Think it'll take 21 days to make your resolution a habit? Try tripling that
Whatever it is you’ve resolved to do in the new year — floss! Become an a.m. exerciser! Stop the late-night snacking! — the conventional wisdom is that it’ll take 21 days to make the new behavior a habit. Even Jay-Z and Beyonce believe it; it's what their December adventure in veganism was based on.
It would be really nice if on Jan. 21, after three faithful weeks of skipping dessert, the idealistic behavior became automatic. But scientists who study habit formation say it’s not that easy. There isn’t a magic number — and even if there were, it would be more like 66 days, according to one recent study, which means getting out of bed early to go for a run isn't going to come easy until March at the earliest.
On average, it took people 66 days for a new healthy habit to feel automatic — things like eating a piece of fruit with lunch, or drinking a glass of water after breakfast, found the 2010 UK study, led by University College London research psychologist Pippa Lally. The data was self-reported, which means there’s a chance the people weren’t totally accurate, or honest. And the time it took for the habit to form varied widely: For some people, the healthy habits felt automatic after just 18 days — for others, it took 254 days.
“So this does not mean it always takes 66 days, but it does mean that it is usually much longer than 21 days,” Lally said in an email to TODAY Health.
The “21 days to form a habit idea” seems to have come from a 1960 self-help book by cosmetic surgeon Dr. Maxwell Maltz, called “Psycho Cybernetics, A New Way to Get More Living Out of Life,” says Wendy Wood, a University of Southern California psychologist who studies the way habits guide our behavior. “He recommended that people practice self-affirmations and positive behaviors for 21 days to make them habitual,” Wood says. “He thought that it would take about 21 days of practice for an old mental image of ourselves to dissolve and a new one to ‘gel’ (in his words).”
In the decades since the book was published, the “21 days” idea has been repeated so often that it’s become accepted as fact. But to make a new habit, you're really asking your brain to learn a new behavior, and it takes more time to learn some tasks than others.
“To understand how silly it is to target a number like 21, consider the variety of behaviors that become habits,” Wood said in an email. “Some are complex, like keyboarding and reading, and these can take years of practice to develop proficiently. Others are quite simple, such as using a new coffee maker you got for the holiday.”
Forming a habit is simple — but that doesn't mean it's easy. Here's some advice and insight from the experts:
1. Time and place are key. Repeat the same action at the same time and the same place, until it becomes automatic. “So, if you practice going for a walk every evening when you get home from work, then after a while, when you enter your house, thoughts of going for a walk spring to mind,” Wood says. “Any evening, you can always decide not to go, but usually, given how tired and distracted we are, it’s easier to carry out the response in mind than to make a decision to do something else.”
2. Figure out your cue. Maybe you eat ice cream on the couch every night, and you'd really like to stop. Rather than trying to quit cold turkey, try to figure out what's triggering the ice cream. "It's being not just aware of the behavior, but understanding what things happen before that that might put your unconscious mind into that state where it's going to go to the refrigerator. Is it a particular television show, or a particular time of night?" says David Neal, a social psychologist who has studied habit formation and habit breaking. "In a way, the behavior is not the problem; the cue is the problem."
3. It's easier to form a new habit than break an old one. It's really hard to stop late-night snacking, but it's easier to replace that behavior with something else. David Neal suggests replacing it with another activity to occupying your hands: "Like knitting ... although, people don't knit anymore, do they?"
Bonus 2014 resolution idea: Take up knitting.