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    >>> to stay away from strangers.

    >>> back now at 7:45 with a closer look at child abductions. for parents everywhere, the discovery of somer thompson 's body is a painful reminder of the dangers children face every day. on monday, 7-year-old somer thompson vanished while walking home from school, and after days of searching, on thursday there was finally an announcement.

    >> i contacted somer's mother and gave her the grim and sad news that we had made an identification of the body.

    >> reporter: if somer's murder turns out to be a case of stranger abduction, she will join the sad list of children kidnapped when walking close to home , like the 2004 case of 11-year-oldie brucia in florida, who was seen on this surveillance video moments before she was abducted. her body was found in a church parking lot five days later. or the famous case of jacob wetterly in minnesota 20 years ago this month. the 11-year-old boy was riding his bike when he was kidnapped by a masked gunman. he was never seen again. for parents, teaching their children to beware of strangers can be extremely difficult. in 2002 , " dateline nbc " conducted their own investigation into child abductions with the help of child safety expert ken wooden.

    >> i've had guys in prison tell me, sometimes we take five seconds to grab a kid and get away from that block.

    >> reporter: with wooden's help, dateline staged their own child lures. in each case, parents had specifically warned their children not to talk to strangers.

    >> hey, buddy, i lost my dog, old billy. have you seen him? his name is old billy, okay?

    >> he went right up to the car and looked at the picture of the dog. he probably would have went up to the car and been grabbed. oh, my heart.

    >> here, honey. my wife had her pocketbook stolen. someone stole it. it's red. it has a lot of money in it and pictures of our grandchildren, and would you look for it? here, give it to your mom.

    >> if somebody gets very close like i did, take three giant steps backwards. if the car is facing this way, you run that way and you get help from mommy or daddy, okay?

    >> nbc analyst clint van zandt is a former fbi agent who worked closely with families of abducted children . clint , good morning to you.

    >> good morning, natalie.

    >> and when we talked to diena thompson this morning, obviously, this case still under investigation, but she said she made her daughter aware of stranger danger , but she couldn't emphasize enough how important that is to teach your children . so, let's give parents a list today, and there are three basic rules to teach your children . you say, first, do not get into any car unless your parents tell you to. and also, adults who need help should not be asking a child for help. the point here is, clint , is that an abductor is going to try everywhere, right, to get a child into the car with them?

    >> yeah. a predator or an abductor is kind of like a fisherman with multiple lures. they're going to keep trying until they can hook the child and carry them away.

    >> including telling kids, perhaps, secrets, and telling them not to tell their parents, and this is something also you say people should not ask you to keep a special secret. so, you tell your child -- you see this all the time. you know, adults will tell a child a secret and the kids will actually keep that secret. they're very trusting and honest in that way.

    >> well, they're used to doing it with their parents. keep a secret, don't tell somebody. and all of a sudden, it's don't tell adults. we as parents, grandparents, caregivers, we have to make sure there's an open line of communication and that our children know that if somebody asks them to tell a secret, if it doesn't feel right, they have to tell us.

    >> so you need to tell your children and make sure there is that line of communication. the next three rules are about staying safe coming and going from school, which is what happened, sadly to somer thompson . and you say an adult should wait with children at school bus stops. also, avoid shortcuts through woods, alleys, parks or where they could be alone. from your experience, clint , are these the places that are most likely where child abductions may occur?

    >> well, they are, natalie. these are kind of hunting grounds for predators. i've talked to them before as others in law enforcement . they look at bus stops as a target-rich environment. they look at cut-throughs that kids would use, one or two children just by themselves, cut through the woods. if you see a child do it monday, he or she is going to do it tuesday, wednesday or thursday, too, and you can just wait and get your hands on that child if you want to.

    >> and of course, the most important piece of advice, clint , is this -- if an abduction does happen, tell your child to yell, scream, fight and run from any potential abductor, and if a person tries to lure you into a vehicle, run in the opposite direction. grab a street light , traffic sign, trash can, mailbox, whatever you can to make sure you are heard. clint van zandt , thank you very much. we appreciate your time this morning.

    >> thank you.

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updated 10/23/2009 8:33:49 AM ET 2009-10-23T12:33:49

All parents want to keep their children safe. In the wake of the death of Somer Thompson, the 7-year-old Florida girl who vanished Monday on her mile-long walk home from school, many moms and dads are feeling more anxious than ever about how to protect their kids.

Clint Van Zandt, a former FBI profiler and hostage negotiator, has prepared these tips to help parents train their children to avoid dangerous situations and escape a kidnapper. Van Zandt also makes a free DVD, "Protecting Children from Predators," available at LiveSecure.org.

10 safety tips every child should know

  1. Do not get into any car unless your parents personally tell you to do so. Also, stay away from anyone who follows you on foot or in a car. You do not need and should not go near a car to talk to the people inside.
  2. Adults and other people who need help should not be asking a child for help; they should be asking other adults. Adults should not be asking you for directions or to look for a “lost puppy,” or telling you that your mother or father is in trouble and that they will take you to them.
  3. Quickly get away from anyone who tries to take you somewhere. Yell or scream, “This person is not my father (or mother).”
  4. You should use the “buddy system” and never go places alone. Always ask your parents’ permission to leave the yard/play area or to go over to someone’s home, and especially always ask permission before you go into someone’s home.
  5. Never, never hitchhike! Do not try to get a ride with people unless your parents have told you it’s OK to do so.
  6. People should not ask you to keep a special secret. If they do, tell your parents or teacher. Also, tell anyone who wants to take your picture, “No,” and quickly tell your parents or teacher.
  7. No one should touch you on the parts of the body covered by your bathing suit, nor should you touch anyone else in those areas. Your body is special and private.
  8. You can be assertive and you have the right to say “No” to someone, including adults and even relatives or friends who try to take you somewhere against your will, touch you or make you feel uncomfortable in ANY WAY.
  9. NOTE: Many parents use a special code word that only the child knows to convey a message should someone other than a parent ask a child to accompany them anywhere.
  10. THE YELL: Practice a “special” yell. It is low, loud and long. It tells the person trying to hurt the child, “I know what to do! I’m not an easy victim!” It tells everyone within the sound of the child’s voice, “I need help!” It gets the child going, it breaks the “spell.” A child should not panic and freeze, thereby becoming immobile in an emergency. When you yell you take a deep breath, thereby getting oxygen and energy to your brain and muscles. Your own yell can give you courage and get your feet moving when you need to run away!
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School bus stop safety issues

  1. Parents should ensure that if possible, an adult waits with children at school bus stops (not always possible with one-parent families or where both parents work), but something could be worked out with all parents of children at the bus stop to be there on a rotating basis.
  2. Know the path your child takes to and from home to the school bus stop.
  3. Tell your children to avoid short cuts through woods, alleys, parks, or other areas where they could be alone.
  4. Identify safe houses along the way that your child could run to or into for help if needed.
  5. Insure your child does not have his or her name on a backpack, etc., as this would enable a potential abductor to call out to the child by name.
  6. If children feels concerned for their safety, they should always tell their parents and the bus driver of any such concern.
  7. If approached on the way to or from the bus stop or at the bus stop, tell your parents, the bus driver and school officials.
  8. Report any suspicious vehicle. Write down the license number and provide it to school and law enforcement officials.
  9. Stand away from any vehicle that stops near the bus stop and do not allow yourself to come close to or enter the vehicle of someone you don't want to.
  10. Run from anyone displaying a weapon. Do this while throwing books, yelling and making as much noise as you can. Under no circumstances go with an abductor. Kick, bite, and no matter what the threat, do not go along with your kidnapper. Once he takes you away, your chances of survival greatly diminish.

How to escape a kidnapper — things every child should know

  1. Children should not to be afraid to tell their parents or a trusted adult or teacher if they feel threatened, even if someone has told them not to talk. If victimized, it is never their fault and never something they should be ashamed of or something that they hide from their parents or other caregivers. Tell your children you love them and that if they disappear, no matter what their kidnapper says, you will never stop loving them and you will never stop looking for them.
  2. Never to go with anyone you don't want to, and don't let someone take you away from where the potential kidnapper first approaches you. (This and Tip No. 3 below are the most important things a child can do to stop from becoming the victim of a kidnapper.)
  3. Yell, scream, fight and run from any potential abductor. No matter what the assailant says, make as much noise and attract as much attention as you can.
  4. If someone tries to lure you into a vehicle, run the opposite way the vehicle is facing, forcing the kidnapper to turn around to chase the child.
  5. Run to your home, a neighbor's home, into a store or other public place yelling that someone is trying to kidnap them.
  6. If on your bike, grip the bike. The kidnapper can't get both you and your bike into a car. If you're on the street and you can't run, grab a street light, traffic sign, trash can, mail box or other fixed object while yelling for help.
  7. If the kidnapper points a gun at you, run anyway. Most kidnappers don't want to attract attention by firing a gun and they probably couldn't hit you anyway. It's better to be wounded and left to get help from others then to go off with a kidnapper.
  8. If grabbed, twist your body and scream, "This is not my dad (or my mom)!"
  9. If your assailant grabs you by your coat or backpack, twist out of his grip, leaving him with the coat or backpack as you run and scream toward another nearby adult. Attract the attention of this adult by grabbing and holding on to him or her.
  10. If forced into the front seat of a four-door car or van, immediately jump into the back seat, open the rear door and escape. (Don't put on a seatbelt as this will obviously slow your escape time.)
  11. If placed in the trunk of a car, look for the emergency trunk release lever and pull it and escape. If you can't find this, pull out the wires to the tail lights on both sides of the trunk, thereby attracting attention to the vehicle when the stop lights don't work. (Parents, tell police that your child knows how to do this; therefore, the police will be looking for cars with malfunctioning tail lights.)
  12. Grab the keys from the kidnapper's car and throw them out the window.
  13. If in traffic, step on the accelerator and make the car crash into the car in front of it.
  14. Honk the horn and try to force the kidnapper to wreck the car.
  15. Do not eat or drink anything your kidnapper gives to you. (It may be drugged.)
  16. If your kidnapper takes you into a store, knock things down, break bottles, yell and scream that you have been kidnapped.
  17. If you're held in a house, flash the lights on the front porch off and on. If in an upper apartment, flood the bathroom to cause water to flood the apartment below.
  18. Never stop trying to escape and always take the opportunity to use a phone to call 911 and ask for help.
  19. Parents, discuss and practice these things with your children. While doing everything we can to prevent our children from becoming the victim of a kidnapper, we need also equip them with the above information to help them escape should they be taken by an assailant. Information is key and can save the life of your child.
  20. As Winston Churchill once said, “Never, never, never, never give up.”

For a free copy of Clint Van Zandt's DVD, "Protecting Children from Predators," visit LiveSecure.org.


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