew shoots footage of one of the Gosselin children at the family's Reading, Pa., home. Pennsylvania's Labor Department opened an investigation in the summer of 2009 into whether "Jon & Kate Plus 8" is complying with state child labor laws. TLC said it "fully complies" with state laws and regulations. (Splash News) Back to slideshow navigation
  19. Eight is enough

    Kate Gosselin attends a signing for her books "Eight Little Faces" and "Multiple Bles8ings" at Barnes & Noble in Glendale, Calif., on April 14. (David Livingston / Getty Images) Back to slideshow navigation
  20. Ready for their closeup

    John and Kate Gosselin attend a Discovery Upfront presentation to promote their show in New York on April 23, 2008. Five seasons of the much-watched program follow the Gosselins through their daily lives and the challenges of raising multiple children. (Thos Robinson / Getty Images) Back to slideshow navigation
  21. Before the storm

    Jon and Kate Gosselin and their eight kids appear on the TODAY show in New York on Oct. 2, 2007. Almost two years later, with her marriage in pieces, Kate told Meredith Vieira, "I am as well as can be expected. I’m determined to hang in there. What life hands me, I’m going to do. My focus still is the health and well-being of my children as well as myself." (Heidi Gutman / NBC NewsWire) Back to slideshow navigation
  22. Aloha

    Jon and Kate Gosselin renewed their wedding vows in Maui, Hawaii, in August 2008. The couple originally married on June 12, 1999. On June 22, 2009, proceedings were initiated in Pennsylvania to end their 10-year marriage. The episode announcing their separation and divorce drew a record 10.6 million viewers to "Jon & Kate Plus 8." (Mark Arbeit / AP) Back to slideshow navigation
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