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• A Small Exercise in Civility Goes a Long Way

  Published: July 25, 2007, 12:03 am

  Tags: Failed Marriage, Divorce Communication, Separated, Talking With Your Ex, Failed Relationship, Being Civil, Separation

  advice, I put money in my relationship bank account and now have a little credit for some future date where I may not be as civil. For example, when I need my ex to pay his share of a future medical expense for one of the kids and he says no way, I have some leverage to convince him to listen to me. A little civility reduces the risk of my

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• Top 5: Moving Beyond a Lost Relationship

  Published: May 11, 2007, 4:31 am

  Tags: Kids, Divorce, Failed Marriage, Failed Relationship, Separation, Survival

  my marriage was an emptry relationship. I grieved for many weeks over the loss of my marriage and feared being a lonely single mom with a special needs child. As painful as it was, I knew that the best decision was to start a new life. Listed below are my top five survival tips to moving beyond a failed relationship, especially if you have

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• Don't Ask Me Why the Relationship Failed

  Published: July 28, 2007, 12:31 am

  Tags: Liar, Failed Marriage, Denial, Everquest, Cheating, Failed Relationship, Advice, Responsibility

  close down a money pit of a failed business venture. Therefore, it was my fault that the marriage failed. I should not open the failed relationship can of worms because the response is always the same, but I can't believe my ex's denial. I don't understand how I could be blamed for putting babies first, especially an autistic child. I don't

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• Build a New Self. Do Not Let Rejection Rule.

  Published: July 30, 2007, 12:27 am

  Tags: Self Esteem, Leaving Spouse, Divorced, Separated, Reconciliation, Identity, Failed Relationship, Advice, Acceptance, Separation, Survival

  from not fixating on a failed relationship. Instead, I regularly took steps that eventually lead me to believing in a new self-image and future of possibilities.It's not be easy to take the first few steps back into the world without a significant other, but it is possible to create a new direction. Over time, accepting a new reality may

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• A Time To Rediscover Yourself

  Published: July 31, 2007, 4:19 pm

  Tags: Self Help, Self Esteem, Empowerment, Goals, Finances, Divorce Communication, Single Mom, Failed Relationship, Advice, Acceptance, Separation, Relationship

  that if you have multiple relationships, then you carry your experiences from one relationship to next. I have though about this advice and realized I do not want to relive the relationship with my ex. For this reason, I delayed going into other relationships until I knew what I wanted in my life and understood the behaviors I did not want

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• I Don't Tolerate Girlfriends on the Side

  Published: August 1, 2007, 3:50 pm

  Tags: Lying, Leaving Spouse, Empowerment, Divorce, Separated, Reconciliation, Failed Relationship, Advice, Separation, Responsibility, Survival, Relationship

  In late 2006 when I found out that my ex had a girlfriend while still married to me, I told my ex that I would not compete for him. I gave an ultimatum of the girlfriend goes or I go. At first he tried to convince me the girlfriend was out. Then he told me he needed to check on her and make sure she was okay--telling me he would then only keep

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• Blind and Happy in a One-sided Marriage? Never Again.

  Published: August 3, 2007, 2:50 am

  Tags: Self Help, Leaving Spouse, Divorced, Failed Marriage, Denial, Failed Relationship, Advice, Separation

  participating in a one-sided relationship definitely nota balanced relationship. I supported my ex while he was in grad school; Iworked all the time days, nights and weekends. I bought a second car ahatchback that my ex refused to drive, so I gave him my SUV. I did all thedomestic work, even when we entertained large groups of his

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• I Won't Rescue A Non-Existent Relationship

  Published: August 9, 2007, 11:09 pm

  Tags: Everquest, Reconciliation, Cheat, Separation, Divorced, Divorce, Denial, Failed Marriage, Liar, Separated, Cheating, Failed Relationship, Advice, Girlfriend, Responsibility

  assumptions. For examples, relationship advice makes sense if you believe you marriage is salvageable, but not if your choice is salvage yourself or salvage your relationship. Or it does not work if your relationship is simply non-existent. My choice was really that my marriage was non-existent, but the sad part of my story is that I had to

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• What to Do When the Ex Plans His New Next Life

  Published: August 11, 2007, 1:56 am

  Tags: Divorced, Divorce, Failed Marriage, Talking Your Ex, Cheating, Failed Relationship, Separation, Girlfriend, Relationship

  have been the one ending the relationship, then this may not be a difficult step. For the rest of us however who were caught off-guard, this event will take time. Sometimes, you can deal with this event simply by talking to friends or family. Other times, it may take talking to a counselor. I have even known some people who took a year off to

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• Excessive Flirting Is Not OK!

  Published: August 13, 2007, 1:37 am

  Tags: Divorced, Divorce, Failed Marriage, Separated, Failed Relationship, Separation, Flirting Cheating, Relationship

  this is one way to start a relationship based on emotional connection first followed by physical connection. Everyone has their own boundaries about flirting when in a relationship, but flirting should have some boundaries.Excessive flirting with others outside of a relationship can be hurtful. Why be in a relationship if the desire is to

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• What is infidenlity? A sign of rebellion? Cowardice? What?

  Published: August 9, 2007, 11:07 pm

  Tags: Infidelity, Divorce, Cheating, Failed Relationship, Separation, Affair, Relationship

  unhappiness because now our relationship is non-existent. There is no friendship left, and we were good friends for much of our marriage. There is nothing I have to offer him. I will not help him when he needs support. I have no sympathy for him when he's having a bad day. He does not have my ear when he needs advice. I hope other people

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• Ounce of happiness a ay to be happier the next

  Published: August 27, 2007, 12:58 am

  Tags: Self Esteem, Failed Marriage, Happiness, Starbucks, Failed Relationship

  I want out of life. My last relationship was not the end.Every person has a different experience of happiness and finding that source of happiness will make surviving a bad relationship go faster. Try focusing on small things that are easy to achieve. Some ideas to consider are:1. Go to dinner at a new restaurant. Use this as an opportunity

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• My Ex's Bittnerness Could Be Averted

  Published: August 29, 2007, 12:57 am

  Tags: Divorced, Divorce, Failed Marriage, Separated, Fail, Cheating, Failed Relationship, Flirting Cheating, Survival

  Today at the park my ex said he wasted the first 40 years of his life. How dare he. Living through one difficult period in life does not constitute 40 years of life experience. His parents are wonderful people who worked hard to give him a safe and happy upbringing. He went to top-rated universities for undergraduate and graduate school. He

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