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Average woman falls in love twice — but you've 'got to kiss a few frogs' first: expert 

May 14, 2014 at 3:32 PM ET

Video: Psychotherapist Tiffanie Henry joins TODAY to sort out some key numbers when it comes to relationships.

Don’t worry, ladies, if you’re still looking through the lily pads: You really do need to kiss a few frogs before finding the right one. 

Psychotherapist Tiffanie Henry appeared Wednesday on TODAY to break down the numbers when it comes to personal relationships. 

The numbers for love? 

15-2-1
In other words, she said, the average woman will kiss 15 suitors, fall in love twice and settle down once.

“You got to kiss a few frogs,” she told Tamron Hall and Willie Geist. “You got to.”

But don’t beat yourself up if you don’t fall in love often, she said.

“I actually like it when women or men don’t fall in love with everybody that they date, everybody that they meet,” Henry said. “Then just know, you’re going to settle down with that one.”

A good place to meet a mate may be the office. 

31 
That's the percentage of office romances that lead to marriage, Henry said.

“We think office romances never work, and I tend to think that too,” she said.

The key to making it work is keeping the personal and professional worlds separate.

“The odds are actually really good,” Henry said. “They’re actually pretty good. But you’ve got to keep those two lines separate. Never bring your relationship stuff into work, and never bring the professional stuff home.”

There is one statistic, Henry said, that scares many women: 

80 
That's the percentage of women who will experience low sexual desire at some point in their life.

“This one freaks a lot of women out,” she said. But, she noted that it is over a woman’s lifespan, and there are many reasons why it can occur.

“It could be biological, it could be psychological, it could be social. It could be the relationship really isn’t good and that’s why you don’t want to have sex with your partner,” Henry said. “It could be a medical issue, medicines, depression. Don’t get so hung up on the 80. It’s actually very, very normal.”

When it comes to kids and talking about sex, Henry said she was surprised how high the number was. The percentage of parents who discussed sex with their children is:

82 
But, she said, talking about sex means different things to different people.

“Some parents will just say, ‘Be abstinent. Don’t do it.’ And that’s their talk. That’s the extent of their talk,” Henry said. “That can’t be the extent of their talk.”

Parents must explain the details. “It’s not enough to tell kids ‘Don’t do it,’” she said. “You’ve got to explain to them how to be abstinent, how to say ‘no.’”

“You really want to arm them with the information they need if they do happen to have sex earlier than you want them to,” Henry said.

Lisa A. Flam is a news and lifestyles reporter in New York. Follow her on Twitter.

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