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• I Am Not Lying About the Autism

  Published: July 26, 2007, 1:02 am

  Tags: Kids, Divorce, Denial, Autistic Spectrum, Children, Acceptance, Separation, Communication, Autism

  My ex phoned me from Boston today to talk to the kids. He started the conversation with a basic "How are you?" and then asked about the kids. It was a neutral conversation and moved along quickly as we talked about the day's activities--pre-school and art classes. But for some reason, when I said I needed to go because my autistic son was just

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• 5 Ways to be Civil

  Published: July 25, 2007, 12:55 am

  Tags: Divorce, Separated, Civility, Talking With Your Ex, Being Civil, Separation, Communication

  in the process of formal separation, I occasionally need to discuss things like property separation issues. Because this is a painful subject and usually leads to an argument, I plan how and where to have a discussion. This usually helps to at least get my foot in the door on a difficult conversation before the door is slammed on my foot.4.

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• A Small Exercise in Civility Goes a Long Way

  Published: July 25, 2007, 12:03 am

  Tags: Failed Marriage, Divorce Communication, Separated, Talking With Your Ex, Failed Relationship, Being Civil, Separation

  wanted to tell him that our separation means that I am not there for him and that he relinquished his rights to ask for help, but I bit my tongue. I spent a few minutes assisting him because I knew he had no else to help him . It is in these small instances that I can maintain some level of civility and prove that I am capable of being a

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• Having Trouble Dropping the Past

  Published: July 24, 2007, 2:19 am

  Tags: Divorced, Divorce, Facebook, Separated, Separation, Communication

  now seven months along in a separation from my ex and unlike being pregnant with a definitive due date, I just can't see the end of arguments about the past. Just today, I found out that my ex posted a picture of his girlfriend on Facebook. (She's a major reason for the separation.) In my humble opinion, this was just plain tacky. But aside

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• Top 5: Moving Beyond a Lost Relationship

  Published: May 11, 2007, 4:31 am

  Tags: Kids, Divorce, Failed Marriage, Failed Relationship, Separation, Survival

  Instead of going to bed one night, my now ex-husband started talking about wanting to be happy. He talked for a while and finally said he said he just wanted to be friends. He treated 15 years of marriage like a six month casual relationship. He just did not know how to cope with two babies under the age of three--one who is on the autistic

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• Six Degrees of Kevin Bacon: now a fashion statement

  Published: July 29, 2007, 2:38 pm

  Tags: Celebrity, Charity, Kevin Bacon, Kevinbacon, Six Degrees Of Separation, Sixdegrees Org, Sixdegreesofseparation, T Shirt

  Filed under: Celebrity Style, Do GoodEveryone's heard of Six Degrees of Kevin Bacon -- the game named after the famous actor who's been in so many movies that he can be connected to anyone in Hollywood in six moves or less. In response to the game, Bacon formed a charity, called SixDegrees.org. The idea is to raise money -- both by allowing site

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• Build a New Self. Do Not Let Rejection Rule.

  Published: July 30, 2007, 12:27 am

  Tags: Self Esteem, Leaving Spouse, Divorced, Separated, Reconciliation, Identity, Failed Relationship, Advice, Acceptance, Separation, Survival

  make my ex say he wanted a separation because there was no way he was going to come back years later and say I was the one who wanted a separation. I know this sounds hokey, but this happened to my friend's mother. I gave my ex a chance, but I do not think he wanted to reconcile. I gave my ex a chance and feel that separation was the right

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• A Time To Rediscover Yourself

  Published: July 31, 2007, 4:19 pm

  Tags: Self Help, Self Esteem, Empowerment, Goals, Finances, Divorce Communication, Single Mom, Failed Relationship, Advice, Acceptance, Separation, Relationship

  first few weeks of separation are a blurry memory. I got up in the mornings and got the kids off to their activities, but after that I was depressed and locked in my own twilight zone. Most of my conversation were centered around what my ex did to me or was doing to me--like going on vacation with his girlfriend even though we were newly

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• Domestic Partnerships and the Continuation of Maintenance

  Published: August 1, 2007, 1:12 pm

  Tags: Alimony, Civil Union, Cohabitation, Domestic Partnership, Maintenance, Post Divorce Issues, Separation Agreements, Settlement Agreements, Spousal Maintenance

  Postings in two divorce and family law blogs highlight a growing conflict between the states on how to deal with a parties continuing obligation to pay alimony or maintenance, as it called in New York, if the former spouse enters...

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• Domestic Partnerships and the Continuation of Maintenance

  Published: August 1, 2007, 1:12 pm

  Tags: Agreements, Alimony, Civil Union, Cohabitation, Domestic Partnership, Maintenance, Post Divorce Issues, Separation Agreements, Settlement Agreements, Spousal Maintenance

  Postings in two divorce and family law blogs highlight a growing conflict between the states on how to deal with a parties continuing obligation to pay alimony or maintenance, as it called in New York, if the former spouse enters...

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• I Don't Tolerate Girlfriends on the Side

  Published: August 1, 2007, 3:50 pm

  Tags: Lying, Leaving Spouse, Empowerment, Divorce, Separated, Reconciliation, Failed Relationship, Advice, Separation, Responsibility, Survival, Relationship

  In late 2006 when I found out that my ex had a girlfriend while still married to me, I told my ex that I would not compete for him. I gave an ultimatum of the girlfriend goes or I go. At first he tried to convince me the girlfriend was out. Then he told me he needed to check on her and make sure she was okay--telling me he would then only keep

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• Barack and a Hard Place

  Published: August 2, 2007, 4:04 pm

  Tags: Aclu, Church State, 1st Amendment, Homosexual Agenda, Americans United For Separation Of Church State

  Crossposted at Church and State The biased, pro-Democrat media have for the last two years increasingly churned out a diet accentuating the religious faith of Democratic presidential candidates for 2008. But the media can only report when faith is discussed. What happens when Democrats are among their base? Are the Democratic presidential

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• Blind and Happy in a One-sided Marriage? Never Again.

  Published: August 3, 2007, 2:50 am

  Tags: Self Help, Leaving Spouse, Divorced, Failed Marriage, Denial, Failed Relationship, Advice, Separation

  For years I spent time participating in a one-sided relationship definitely nota balanced relationship. I supported my ex while he was in grad school; Iworked all the time days, nights and weekends. I bought a second car ahatchback that my ex refused to drive, so I gave him my SUV. I did all thedomestic work, even when we entertained

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• There is something fundamentally wrong here.

  Published: August 4, 2007, 11:56 am

  Tags: Fisa, Alberto Gonzales, Domestic Spying, Wiretapping, Surveillance, Separation Of Powers

  The Congress is at the threshold of a major capitulation on FISA. There's no doubt that there are a lot of political (read: electoral) implications to this vote. We all know that. We've been through this fear mongering routine before, where the public is rattled by vague pronouncements about unspecified threats (or about whatever's going on in

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• Should I Keep in Touch with the Ex's Family?

  Published: August 6, 2007, 1:13 am

  Tags: Divorce, Former In Laws, Grandchildren, Everquest, Talking In Laws, In Laws, Separation

  any disagreement, including separation or divorce.4. I discuss my side of the separation, but I limit many of the hurtful details. I refuse to be overly diplomatic about my ex's behavior. He had the affair and left his family after all. But sometimes too many details accomplish nothing and are unnecessarily hurtful. For example, a friend of

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